Pillow talk is not forbidden, to most people, hearing what is going on in someone else’s bedroom, excites them, romantically and sexually. If you’re one of those people who likes to talk dirty, then that’s great. But there are words or phrases that can ruin the moment completely, and if you’re not careful, you can spoil the moment.
Here are 7 things that are best to kept to oneself. Or carefully expressed.
Are you tired?
During or even after sex, to ask a man if he is tired, will make him feel that he didn’t give it his all, or that you didn’t feel he was doing his best. If that’s how you feel, and it doesn’t happen too often, then it’s best left unsaid. We all have times when we are too tired or our performance is not what it could be.
Don’t make too much noise
The sounds a man makes when he is enjoying your time together, they’re very sensual (with obvious exceptions) and you may not want others to hear them, because of what they may think, or maybe you’re at your parent’s home or somewhere else where you don’t want them to know you’re having sex. Or questions firing at you in the heat of the moment of ‘what are you doing in there?’ Find an intimate space to truly enjoy the moment!
I need to shower
You may have been sweating heavily, or you may just enjoy a bath after sex, but if you share this, your man might be offended or feel bad. Change the sentence to “Would you like to share a shower?”
How much time do you need?
Rushing your partners orgasm will have the opposite affect, it will force it and cause them to loose their bodies natural rhythm . If you’re tired of doing the same position. Simply change it up or ask what they like, so you can excite your partner more.
We need to buy soap and toiled paper
Any comments that indicate that your mind is not focused entirely on sex is discouraging. What are you doing, thinking about the grocery list whilst he is trying to bring you to climax?
With more practice you will be perfect
Sex between couples gets better as time goes on, that is a fact, but this phrase implies that he is doing something wrong. That comment would make anyone feel bad. If you think that his technique needs improvement, you need to tell him “I wish you would go slower/faster etc.”
Did you enjoy it?
Although you might have good intentions, the selection of words are wrong and he’ll think you didn’t like it. Before hand, you should clarify that you’re satisfied and that you enjoyed it, after that, you could ask him “Did you like it?”
Criticism, albeit indirectly, during sex, can imply that you’re not having a good time. This can scare him and affect his performance.
The phrases listed above can really hurt if you’re not careful.
What is the worst thing you have said during sex?