Relationships are one of the biggest challenges of the day, no matter where you stand in the matter. Everyone wants love, everyone wants to be accepted, embraced and seen for who they are and nearly everyone believes that if it is not working out with someone, then the ‘other’ is somehow to blame. What if we took quantum mechanics and used it as a lens through which to look at relationship? How would that change things?
First of all we must look at relationship from the common, linear Newtonian perspective – the way we usually do – in order to contrast the ordinary perspective with the quantum one. In Newtonian physics, everything has a cause and an effect, one thing leads to another. An object will continue in the same direction (like linear time) unless acted upon by ‘another’ object. In quantum mechanics, this is simply not so. Things pop in and out of existence with no apparent cause and can change directions at any time for no reason. Quantum reality functions very differently from Newtonian reality. The funny thing is – we have been living in a quantum world long before we knew of it’s principles. We have been experiencing Newtonian laws, according to quantum mechanics, because we have observed and thus created them as such. In other words, we experience linearity, cause and effect and force creating change because we witness and interpret in this way.
It is an interesting speculation to note that we experience our bodies and relationships with Newtonian eyes even though our brains works in the quantum world. It is our thoughts that create our realities, so how is it that we are continuing to create from an old model of physics? Let’s look at relationships, knowing from this point, that until we have been able to successfully prove to ourselves that we have altered our experiences, we are simply testing the notion of quantum verses standard physics in relation to our interactions. Intimate relationships are the most intense and therefore, the easiest to measure change within.
If you view a relationship as progressing in ‘linear time’ then you will most likely have expectations and therefore disappointments when things do not evolve according to your liking. If, on the other hand, you view a relationship from the quantum perspective, knowing that anything could happen at any moment, you would be more likely to experience a freedom and detachment that could serve the moment currently playing out. In Newtonian physics, you might count on a person to continue their ‘development’ in a certain direction and judge them according to the distance they have trod. In a quantum world you would realize that anything could completely change spontaneously at any moment based on nothing more than the joy of experience, therefore life would be full of potential surprises and gifts of renewal.
In situations where we experience conflict, if we can recognize that the ‘other’ is simply an extension of our own observation, that we are in fact altering the outcome by our preconceived ideas, we might be better able to create the results of our desiring by being that which we might prefer. In other words, by proceeding through a disagreement in an inharmonious and linear way, expecting the other to ‘come around to our way of thinking’ we are actually helping to perpetuate, by quantum standards, that which we reject. In the linear way of thinking, it is believed (and perceived) that we and the ‘other’ are separate, with individual choices. Quantum mechanics would give us a very different interpretation of relationship. Instead of separation, there is unity, particles that were once together, though seemingly separated, forever are joined and dance as if they are one. Our choice of how to view the moment, affects the outcome of that moment in the quantum world. So whatever we assume is happening, is happening, if we perceive the fight, it is evidenced. If we perceive harmony, this too is confirmed.
How is it that we can experience anything different than the quantum reality if the quantum predominates? We can only experience what we choose to and what is agreed upon collectively (either silently or vocally) at any given time, even if the choice is beneath what is possible. We can, however, dominate the field with our awareness. If we know the quantum to be at work, and choose to perceive the miracles at hand, we most certainly will. If we can stand in the place out side of time, where we are at one with the object of our perception, the ‘relationship entity’, and act from a place of full responsibility of outcome – we will always be pleasantly surprised, because we are becoming empowered observers. Even if the next slide on the screen is something unexpected and possibly even less than dreamed, it will never seem as debased in the quantum viewpoint as it most certainly does from our ‘normal’ vantage point. Quantum mechanics gives us the tools by which to live a higher order of relationship and to release the dramas caused by slavery to linear time.
Quantum mechanics can transform relationships into something more fluid, forgiving and life enhancing, if we allow it to, if we choose to see the benefits of doing so. We live in a fluid field of possibilities altered only by choice and perspective. Let us elevate our experiences beyond a life lived on ‘default’ and merge into the possible reality where something new is possible, something evolutionary – in our world and in our relationships.
Written by: Stasia Bliss