Amanda Bynes makes the headlines again. Bynes is currently hospitalized on a 5150 hold after starting a small fire in the driveway of a random elderly person’s house Monday night according to TMZ. A 5150 hold is an application in writing stating the circumstances under which the person’s condition was called to the attention of the officer, member of the attending staff, or professional person, and stating that the officer, member of the attending staff, or professional person has probable cause to believe that the person is, as a result of mental disorder, a danger to others, or to himself or herself, or gravely disabled.” Simply stated it is an involuntary hospitalization for mental evaluation.
A few years ago Bynes declared her retirement from the acting world via Twitter. Here’s what she wrote: “I know 24 is a young age to retire but you heard it here first I’ve #retired. I don’t love acting anymore so I’ve stopped doing it. If I don’t love something anymore I stop doing it. Being an actress isn’t as fun as it may seem. I’ve never written the movies & tv shows I’ve been a part of I’ve only acted like the characters the producers or directors wanted me to play. I like black men I’m very attracted to them just fyi.”
This all comes after an interview with Bynes and Cosmopolitan Magazine. During the interview she stated that a cheating ex, an actor whom she declined to name, ended up breaking her heart. She was so devastated that after the split, she moved back in with her parents for two months. “I was so hurt,” she admits. “I’m a confident person, but it killed me.” Bynes was on the brink of a nervous breakdown. No one in her circle wanted to address this head on because it might infringe upon her celebrity status and effect any benefits they received by being connected to her. This, however, was the straw that broke the camel’s back.
We’ve all seen child stars rise and fall. When children are forced to process issues publicly it adds enormous pressure to what already exists. This is why is so dangerous for people to “blow up” before they’ve had the opportunity to “grow up.” Without the proper circle of accountability a downfall is inevitable.
There’s no question that one of the keys to a happy, fulfilled, and contented life is to make the decision, once and for all, to stop blaming others and circumstances for how a person feels. People’s emotions belong to them. Their happiness, depression, joy, sorrow, anger and any other that come to mind, are theirs. Like it or not, and for better or worse, people carry them around with them. The reality is they alone have the power to change them. That is not say that emotions are wrong, inappropriate or bad; just that they belong to the owner they must govern them.
Emotions are something that each person experiences; without exception. The key is not about experiencing them but managing them. In order to manage them properly one must change their beliefs concerning them. They must first understand that no outside force can control their emotions – that responsibility has been reserved for each individual!
People are not powerless victims being pushed around helplessly in the world like sand in the ocean. People decide, consciously or subconsciously, how to respond to any given person, situation or event. Sure, they might have decades of super-rigid patterning and belief-systems underlying their behavior, which makes them respond almost automatically to life, but these can be changed. Here are some principles that could have helped Bynes before she started this downward spiral and can now help anyone else on their journey.
Step out of denial: The first step in managing one’s emotions is to recognize that they are experiencing one and they have control over that experience. People have to be aware that an emotional outbreak is on the horizon and the control lies within with; most people are not. They simply act out of habit. Most times when people experience an emotion there is an automatic response that occurs without even being consciously aware. So before they know it, they are doing it again.
Recognize Power of Influence versus Control: People have difficulty understand this concept of responsibility for their emotions because they make no distinction between influence and control. Influence has the potential to impact, but it’s indirect. Control has a direct effect on a result. An experience may have the power to influence one’s emotions but never does it have the power to control their emotions – unless they relinquish it.
Understand Law of Cause and Effect: People generally understand cause and effect in the physical world. They push the shopping cart and it rolls. They drop a glass and it breaks. But cause and effect don’t translate very well into the emotional world. When discussing emotions with people, they inevitably bring up the time when someone upset them or pushed their buttons. When someone says something to another person, the words don’t have a trigger button directly wired into the receiver’s brain which switches on their “I’m upset” lever. They always have the power of choice.
Practicing emotional responsibility can be frightening at first, but it’s also liberating. Gradually, one will learn that they, not their circumstances, have control over their feelings. They soon realize that they are the only person who can make themselves feel better or worse.
People must take back the reins of responsibility and consequential control that come with ownership. Take that finger that’s been pointing at everyone else, and turn it back inwards; not in blame, guilt or judgment, but for growth and personal development. If Bynes had someone to look past her celebrity status and address the emotions she was experiencing perhaps she’d be in the spotlight for better reasons than the world has seen lately.
Law enforcement sources state that the fire department responded to the home in Thousand Oaks, CA around 9 PM, near the place Amanda was just accused of trespassing, after someone noticed the small blaze in the driveway. The sheriff’s department was subsequently called when Amanda was found standing near the campfire.
When sheriff’s deputies arrived, they questioned Amanda about what she was doing and why she was doing it. Based on her answers, they determined she needed to be hospitalized on a 5150 hold.
What began as hurt feelings has developed into a full blown nervous breakdown. Bynes has humiliated herself in the media for well over a year now. She needs a good long stay in a quality psychiatric institution that will identify and treat whatever imbalance, be it chemical or emotional, that’s causing this bizarre behavior. She can only be held on 5150 hold for 72 hours but what becomes of this visit will determine the next path for Amanda Bynes.
By: Cherese Jackson (Virginia)