Lindsay Lohan Leaves Rehab: Headed Straight to Therapy [Video]

The Importance of a Referee in the Game of Life

The Importance of a Referee In LifeLindsay Morgan Lohan, 27, has finished a court-ordered 90-day stay in rehab. The actress was smiling as she exited a California rehabilitation center. Lohan’s latest trip to rehab was opted for as an alternative to three months of jail time for two misdemeanor convictions and a shoplifting probation violation finding in March.

Prior to this stint of rehab Lohan told Piers Morgan that she’s been mandated by the court to go to rehab six times, with her previous stay occurring in 2010. “I could write the book on rehab,” Lohan told Morgan, although she said she approached this round with optimism. “I look at it as a good thing,” she said in May. “I can come back afterwards and be fully focused on work.”

Cliffside Malibu Treatment Center has written a letter to the judge stating that Lohan should have court-ordered therapy, in order to ensure her success with the program. “We feel that it is critical that Ms. Lohan have court ordered therapy, specifically three fifty-minute sessions a week for the next eighteen months,” the letter explains. “This should be done face to face while she is in town and via Skype or phone session is she is out of town.”

The letter went on to dictate exactly why they feel this recommendation is necessary. “Our entire clinical team is in unanimous agreement that if these sessions are not required by the court and attendance not verified once a month to ensure accountability, it is a set up for almost certain failure.”

Therapy will serve as a tool for direction and accountability for Lohan. Most will agree that these past few years have displayed the need for both. The use of a therapist is closely related to the use of a referee in an NFL game. Any sports fan or even casual watcher can understand the importance of referees for games; and anyone bent on being successful can see an even greater need for such in the game of life. Here are a few points to show why having professional ‘refs’ around to watch one’s back makes all the difference.

  • A ref’s first goal is to maintain safety in the game: Life can be dangerous; people need someone who is going to call a foul when things don’t look right. Having a person in life that can look at things that may cause someone an injury and knock them out of the game of life is a matter of life and death. One wrong hit by a relationship, job or family member can end a vibrant career.
  • Refs express themselves from a different vantage point: Everyone has blind spots. People miss things. The fact that one has a ref in their life to watch their back and alert them to things they didn’t see can save them time and money. While their head is down working away, the refs are looking at the game or life from a much better position.
  • Refs don’t quit because another hates the calls: Everyone has seen a crowd turn violent when a ref calls a foul they do not agree with. In all sports, refs have to develop thick skin when players and coaches berate them with profanity. But once a call is made, it is what it is. People need someone who won’t change their mind because they become angry with their calls.
  • A good ref will take the time to explain their actions: In the middle of the game some calls can seem questionable. A professional ref has the ability to explain exactly why they did what they did. People need someone dedicated not only to sharing advice, but being patient enough to talk them through what just happened. Many times, things happen so swiftly that the player misses it. That’s when a ref is invaluable.

Lohan’s lawyer, Shawn Holley, says the actress is doing amazing; Cliffside Malibu Treatment Center says, “in order to continue on the road called straight therapy is a must.”

Work is already waiting for Lohan. She has signed up to guest host E!’s “Chelsea Lately” on August 5, and her new movie, “The Canyons,” will open on Friday. She has also signed a deal to sit down with Oprah Winfrey for an exclusive interview that will tape and air in August, in addition to allowing OWN’s cameras to tape her post-rehab life for an eight-part documentary series slated to air in 2014.

Lohan’s father, Michael says, “I’m very, very proud of what she’s accomplished, how far she’s come and how seriously she’s taking her sobriety and her future.” As of now Lohan has finished her court-ordered 90-day stay in rehab and her next proof of completion court date is set for Nov. 6, 2014. Her next step, by her design, is to spend a few days with a sobriety coach to ease her transition.

As she prepares for the continuation her journey beginning with an 18 month therapy run one can only hope she allows the skill sets of a “ref” to help her see the game of life from the right perspective. Remember, life is less about what happens to a person and more about how they see it and what they learn in the process.

 

 

By: Cherese Jackson (Virginia)
Op-Ed

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