Long-distance relationship (LDR) has been unexplored for years with previous studies focusing on the problems with stress and jealousy. In a study done by Center for the Study of Long-Distance Relationships designed to observe what happens to the communication between couples in an LDR, it was found that long distance couples have, in fact, better relationship than geographical closer couples.
Recent study shows that, approximately 14 to 15 million people are in a long-distance relationship in the US with almost 5 million in a non-marital relationship. Up to 3 million married couples live apart; 25-50 percent of college students are in LDR, and about 75 percent of them have been engaged in one.
Long-distance relationship myth
The notion that most long-distance relationship fail is just a myth. Our culture emphasizes being together physically will make for a closer relationship, but LDRs (long-distance relationships) stand against these values. Of course, not all long-distance relationships survive, but they are not likely to end either. In fact, they try to communicate affection and intimacy harder than geographically close couples.
Although many people think, a separation may last 14 months on average, many relationships only last 4 to five months with 40 percent of the relationship ending in break-up, and 70 percent due to unplanned changes. This could be in part because couples worry about their partner’s likelihood to cheat.
How to make a long-distance relationship work
For ages, the long-distance relationship has plagued not only college students but people relocated for work. They were expected to fail because they were unexplored in previous studies, but with the recent paper published in the Journal of Communication, couples in a long-distance relationship have stronger bonds from deeper, and constant communication compared with the geographically closer relationships.
People in a long-distance relationship make their relationship work by finding ways to lead separate lives while staying focused on each other. When reunited, it is crucial to avoid unpleasant issues in the relationship no matter how tempting it is to avoid the discussion. Instead of idealizing the relationship in any way, it is valuable to see the relationship for what it is. It is also vital to set some ground rules for what can and cannot happen in the absence of your partner.
Enjoy your independence and continue to grow as individuals and feel empowered to go out with friends and yet stay committed in a relationship. You can still make your partner your whole life, whether you are together or apart from each other.
Keep the fire flaming
Spice up the long-distance loving by being creative to keep the fire flaming from a distance like composing erotic fantasies combined with creative fantasy. While it may be a little uncomfortable at first, practice makes it perfect.
It’s rough being apart, but instead of moaning about not seeing each other and focusing on the negative, ask what he’s up to and talk about interesting things you have been doing. Keep the faith and be happy with your life.
To get you started, here’s a cheery thought: while long-distance relationship’s failure was unexplored in the previous study, it is seen now as a misconception. Couples break up for a whole lot of reasons, and distance is not one of them. In fact, LDRs have the same levels of satisfaction, trust, commitment, and intimacy as geographically close couples.
It’s confirmed: Absence really does make the heart grow fonder.
Written by: Janet Grace Ortigas