A report Wednesday showed that the average cost of a wedding in the United States is more than half the average working person’s yearly income. Saying ‘I do’ will cost you $25,000.
Marriage counselors have known for years that the biggest problems for couples is money. How joint expenses are divided is the number one issue. The second issue is exacerbated when one is more ‘miserly’ than the other. So why would a young couple deeply in love and committed to each other decide to spend what could be a down payment on a home for an experience lasting less than a single day?
Weddings too often end up an appeasement for mothers and other family members. The pressure on the couple to satisfy the demands of those they love, often eliminates the joy of what should be one of the most important days of their lives.
Marriage statistics should frighten anyone from spending a small fortune on one day of a stage show, eating drinking and dancing. The average first marriage statistically lasts about eight years. That’s just over $3,000 dollars a year wasted on an expensive wedding.
Large, traditional style weddings are not only expensive, they are stressful and exhausting. Not a single couple who decides to have a large wedding ‘for the family,’ avoids a major pre-wedding fight.
Where to hold the wedding, where the reception will be, how many guests, the caterer, the band, the flowers, the colors, right down to what song will be played for the first dance, all become crucial issues and put stress where joy and love should be. And all of this must fit into a budget.
Marriage rates are a fluctuating statistic. Today, many young career women do not include marriage on their priority list. They simply choose to spend their time on their careers, or with friends and family, instead of devoting every spare moment to a husband, or wife, and eventually children.
The economy is a huge factor regarding the number of couples who choose marriage as a viable element in their lives. Less expendable income increases marriage statistics. And, sadly, even in difficult times expensive weddings are often the goal, superseding the union itself.
Marriage for the LGBT community should have been a right many years ago. They have set examples for love and unity for everyone. Finally given the right to marry, they are happy do have the legal action performed at a courthouse, or anywhere possible. They are marrying for love, and weddings are no more than a legal recognition of a life-long commitment.
The day of engagement should be the most important day in a couple’s life. That is the day they gave their love and loyalty to each other, freely. Weddings are merely the legal action required for future necessity and security.
Before any man or woman considers marriage, they should attend a ‘Wedding Fair.’ And be sure and take a calculator. It will take less than thirty minutes to add up the cost of ‘necessary’ items that will total $25,000. Decide ahead of ‘falling in love, if this is something you really want, and need. And stick to your guns.
Whether you be male or female, if a large wedding is the goal, the dream, go for it. But talk about it before the engagement. If one partner is adamant about having the grand spectacle, and the other is opposed, the marriage may never find success. It may very well be a portend to future decisions.
“I do” means you are willing to spend $25,000 for a family show.