Carrie is the perfect movie for every bully to see. Despite being 40 years old the message of the movie still rings clear. Every victim has a breaking point and sometimes instead of killing themselves they attack their aggressor.
Carrie isn’t just a movie about a girl with demonic powers; it’s a movie about a girl that’s fed up. She’s been bullied by her overly religious mother, the neighborhood kids and, having been sent to traditional school, is now bullied by her classmates.
Before Carrie reached high school age she had been home-schooled. This means she spent every day under the tutelage of her domineering, paranoid and deeply religious mother. Being ignorant of so many things outside of her home left Carrie victimized by a world she didn’t understand and one that didn’t understand her.
As the movie opens up we find Carrie’s mother, Margaret, in the process of giving birth. She is convinced that she’s dying of some divine retribution for sleeping with the Carrie’s father. Throughout the movie she lives life like an ongoing repentant constantly cutting and humiliating herself while torturing her daughter. She has found herself serving a God who she believes is full of wrath and void of kindness.
Due to her over the top paranoia of God and man she tries to bully Carrie into the lifestyle she’s adapted for herself. Bullying is the use of threat, coercion or force to intimidate or aggressively impose another’s will over their prey.
In light of several tragedies within the past few years bullying has become a high-profile issue. Too many people are losing their lives because of it. Bullying has somehow become a rite of passage for many. Kids that are bullied are more likely to be depressed and suicidal. Often they are found to use drugs or even carry weapons because of it.
Bullying actually does more harm than many onlookers realize; it hurts more than just one’s feelings. The psychological torment that the victim goes through is real. Many adults have been through some type of schoolyard cruelty and can still remember it as if it was yesterday.
Research has proven that bullying can leave an indelible imprint on the brain of each teenage victim. At this stage their brain is still developing. Being ostracized by their peers can throw their adolescent hormones even further out of whack. This can lead to reduced connectivity in the brain and interfere with the growth of new neurons.
People bully others for various reasons. I’d like to take a minute to discuss a few of them:
- Something is lacking in them: According to Maslow’s hierarchy of human needs man’s top priority is significance. The bully is looking for some type of significance and fear that they can’t gain it any other way so they go about trying to gain a sense of importance by dominating another; even at the risk of it being a false sense of entitlement. People who are whole and fulfilled don’t waste time trying to manipulate or control others.
- They see something they wish they were in the victim: The bully often recognizes there’s something missing in their life that they spot in another individual and become jealous. One of the biggest principles of envy that we don’t usually learn is jealousy it’s usually an indicator of where we should take action. Instead of taking action and working to strengthen one’s deficiencies the bully sits back and preys on others.
- They’re perpetuating a cycle: People who seek to hurt other people are generally victims of pain themselves. We’ve all heard the saying “hurt people hurt people.” It’s not just a phrase; instead it’s the reality of many people. What most don’t realize is it potentially creates more pain. It’s a vicious of deception that is perpetuated far too often; creating more pain and more hurt people. At some point people have to recognize the cycle and make a decision to get off the wheel and utilize one of the many services designed to provide healing and wholeness.
Far too often when people fall prey to being victimized by bullying they don’t seek vengeance; they seek escape. When they can’t find relief other ways, in hopes of creating their own sense of separation, they often take their own lives.
Carrie, like so many others, wanted to be accepted. Against all odds she tried to fit in. She finally found the courage to step up to her primary bully, her mother. She finally tells her mother, “I’m not like you mama.” Just as Carrie was becoming a young woman she discovered she had some type of unusual powers. All of a sudden the relationship between Margaret and her daughter shifted.
As Carrie gets fed up with all of the bullying in her life instantly the movie transitions into Carrie’s revenge. The prom was the culmination of an explosion of emotions for her. Driven by the rage that she’s felt all of her life she retaliates.
Carrie doesn’t take her own life; instead she handles those people who have caused her so much pain. Carrie answers her aggressors in a way that all bullies need to see.
By no means am I suggesting that victims take bullying into their own hands instead of reporting them to the powers that be. What I am saying is Carrie showed every bully what could happen when their victim gets fed up.
Carrie is the perfect movie for every bully to see. Every victim has a breaking point and sometimes instead of killing themselves they respond with measures that would make you think they were an alienated member of the X-Men team.
Carrie is showing in theaters now. It’s a movie that every bully should see.
By: Cherese Jackson (Virginia)