Studies reveal same-sex marriage adoption is healthy for children. Comparisons between same-sex and heterosexual couple adoptions showed no differences. Parenting regardless of gender preference in the eyes of a child is the same. A perk added to lesbian and gay adoption is they tend to have more harmonious homes according to research by Rachel H. Farr at the University of Amherst. As a result it was found children’s behavior issues decrease with same-sex parenting. Children react to the emotional temperament of their living environment; higher degrees of positivity are accepted by them as support. This effect undoubtedly would have an upswing effect on children’s health regardless of gender. Studies showing same gender homes lessening behavior issues is a testament in itself of an asset. Peace resonates higher on the scale for children than sexual orientation. UCLA research professor of psychology, Letitia Anne Peplau states, “There is no scientific basis to discriminate against gay and lesbian parents.” According to the Congressional Coalition on Adoption Institute (CCAI) in the U.S. alone there are nearly 401,000 children waiting to have a permanent home.
In 2007 at least 65,000 children were adopted by same-sex married parents and 14,100 foster children had a parent or parents that were gay or lesbian according to the UCLA Urban Institute and the Williams Institute. A study by Farr and Charlotte J. Patterson at the University of Virginia suggests gay and lesbian adoption may be breaking traditional stereotypes. Children are adaptive, being around parents who think and live outside the box are healthy for them.
As an example, gender roles and personalities do not always mix pleasantly. In straight relationships, the wife may not want to wash the dishes, wash clothes, or cook all the time. The husband may not always want to be the strong one, or work the hardest. If these concerns are not voiced, they hang in the air and children pick it up. In same-sex relationships responsibilities are accepted based on ability and not assumption. This creates an ease of duties that translates peacefully to a child.
Same gender partners tend to have an increased portrayal of balance with their parenting style; there is less competition and the responsibility roles are less defined said Farr. For children their experience is viewing nontraditional role sharing. With two mothers or two dads; who changes the diapers, washes clothes, fixes dinner and other duties are not predefined by societal expectations. Children growing up in a less assumptive atmosphere may naturally develop into adults who have a less biased outlook on life when it comes to gender categorizations.
Single gender parenting is not legal in every state; adoption needs are high across the country. As children age it becomes harder to place them in a home. Gay and lesbian couples adopt boundlessly, they tend to be less concerned with age, focusing their concern on having a child to love and care for. The Adoption Institute same-sex married couples adopt a larger amount of children over the age of 6, the ages that are normally hardest to place. All children want to live in a home where they are safe and loved, the gap is transparent, so is the ability to fill it.
Heterosexual, gay or lesbian couples can love or abuse a child. Considering the stigma connected to gay and lesbians in comparison to conducted research, the probability of negative issues occurring appears to be unlikely or equal to heterosexual adoption. When it comes to adoption it is either a couple or single parent situation. Two unmarried people living in a household having that opportunity is not very probable. In a perfect world there would not be so many children in need of placement. Unfortunately the issue is real and it is not likely to disappear without assistance.
The question here is what is the focus? The focus is our children. The CCAI and the ACLU state it can take up to three years many times for a child to get adopted, and with numbers like 401,000 children waiting it does not seem the transition is moving fast enough or ever completely emptying out. To have an issue with every single same-sex marriage couple adopting is like saying every single heterosexual couple that wants to adopt should be automatically eligible. Children are happiest living in a place they are proud to call home, happiness is a great fit for good health. Married same-sex couple adoption research shows their parenting is equal to married heterosexual parenting. In addition to being comparative to normal parenting, it is also found in many cases children’s adjustment phase is experienced with decreased disruptive behavior. The ability to discern is normally high with children, studies have not uncovered issues of discomfort in the homes. Add to that the scenario of a picture where healthy well-being is evident; proven once again by studies; then favor falls into remembering not to be judgmental and to see clearly an opportunity has arrived. Children are waiting to be adopted, same-sex married couples are available. In the words of the late Nelson Mandela, “Our human compassion binds us one to the other – not in pity or patronizingly, but as human beings who have learnt how to turn our common suffering into hope for the future.”
By Dada Ra