With all the negative bashing of each other lately, I am left wondering, is it really so hard to be nice? Looking at different trends on social media is leading me to believe that some believe that it must be hard to be nice.
Gwyneth Paltrow recently made a comment about how being a mom working a normal 9-5 job is easier than it is to be an actress and a mom. This ignited an open letter to Gwyneth Paltrow filled with sarcasm that was meant to show how stupid Gwyneth Paltrow was for making the comment, and how much harder it is to work a 9-5 job as a mother than be an actress as a mother.
Have either of these ladies ever walked in each other’s shoes? Does Gwyneth Paltrow really know what it’s like to work a 9-5 job as mom? Does the author of the letter know what it’s like to be an actress with a child? Nope. Should we really judge each other, even if we do know? No.
How does it feel to hear you have it easier than someone else? Not good when you feel like you are struggling. Does it help to tear down the person who made the comment in the first place? No, it doesn’t. It doesn’t make the struggle any better. Maybe you feel better for a minute expressing your frustration, but really, does that minute of feeling better justify hurting someone else? Is this easier than being nice? Really, is it that hard to be nice?
Another example of being mean occurred in an instant karma road rage video being passed around on social media. A woman was being tailed by a man in a truck, so she began recording him on her phone. As he passed her, he flipped her off. He then proceeded to swerve off of the road and into a ditch. The woman reacted by cackling and yelling “that’s what you get” out her window. I get it. For whatever reason, we get behind the wheel and turn into beasts doing things we normally wouldn’t do. This is insane behavior. No one is in the right here. Perhaps both drivers could have shown a little human compassion.
Or how about SELF magazine mocking a cancer survivor? The magazine put a picture of a cancer survivor running a marathon in a tutu in their “BS Meter” section. Thankfully, the magazine realized their error and decided to completely do away with the BS Meter, because really, is making fun of anyone, cancer survivor or not, okay? No, it’s not. At least SELF had the courage to say they were wrong, so they deserve kudos for that. It is hard to admit your mistakes.
Don’t we all have enough on our plates to worry about without adding to it the stress of tearing each other down? I am not suggesting that we allow others to insult us without consequences, I’m just asking for a little bit of decency. If someone upsets you, tell them, absolutely. But can you just tell them politely, please? Instead of writing a sarcastic letter tearing someone down, can’t you simply say, this offended me and here’s why?
Instead of laughing when a person who made you mad while driving crashes, maybe try not calling it karma and instead ask if they need help?
Where is our sense of community? Where is our sense of compassion? I challenge you to try something new, the next time you feel like letting go with an insult, try a compliment instead. See if it really is hard to be nice. You never know how much a little kindness can impact another, but you will know how much better you feel after making the conscious choice to react with kindness and dignity.
Editorial by Ashley Campbell