Online dating can be both exhilarating and terrifying. The ability to access hundreds of profiles in minutes can be exciting while being unsure of who is on the other side of the monitor is scary. Online dating can prove beneficial as long as one avoids these seven pitfalls.
Regardless of either emotion online dating is here to stay so skeptics need to embrace the trend. The more technologically advanced the world becomes the more online dating will be the norm. Online dating has really taken off in the last 10 years. There was a time when online dating was a secret and most people did not readily admit to doing it. Times have certainly changed, now people are not only admitting to dating online some people prefer it.
In order to be successful the pitfalls to avoid while online dating are:
Do not date exclusively online – Getting out and being social is very important in developing and sustaining social etiquette and there are still people meeting offline.
Do not believe everything – Reading a profile should be met with the same skepticism as reading a horoscope, wait for proof.
Do not wait too long before meeting in person-While it can be romantic at first communicating online and perhaps over the phone, do not rely solely on technology to sustain a relationship. Meeting in person should be done as soon as possible to see if the chemistry translates offline.
Do not pick profiles based solely on looks – While physical attraction is important do not use this as the only basis for picking someone. It is very easy for someone to misrepresent themselves online by either; photo-shopping a picture, using someone else’s picture, putting up a picture from 10 thin years ago or all of the above.
If it sounds too good to be true it is – If the profile reads, a young surgeon and aspiring actor millionaire looking for my average wife, it is probably too good to be true.
Pictures are worth a thousand words – Just like profile pictures may reveal potential deception pay attention to the other pictures on the profile as well, are all the pictures of the person drinking or partying perhaps this reveals something about the person’s character.
Do not take it too seriously – Meeting a Soul Mate through online dating should be taken lightly just as lightly as going out to a dinner with friends. The focus is on having dinner with friends although the potential to meet someone at the restaurant is there that is not the focus.
Online dating is a great tool out of many in an attempt to meet new people. It should not be the only tool used nor should the expectation of marriage be the only goal. The seven pitfalls of online dating prevent people from getting the most out of the resource. Like all things variety is the spice of life, so with that get out and date, meet friends of friends, join social clubs and date online there are so many options there is no reason to rely on just one. There is somebody for everybody they may or may not be online.
Opinion By Debra Pittman