A California woman named Debbie Rohr is sharing a home with her husband, twin teenage sons and her mother who is age 77. They all live in a very nice three-bedroom home in the city of Salinas, California. However the Rohr family is not taking care of Debbie’s mom. It is basically the opposite. Due to economic need, Debbie and her family had to move back home with her mother.
This all came about because Debbie seemed to have become persistently unemployed and her husband ended up losing his job in 2013. So at a time when the slow-moving economy had caused a torrent of jobless young adults to head back home, middle aged people have also been silently moving in with their parents at nearly twice the rate of their younger colleagues.
The ranch style home has a large kitchen which spans out to a lawn covered with rosebushes. The house may be unassertive but it is comfy, the type of home that Debbie, age 52, hoped she would own at this point in her own life.
For several years up through 2012, the number of residents of California who ranged in age from 50 to 64 that were living at their parents’ homes increased nearly 68 percent to around 195,000. This was according to the UCLA Center for Health Research.
This rise is almost exclusively due to the consequence of financial suffering caused by the recession instead of other reasons, such as taking care of older parents. It is an age group that one would believe that was pretty much financially established. These are people that should be thinking about retirement and their nest eggs. Yet all at once something happens and they are moving back into the homes they grew up in.
The gush in middle aged individuals having to move in with parents’ just shows the gray economic authenticity that has happened in the aftermath of the latest recession.
Older people suffer much more from long term unemployment. The number of Americans who were age 55 and older and had been out of work for over a year was around the 617,000 mark at the end of December, 2013. That was nearly a jump of five percent from the end of 2007 when the last recession first hit.
As it was with Debbie Rohr, those who are in their 50’s only move back with parents as a last resort. The majority have drained up all their life savings. Some might have jobs but just cannot handle the mounting rent rates in city regions like San Francisco and Los Angeles.
It does not matter what the reason, moving back in with parents causes an emotional bruising mental toll that only others who have went through it understand. It is an awful feeling for someone to have lost his or her own home and have to move back with parents. It is a drain on mental emotions and also physically it hurts as well. To see other people still have their own homes and to be living with a parent is a battle royal of emotion.
It is a very tough decision. People have to learn how to get back their economic health as well as they try and heal. It is an unexpected helplessness at a point in a person’s life that he or she does not expect. The table is turned on the individual and the rug is yanked out from under him or her. It also represents personal defeats and causes embarrassment. It makes a middle aged person feel like he or she have basically hit an unofficial marker of unmet goals in his or her life. They feel like they never believed they would end up where they are and that can be extremely hard to handle.
Debbie Rohr will continue to share her mother’s home with her own family for an indefinite period of time. The middle aged family do not know what else to do. Due to the economic need, they have no choice but to stay there.
By Kimberly Ruble