RHOA: Is Mama Joyce an Embarrassment to Motherhood?

RHOA's Joyce Jones continuously embarrassed Kandi this seasonThis past season of the Real Housewives of Atlanta (RHOA)  revolved heavily around Kandi’s mother, Joyce Jones. She has “affectionately” been known as Mama Joyce throughout her daughter’s tenure on the show. Joyce has always had a recurring role, however, this go round she has really shown out and nearly established herself to be an embarrassment to motherhood.

Mama Joyce continued her shenanigans as she appeared on part two of the reunion show. Social media blew up with posts and tweets centered on her behavior. Many people were asking whether or not she was high or drunk. Her behavior came across as sporadic among other things but definitely not as a seasoned mother who would know how to represent herself in a public setting.

On one episode during this past season the shoes literally came off as Mama Joyce tried to go head-to-head with Kandi’s friend and assistant Carmon. She took her shoe off in an attempt to hit Carmon with it because she was angered by her presence at the bridal shop.

While Kandi was in the fitting room Mama Joyce attacked Carmon verbally and when the assistant responded she got up and tried to attack her physically. Joyce yelled that Carmon should just leave and Carmon calmly replied, “I’m not going anywhere.” Kandi’s mother jumps up and yells, “This is a family thing and you ain’t family!” As Joyce continued with her childish rant she literally had to be restrained as she continued to shout, “Girl, I’m going to f*** you up.”

When Mama Joyce was questioned about her behavior, after Andy Cohen replayed several clips of her embarrassing antics, she stood by her actions as if she was auditioning for her own spin-off show. True to Kandi’s style she tried to defend her mother to a certain extent but it was extremely obvious that this mogul in the music industry was embarrassed. Kandi, to many of the viewers surprise, challenged some of the things her mother was saying while she arrogantly presented a false reality.

The RHOA reunion show would have been the perfect time for Mama Joyce to apologize for her wild and crazy behavior as well as be the example these women need. When a person blows it, they usually know it. As a person matures instead of making excuses they should use these moments as golden opportunities to expand their personal development. As opposed to the way this “mother” handled her chance to address the situation here are a few tips to help someone during these times:

Admit it: Nothing hinders personal growth like refusing to admit their error. Admitting a mistake is one of the most liberating experiences one can have. Had she admitted her foolish ways she would have taken the control back from the erroneous behavior while unleashing her own personal power to change.

Extract the lesson: The only wasted experience is the one that does not produce growth. Extracting the lesson is like performing an autopsy to diagnose the problem. One cannot “grow” forward until they understand the reason behind their behavior.

Share the wisdom: Once wisdom is gained from any experience it should be shared so others can benefit from it. Life really blossoms when people open up and share wisdom with those that look up to them. The true way to success is by empowering others.

Joyce has always disapproved of Kandi’s choice in men while on the RHOA reality show but this season she went above and beyond displaying her disdain. She furthered those actions as she joined the cast on part two of the Real Housewives of Atlanta reunion show. The truth is Kandi, like any of the other ladies, deserves to be happy and she should not have to waste time and energy defending her mother’s antics. Mama Joyce has not been a positive influence on RHOA this season; instead this woman been nothing shy of an embarrassment to motherhood.

Opinion By: Cherese Jackson (Virginia)


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30 Responses to "RHOA: Is Mama Joyce an Embarrassment to Motherhood?"

  1. Susan   November 16, 2014 at 5:34 pm

    She is mentally unstable

  2. zxtry   September 3, 2014 at 6:53 am

    She should NOT be allowed to come back! This show is not about her, though she would like it to be. She is reprehensible.

  3. shugarbaker@comcast.net   July 10, 2014 at 9:59 pm

    one of the worst people I’ve ever seen on a reality tv show

  4. Kathy Gould   June 10, 2014 at 4:09 pm

    The people in the streets are talking bad about Joyce now

  5. loops maya   May 18, 2014 at 2:20 pm

    I think Joyce is not scared to loose her daughter but her MONEY!! She said and I quote “I raised a millionare”! As a mother of two girls I would never say that. Instead I would say I raised a daughter that truly loves and respects me!!

  6. Susan Leone   May 2, 2014 at 1:58 pm

    Mama Joyce is so nasty. She needs to shut her mouth and be supportive of her daughter. I she had been my mother, would have left her forever.

  7. Sara James   April 30, 2014 at 8:13 pm

    Joyce is all about control, fame and money. She does not know how to love Kandi unconditionally, which is sad as Kandi truly loves her.

  8. rhoafan   April 30, 2014 at 11:14 am

    Does Mama Joyce not understand she’s being cruel and disrespectful to her own daughter with all these attacks and all these rude comments she makes to Todd and abt Todd?

  9. jdrummond45@yahoo.com   April 30, 2014 at 9:42 am

    It’s sad to see how this mother has manipulated and taken advantage of her daughter’s respect for her used it to control Kandi’s life for her own selfish purposes. If Todd had not come along Kandi would have become an old maid cathering to a selfish, controlling, jealous mother. How does it feel to have lost your goose.

  10. Marilyn Harris   April 29, 2014 at 11:49 am

    I know it’s hard for kandi to choose between todd and her mom because she loves them both,,, but ms. Joyce is scared to let kandi go,,It have always been ms.Joyce and kandi,,,Her son has past,,,and now kandi is getting married ,,,,those two kids are the most important parts in her life,,and to loose her son,,,and now she’s losing kandi ,,,it’s hard for ms. Joyce,,,But some point in your life ms. Joyce you have to let your child have happiness and support her,,,

  11. GS   April 29, 2014 at 11:08 am

    Mommy Joyce needs to get her own life and stay out of her daughters life she make hrrself look stupid. and she should be ashamed of herself.

  12. Mel   April 29, 2014 at 6:24 am

    How sad for Kandi that her mother acts like kandi owes her, her mother did what billions of mums have done all through out the world…a non profit job called parenting. She is an un grateful mother with no manners and clearly no respect nor does she have any boundarys and nor does she have any love and warmth towards kandi…instead you act like it is the me me me mama joyce show. Back off woman and let kandi love her man, enjoy and love her daughter and live her life to the fullest you mean old selfish lady.Kandi, your mum will not be happy until you end up old and lonely…misery loves company kandi! Be sure you break the cycle so you dont end up acting the same way towards your daughter.

  13. Schelita/Madea   April 29, 2014 at 5:32 am

    If this is the real Joyce and not a made for tv character, and Kandi really wants to give this marriage a chance, Kandi may need to either move away or limit and possibly forbid her mother from coming to her home. She can’t allow her mother to continue disrespecting her husband.

    Todd can only take so much. This is now this newly married couple’s marital home regardless of who bought it or who has the most money. Everyone or should I say, most people love their mother but there should be a boundary that no one is allowed to cross when it comes to your marriage… I’ve got more to say…

  14. Renee NJ   April 29, 2014 at 5:02 am

    It is ashame to see a mother act the way mama Joyce did. She should be happy for Kandi if she is happy with Todd! And for her to say she raised a millionaire while Todds mother raised a hundredaire is pathetic n ignorant! Mama Joyce raised a beautiful respectful daughter but she had nothing to do with Kandi becoming so successful! I hope to god they never give e mama Joyce a spin off show.

  15. Shalom   April 29, 2014 at 4:35 am

    nrs. Joyce needs to respect her daughters. Candy and Todd are adults.

  16. j   April 29, 2014 at 1:19 am

    A woman I have great respect for says ,pretty is as pretty does. You look amazing but your actions detract from you.
    You said that you lost respect for Todd.
    You are a strong woman I get that but you do not command respect.
    You come off like a bully and from the street.
    Watch any episode you are in.
    Sad for you and your family.
    Think Matriarch.

  17. keke   April 28, 2014 at 8:40 pm

    I love mama Joyce…but I must say she need to know she is wrong in a lot of ways. Kandi I feel sorry for u…my mother treated me the same way tell I had A talk with her and u should do the same..Best Of Luck.

  18. Anonymous   April 28, 2014 at 7:29 pm

    Trying not to disrespect an elderly person but wow… Mama Joyce is ridiculous. She acted like a total diva who took credit for all of Kandi’s success therefore she should be entitled to everything Kandi has. She bragged about her diamonds, her paid for house her money and not an ounce of gratitude towards her daughter who gave her those things.Yes, she worked hard to raise her children but guess what? THAT IS A PARENT’S JOB. You don’t raise your children with the expectation that they owe you. And taking complete credit for Kandi’s success? PLEASE. bad parents can also produce millionaire children so Kandi’s success is due mostly to Kandi’s hard work. Mama Joyce didn’t used to be like this at first but clearly, her TV time has gotten to her head. Stop using your granddaughter as an excuse to act irrational and selfish. A mother’s job is to elevate her child, not be the source of her pain.

  19. Jhawkkansas   April 28, 2014 at 5:52 pm

    Mama Joyce is sickening! !! How dare you take your daughter’s hard earned money and squander it gambling and the Home Network Channel and not feel remorse. Opening credit cards in your daughter’s name you need to hide forever. Never to show your face anywhere. I am a black woman proud to be a mother and proud of my children who are accomplished and self supportive and to watch Joyce is a shambles. Go away and stay silent and let your grown daughter live happy without your meddling. You need to be humbled your daughters talents are her own not yours to suck the life from. If you did not g r t the message I REPEAT GO AWAY!!!!!

  20. Martha   April 28, 2014 at 5:06 pm

    Mmmmm she is living kandis life and she can’t w even live her own life.

  21. Tina Wright   April 28, 2014 at 5:05 pm

    OK Kendi I though their might be a chance out there somewhere in your moms heart to relate to new beginning personally your mom See’s your husband as being in the way of your money and she’s not nor never will be done and she will sabatodge your relationship with every chance she gets kind I even if it means your happiness you should involve your dad..please don’t be mad at me …TinaWright..option she knows so long as your married Todd will be watching you guys money makes me want to cry And Iplan to pick up a mothers love this weekend iI’m sure its great

  22. g from columbus   April 28, 2014 at 4:53 pm

    G from Columbus gt a life mother Joyce the man too young for you

  23. bottomline.com   April 28, 2014 at 4:48 pm

    You people are awful. That’s still Kandi’s mother. Obviously she did an awesome job raising Kandi. No one is perfect, and I don’t think she needs to be held up to ridicule by the public. Try encouraging her , instead of trying to verbally bash and degrade her. I found her very comical and quick witted. So what if she wants to brag, she does it well. We can all be better. Don’t forget your mother on Mothers Day coming up in May. Be Blessed!!!!!

    • Wordsgood   April 29, 2014 at 2:29 pm

      Mama Joyce has raised a beuatiful, talented and highly successful daughter. Kudos to her for doing so. But there’s a point in time when parent have to – or at least in all decency should – let their children go be free to live their own lives. And the time for Kandi and her mother to cut the apron strings, so to speak, is already at least 15 years past. All offspring need and deserve a chance at their own vision of happiness. The chance to succeed or even fail, on their own.

      There is nothing wrong with Kandi choosing to financially support her Mom, or remaining close to her. But actively seeking to sabotage every romantic relationship she’s had, and to keep it up after her daughter is finally married to a man of HER choice, is selfish and wrong.

      She stands to do a lot of damage to several lives here, not just hers or even “just” Kandi’s. There is Kandi’s daughter, Todd and his child from a previous relationship.

      Mama Jocyce lost a son and for that I am deeply sorry. No parent should ever lose a child. It is a pain beyond imagining…but if she keeps this up, she will lose no matter the outcome.

      If she succeeds in driving Todd away, then Kandi – even if she maintained a relationship with her mother – and even if she never expresses it to her mother, the truth is that deep down Kandi will always resent her Mom. Maybe even, in some respect, hate her for it.

      I’m a bit older than Kandi, married 18 years and am a mother to two now grown, 28 year old foster daughters. We love them every bit as much as if they were ours by blood.

      There are certain members among my in-laws who have done their level best to break our marriage up. Until a about 8 years ago, they came very close to succeeding. My husband, minus the riches, and I were in the exact same position as Kandi and Todd. These particular in-laws were at him non-stop for so long, that when he was hit with a mostly unrelated – but very serious nervous breakdown for reasons they will never even know about (but of course blame me for) – then shortly into it, he was also stuck with serious physical health issues, as well. They pounced. Like vultures.

      Fortunately, my husband came to his sense and finally put up the personal boundaries that were missing long before we were even dating. That is my wish for Kandi. She needs to slam some personal boundaries firmly in place! For the sake of everyone.

      Mama Joyce is not really that old herself, if she could move on with her life… Be a loving and supportive mother and grandmother, without trying to control their lives, she may even cross paths with the love of HER LIFE!

      • Wordsgood   April 29, 2014 at 3:09 pm

        I included info about our kids but forgot to mention why. We did not “legally” foster our girls…meaning we didn’t go through the foster care system and as such, have no legal paper stating they are part if our family. And we never took a dime from anyone for their support.

        What we did do was get two troubled, very young teend off the street snd take them in with the full knowledge of their bio Moms (fathers were out of the picture). There is, of course, muce more to the story that I won’t go into here. We do “share,” them, or lack of a better word, with their bio families, but we are still a family. Husband’s parent’s will not accept, despite their own very unortodox family dynamics, and is wrongly, but utterly convinced that he wanyed his own bio children – but I, the evil she devil he married, took that choice away ftom him!!

        The whole point here is that love and respect between grown children and their parents, is a two-way street. Parents should always be allowed to voice their opinions and concerns to their adult, but just as the adult kids should always liten respectfully…so too should the parents be equally respectful. Not overbearing, rude or conniving. Boundaries need to be established, going bothe ways, and honoured by BOTH sides.

  24. Mrs. E   April 28, 2014 at 4:35 pm

    Really she just needs to stay in her lane, she has lived her life, now let her daughter live her life. Get a man a companion someone to occupy her lonely life. The child has been taking care of her a lot of years and Kando will continue. She needs to count her blessings before they are taking away. I’m just saying!!!!!!!

  25. shirley brown   April 28, 2014 at 4:27 pm

    Pls leave ms joyce alone she is being real…I am not mad or ashame of ms joyce. ..tell it ms joyce

  26. tinah kenney   April 28, 2014 at 4:19 pm

    What mother acts like that?. All the other mothers on stage were better examples of how a mom should act.

  27. joy   April 28, 2014 at 2:43 pm


  28. Donna   April 28, 2014 at 10:01 am

    I would be ashamed to call her Mother, she knows she has been living off of Kandi for a long time. She had the nerve to brag she had a house completely paid for , yeah Kandi paid for the house and gave it to her, when she bought her new house, this woman is shameless.


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