Happy Not-A-Mother’s Day to every woman who might be reading this and does not have children. This coming Sunday, it will be Mother’s Day yet again. More than likely the author of this article will attend church services with her husband and quite a few children will be passing out flowers for each of the mothers in attendance. When one of them reaches her and starts to place a beautiful blossom in her hand, she will gently refuse but thank him or her anyway. The child may become confused but that will just have to be. He or she does need to learn that not all the adult women that are in attendance for church are mothers.
The author is in her very early 40’s, a woman of course, an adult, and a wife but she is not anyone’s mother. For as long as the Earth has existed, the persistent ticking of most women’s biological clocks have equated their lives with one purpose only and that has been to have children. However in today’s society, great numbers of married women have decided not to have them. Happily the writer of this article was lucky enough to have been born at a time in history where such a choice was accepted with women, and also to luck out and find a husband who felt the same way she did about children.
It seems that very few journalists chose to write over such a topic but just about each and every environmental catastrophe seems to be able to be traced back to overpopulation. Looking at it from the point of consumption from the United States and the worldwide pollution which is associated with it is unmatched. It would take an entire Third World town to use up all the assets that one American takes in and also wastes each day. Even if the birthrate in the United States is extremely low right now, making it go down even more so would be even better in trying to save the Earth. The author is very glad to know that by not reproducing, she is doing her part.
People wonder if she has sadness from not having children. So far she has not felt any. Of course she does not know what the future holds but then no one does, and that includes those with or without offspring. The writer also does not wonder about her husband like so many women think. He does not act at all like he has missed out on anything. People ask the couple if the husband would enjoy life more with children. He tells them most certainly not.
They have also been told that their marriage is unfulfilled due to not having reproduced and that it is a sham because they are a man and woman and have not “procreated.” They have not used marriage for the purpose God intended it. To that all the author says is “Oh well”…
Not having children means a couple is able to enjoy together humanity’s insightful conquest of nature. Two people taking control of conception and not letting it control them. If every woman were to have such control, the entire world could change for the better and what a blessing it could be.
The writer of this article truly wishes other women would give the childfree lifestyle a chance. They could then see what wonderful experiences that come being a woman and not having offspring, what they could give so much to a long-suffering tired planet.
Opinion by Kimberly Ruble