All About Bitches

All About Bitches

“Well-behaved women seldom make history.” –Laurel Thatcher Ulrich

Recently, I’ve discovered that I am often called a “bitch” in my professional life. Finding this out has filled my heart with unbridled joy. I have finally reached the ranks of women like Hillary Clinton, Michelle Obama, Ruth Bader Ginsburg and so many other powerful females who have also openly admitted to being called bitches. In fact, it would probably be nearly impossible to find a woman in any position of authority who has not been called a bitch. Did I just compare myself to two first ladies and a Supreme Court justice? Yep, sure did. Bitches aren’t afraid to point out their similarities to accomplished people, especially when the similarity is a particular personality type.

However, there seems to be some confusion about what the word actually means. It is not an insult; far from it. It began as a comparison to a female dog in heat. Hey now, nothing wrong with that! According to experts in dog behavior, the top characteristics of dogs include:

Stubborn

Headstrong and willful

Demanding

Pushy

Persistence about being on top

Carrying themselves with their head held high

All of these are excellent traits to have in business, especially when the female human has to deal with the arrogant human male. Without these traits, the human bitch will go nowhere, never get what she wants, and will be steamrolled by the men around her. Did I just stereotype men in a rather sexist way? Yep. Bitches aren’t afraid to sling back what’s thrown at them.

The other “negative” connotation to the word bitch is the “in heat” aspect. The men who started using the word to demonize women thought that women would find being called a sexual animal insulting. Hey, guess what, men from the Middle Ages? We’re all sexual animals. Deal with it.

So, it is clear to see that the origin of the word bitch as it applies to the human female has far more positive elements than negative, and therefore, can’t justifiably be considered an insult. Now, let’s delve a little bit more deeply into what a bitch is, and what she isn’t.

What a bitch isn’t:

A bitch isn’t shy, retiring, or a shrinking violet.

A bitch is not always nice just for the sake of it.

A bitch isn’t intimidated by the men around her, no matter how power-grabby and whiny those men are.

A bitch does not exhibit her bitch skill set for no reason or deliberately try to tear down innocent people.

A bitch does not engage in underhanded, widespread public smear campaigns against anyone; no need to; the person will know full well the bitch has a problem with him or her because he or she will be told directly.

What a bitch is:

A bitch is a woman who plainly and bluntly speaks her mind.

A bitch asks pointed questions without fear of repercussion.

A bitch states facts and chimes in with opinions.

A bitch doesn’t take s*** from anyone.

A bitch recognizes and tolerates other female bitches when they are neutral, puts them firmly in their place when they get out of control, and will do everything in her power to elevate and support them if they want to be allies rather than adversaries.

A bitch is not afraid to show irritation; knowing that it will come across as far more “angry” than it really is, and that when men act far, far worse, (ie: screaming at the top of their lungs, cursing, berating people publicly etc.) it is forgiven and those men are called “dynamic, charismatic executives.”

A bitch is a feminist.

A bitch starts out being altogether sweet, only bringing out her bitch skill set when needed (it’s just that it’s almost always needed.)

A bitch always gets what she wants one way or the other, and knows exactly how to do so, even if the end result is undetectable to others.

A bitch is not afraid or insulted by being called a bitch, and realizes that those doing the calling are jealous in their weakness and feelings of powerlessness. Poor things.

A bitch uses her bitch skill set to help others who are deserving–those who recognize and celebrate the bitch’s bitchy glory, and ask to be aligned with her. A bitch should accept those BITS (bitches in training), teaching them the ancient ways.

A bitch is Alpha. A bitch is strong. A bitch is fearless. A bitch is fierce. A bitch is smart. A bitch lives by her own terms.

A bitch is me.

By: Rebecca Savastio

3 Responses to "All About Bitches"

  1. Leigh Haugh   June 6, 2014 at 10:56 pm

    We are bitches…Hear us roar!!

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  2. Jennifer Pfalz   June 6, 2014 at 1:24 pm

    I’m a righteous bitch as well!

    Reply
  3. Kristy Blatter   June 5, 2014 at 9:48 pm

    Amen, sister!

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