Some say true love never dies and Paula Patton proves that it can at least always show respect, even in high-profile Hollywood splits. Paula Patton has officially filed for divorce from singer, Robin Thicke. In the divorce filing, issued on Oct. 3, 2014, the actress cited irreconcilable differences as the reason for the dissolution of marriage and asked for joint custody of their four-year-old son. After filing the papers, unlike some stars who use the opportunity to gain face time among the paparazzi, Patton did not speak to the media regarding the divorce nor create a big spectacle of the filing.
The couple was married back in 2005 and as many adult contemporary songs have belted, sometimes, the first cut really is the deepest. Particularly in the case of teenage love. Patton and Thicke, married for the last 9 years, began dating as teenagers and stayed together for almost a decade prior to their marriage. There have been studies conducted with the sole purpose of determining the variances in relationship outcomes for those who “become one” before reaching young adulthood in comparison to relationships that bud after the age of 21 to 25. Dr. Carl Pickhardt, member of the American and Australian, lead one such study which researched teen love in-depth, quantifying the difference between teenage infatuation and the feeling of love experienced by adults. The study concluded that teen relationships feel so life-changing because there is a combination of brain development and raging hormones that collides with a, typically, low-level of self-identity and creates a bond to their partner that is more involved than that with adults tend to allow. In the high hormone-low identity state, teenage romancers tend to merge more fully with one another and, when that merger ends, they no longer feel whole because they are separated from what became their other half.
Another study conducted by students from the University of California, Berkeley challenged the Freudian theory that the stability of an individual’s relationship with their parents during childhood had the most impactful effect on later relationships in life. The student-conducted research study was based findings gathered from the first love stories of 303 Berkeley undergrads. First love was defined as being the first real relationship between two people, not instances of a childhood crush. The prevailing evidence showed that those who had a positive experience with their first love felt more secure with their current romantic relationship and believed that their partner also felt secure toward them.
Studies like these fuel the hopeless romantic inside many people and serve as launching pads for productions such as Lifetime Network’s romantic movie marathons. Even during the last months of separation, Thick himself proved there may be a strong bond created by teenage love that is never-ending. The world watched as Thicke attempted to regain the love and respect of his former sweetheart. In June, he released the album Paula, a compilation of songs he dedicated to her and for several months, he promoted the album making several public pleas for Patton’s forgiveness. He even shed tears on stage at the BET music awards.
Despite multiple attempts and several apologies, the relationship of the Hollywood couple has now come to a close and with what is known of young love, there remains a possibility that Patton and Thicke will always carry the benefits of the true love from their teen years as a source of energy that never dies. Either way, they are now both free to move on and create the next scene of their life’s journey.
by Bridgette Bryant
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