Are you a happy person? The concept of happiness is more complicated than you might think. However, it is a concept that everyone can relate to and hopes to achieve in their lifetime. How do we obtain happiness? How do happy people think and process information? How do happy people view the world differently? Sometimes we unintentionally create obstacles of our own making that prevent us from attaining happiness. It is important to explore our own behavior and habits in order to discover how we are limiting ourselves, so we can fully achieve happiness and maintain it.
An essential aspect in achieving happiness lies within a person’s perspective. Happy and unhappy people view the world via completely different viewpoints. Here are five things that do not worry happy people, but may distress or concern unhappy people to no end.
1. Gossip–While unhappy people may feel the need to gossip, happy people are rarely interested in such activities. That is because happy people are fulfilled and satisfied with their lives, while unhappy people need to fill voids and compensate for their shortcomings.
2. Negative Thinking and Attitudes–There is such a thing as a “Negative Ned or Nancy.” We all know people like this–they are miserable people, who are always complaining about various issues and/or other people. Often, it is all they talk about; it may even consume their lives. While, on the other end of the spectrum, we have the super optimistic people who are constantly looking for more out of life and view the glass as half full. While it is always good to view the world positively and focus on the good, there is a middle ground between “Pessimism Penny” and “Eternal Sunshine Susie.” It is wise to interject some realism into the equation and keep your expectations grounded. It will directly affect your happiness since you are focusing on the good, but not exceeding your expectations, which could result in disappointment.
3. Holding Onto Resentment–Among the five things that do not worry happy people, resentment or lack thereof is a key component to happiness. Everyone knows that resentment is inherently negative. When you hold onto resentment, it allows you to perpetuate and seethe in that negativity. It just makes you moody, sad, and angry. Generally, happy people learn to let things go, especially those things that are beyond their control and rooted in the past. If you learn to let go of things and resentment, there is a burden lifted and sense of freedom associated with it. Unhappy people will wallow in the resentment while happy people will simply move on and focus on the positive.
4. Search for Inner and Outer Happiness–Your own happiness is directly related to your perspective and attitude, not the actual circumstances involved. We all encounter bumps along the road, but how you choose to view things is of great importance. It is so important to try to remain positive. You also must search within yourself for joy, satisfaction, and completion. Do not look to others for happiness and fulfillment. In truth, you can never be truly fulfilled until you achieve balance and happiness internally. That way, no matter the twists or turns on life’s road, you know you will endure and become stronger in the long run. Unhappy people tend to believe that a relationship or material wealth can bring true happiness. However, until you are happy on your own, you will never be fulfilled or satisfied.
5. Unreasonable Expectations–Happy people rarely have unreasonable expectations. You cannot make or force people to change. Any change that occurs must be organic and initiated as well as wanted by the individual. Once you accept that truth, the burden is removed from you. The reason many problems arise is when expectations are not met. These unreasonable expectations will result in disappointment and even anger. If you approach situations with an open mind and let things play out organically, the outcome will be much more rewarding and satisfying. While unhappy people will often become mired in disappointment, happy people tend to “go with the flow.”
The concept of happiness is more complicated than you might think. However, it is a concept that everyone can relate to and hopes to achieve in their lifetime. Are you a happy person? How do we obtain and maintain happiness? How do happy people think and process information? How do happy people view the world differently? Do you strive for fulfillment? If you truly seek fulfillment, figure out what obstacles of your own making may be preventing you from attaining happiness. It is important to explore our own behavior, perspectives, and habits in order to discover how we are limiting ourselves, so we can fully achieve happiness and maintain it. It all boils down to a person’s perspectives and attitudes. Hopefully, people will take note of the five things that do not worry happy people mentioned in this article and try to focus more on the positive, avoid the negative, as well as look inside themselves to figure out how their own happiness is defined.
Opinion and Blog by Leigh Haugh
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