Mother’s Day is one of the most celebrated holidays of the year. It always seems to trump Father’s Day. These female role models have the distinct responsibility of increasing the earth’s population and often times, take on the duty of shaping the lives of those who cross their paths. However, there are many people who have lost their moms due to death, addiction or necessity. This article is written to celebrate and say Happy Mother’s Day to those who feel the pain of being motherless.
Some who feel motherless have lost their mother to uncontrollable circumstances while others have been forced out of their mom’s life due to tragedy. This tragic incumbent could be an addiction, toxic behavior, or a variety of overly generalized causes. Simply stated, a good mother’s power is no less ineradicable than a failed mom’s influence.
Many agree that there is no love like that of a mother. Motherless people have a void that feels as if it is unable to be filled. For these members of society, Mother’s Day serves as another painful reminder that the one who gave birth is no longer around to help navigate life. As people without moms, it can be difficult to watch others celebrate with their moms while being forced to resolve that the absentee mother is somehow stuck deep down on the inside… where she will forever stay.
As many around the world anticipate celebrating Mother’s Day, those who are motherless tend to dread the thought of it because it is a constant reminder of the hurt of being without a mom. Along with the sadness associated with being motherless is the guilt for wishing away a holiday that honors the legacy of motherhood. Ironically, the concept of Mother’s Day was founded by a motherless daughter named Anna Jarvis who petitioned for the necessary recognition of this incomparable honor.
Motherhood is a force to be reckoned with and is mystical in its ability to create life as well as destroy it. Just because a person gives birth, does not automatically make them a mother. It seals the approval for giving life, but can just as easily negate the accompanying necessity of nurturing the life given. Often when the bond between mom and offspring is ripped apart, it leaves its victim bearing the brunt of rejection as well as the stigma of shame.
Instead of dwelling on an island of misery or sadness at the mere thought of another reminder of a painful existence, it is time to flip the script. This Mother’s Day find one or more of the 200,000 homeless youth without a parent and show them the love they too long for. There are many kids who have been rejected by their families due to religious beliefs or because they are a part of the LGBTQ community, and as such, have been isolated from family members. Choose to adopt a motherly role for those less fortunate and teach them to pay it forward.
On this motherless Mother’s Day, choose to leave a mark on the world that is nothing short of relentless and radical; one that is so dangerous that it reaches outside of one’s self to include all religions and races, and exceeds all borders and rules. Start a revolution of love that screams, “Happy Mother’s Day to the motherless” along with an acceptable act of servanthood and love.
Opinion by Cherese Jackson (Virginia)
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