It is no secret that producers of reality television often feed cast members information to keep the drama flowing. However, Phaedra made an erroneous decision to share the damaging information that “she was allegedly fed” to her friend. It is also common knowledge that Porsha is vulnerable and if given the opportunity, her BFF knew she would air the dirty laundry with the cameras rolling.
Rumors of the entertainment lawyer’s dismissal from the show began months ago and Phaedra denied them. Fans of the show have witnessed Phaedra lie repeatedly and instead of owning the truth, she tends to wiggle around the lies. As an attorney, Phaedra understands how damaging a lie, which was hearsay, could be for Kandi and Todd Tucker’s business and brand. This time the lies went too far and now she blames Bravo producers for the consequences.
Reportedly, Phaedra is livid because she feels this was all a set up to release her from the show. Allegedly, the truth came out during the recording but was edited out of the final release. As if she acted alone, the attorney is now the recipient of threats, bullying, and hate mail, according to an unnamed source. Whether or not she acted alone, hurtful information was shared with claims that, it originated with Kandi.
There seems to be a cycle of blame that surrounds Phaedra. With every lie or situation she finds herself, the victim mentality always prevails. Breaking the blame game cycle can be tough, but here are a few pointers to help:
1. Own it: Taking responsibility is the first step that opens the door of change. Nothing happens without ownership. Everyone has a sob story they could tell or excuse on which to blame consequences. The truth is it all rests on actions taken. The only way to begin the healing process is to own them and ditch the excuse based language.
2. Speak it: Acknowledge that it happened and allow those thoughts to engage in the process of acceptance. Nothing just happens; an internal decision is made first. Now it is time to add affirming words that speak in the direction of change. This is a critical point because as long as things rattle around internally, a vital link to achieving wholeness remains missing. Words are the currency of change.
3. Move it: Instead of allowing it to take up residence, there must be some distance between the action and recurring excuses. This means moving into a better mindset, a better environment, and better influences. The old adage says, “Birds of a feather flock together.” In simple terms, move away from those who influence negative behavior. Successful people have one thing in common; they connect to other successful people.
Phaedra may not have started the rumor, but as a transporter of information, she must own her part and accept the consequences. As an attorney, she should know the power of sharing damaging allegations, yet she chose to do so anyway. Remember, everyone has the power of choice, but not consequence. Because of her actions, the lawyer lost one of her jobs and a best friend.
As it stands, Phaedra Parks is no longer a part of the “Real Housewives of Atlanta” franchise and blames Bravo producers for the lie. As an alternative of the popular phrase, “Bye Felicia” the network is saying, “Bye Phaedra!” Instead of shifting blame, these tips can help “victims” overcome useless excuses by taking ownership of personal issues on the journey toward healing.
Opinion by Cherese Jackson (Virginia)
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