Heads up ladies! Sex and the smartphone do not mix. It is not just the guys. Seems ladies are equally guilty of using our high tech in bed and paying less attention to the living, breathing creature next to us.
A recent study asked women what they would give up for a month and they reported they would rather give up sex than their smartphones. They also revealed some other shockers as well.
Almost 80 percent check their phones at least once per hour. Almost 50 percent have it on the nightstand while they sleep; five percent choose to have the phone in the bed with them. Three in four admit to texting while driving. Well over half do not neglect the phone during dinner, but over 70 percent say they are not addicted.
Then there’s the sex thing. Forty-eight percent of women report that they would rather give up sex for one month than their smartphone. The study was a joint venture by Real Simple and Huffington Post in which 3,583 women were asked about their smartphone habits. As if the sex thing was not bad enough, almost 40 percent admit to taking their phones into the restroom. Ladies, what has become of our manners? Not to mention our precious time. Has time become such a precious commodity that bathroom unmentionables have been invaded?
There may well be a simple solution. It is the flip phone. Many of us have chosen to hold on to this technological relic by choice. Auction site eBay suggests it’s because of its price, two screens, reliability, durability, simplicity, battery life and no butt dialing. Those of us who are aficionados know it is because we would rather choose when to be bothered and not allow everyone free entry into our lives.
We are neither outdated nor technologically challenged. We are neither stoned-aged nor unsuccessful. Jerry Jones, of Dallas Cowboys fame, uses a flip phone, and he is a billionaire. When asked he said he only uses it to talk or text.
Jay Beagle, NHL player, also took some flack from reporters when it was revealed he uses a flip phone. He noted not wanting to be bothered and even turns the phone completely off for one week between seasons to spend quality time with his wife.
Do we really need to be Facebook accessible at any moment of any day? Do we need to find ourselves jumping at every “ping” alerting us someone, somewhere is trying to get in touch? Do our bosses need to find us while we are in the rest room? Really?
Those of us who use flip phones handle a good bit of flack. You may not reach us whenever you please. We choose to censor our calls. We will text you back but don’t expect us to do it this instant unless it is an emergency. We turn our phones off at movies. We turn them off at dinner. We believe in conversation. We look at you when you speak. We would know the color of your eyes if you would just lift them from that screen. We connect. We flirt in the old fashioned way. And we don’t receive your inappropriate photos because with the new iPhone 5, your silly photos show up as a series of boxes, alerting us that you are fiddling around at work.
A flip phone provides no distraction. It is merely a device. A device that is simple to operate, does its job, costs very little and demands very little of our attention. For many of us, game over. Evidently, the same thing goes for a guy who makes billions of dollars and owns a football team. Advantage flip phone. Sex and the smartphone is not a problem for everyone.
By Linda Torkelson