Gwyneth Paltrow has attracted her fair share of haters, but she says she doesn’t give a s**t what people think. The trouble is, do we really care whether she gives a s**t or not? The frail beauty, married to Coldplay frontman Chris Martin, is so vocal on her pet obssessions, notably her dietary choices, her exercise regimes and her fashion style, that she has put a lot of people off her. Luckily, she has come right out and said she doesn’t care what others think about her, and that the older she gets, the less the criticisms stick.
Paltrow puts herself up there for potential ridicule with her infamous blog, Goop. which is often subject to parody. Some might say this is down to the fact that she tries to portray a kind of normalized family lifestyle with tips on cooking and raising kids, when in truth she lives the cocooned existence of a multi-millionaire. This week’s journal entry sees her off on an oyster-collecting odyssey to the shores of West Marin in California, described as a “dreamy trip” and the oysters, “in glorious abundance.” Nice work if you can get it.
In an interview with the UK’s Red magazine, Gwyneth Paltrow opened up about the bad press she gets, and said that only her partner or one of her best friends was worthy of attention if they had a concern about her, of if she had inadvertently hurt their feelings. For everyone else, “it’s like, who gives a s**t?” She explains how the issue for her is exacerbated, by occurring on a global scale, not just in a “village gossip way.” The fact that Vanity Fair are planning a no-holds bar piece on her soon, and that she has asked her friends not to speak to them, may be part of this pre-emptive strike for empathy. Rumours about her closeness with Jeff Soffer are hinted to be a big part of the revelations.
Now she is putting her pretty neck right on the line again, and almost asking for more resentment, as she has come out with advice for all working mothers. In feisty style, she tells the Red magazine reporter “F**k what anyone else says, it doesn’t matter what anyone else thinks.” If other mums want to judge her for not showing up at a school concert then”so f**king what.” Gwyneth says that all mothers should set their own schedules and create a work/life balance that works for them. To summarise her guide to making it work, she puts it into this nutshell ,”I’d say, do what is right for you and don’t give a s**t what anyone else thinks.”
Her sentiments may well go down very well with a vast majority of overworked women who struggle with the twin demands of work and family, but there is no getting away from the fact that Gwyneth Paltrow has staff to help her, and enough money to make choices not available to those trying to make ends meet. This is where her candid remarks can hit a wrong note, and instead of gaining her the sympathy of the sisterhood, ricochet instead into negativity about her. She doesn’t give a s**t? Well, do we give a s**t about her?
She has spoken of her reluctance to have her two children, Apple and Moses, grow up as teenagers in Los Angeles, where the family currently are based. “It’s part of my parenting philosophy” she explains “that children should get the opportunity to reinvent themselves at points in their childhood” this is to “see where their strengths and their weaknesses lie” and to accomplish this mission they need to “experience living in different cultures.”
While Gwyneth Paltrow may feel she is reaching out to fellow parents with this wise words of wisdom on how best for your kids to achieve their potential, she does not seem to realize that her proposals are unaffordable to the masses. Likewise, she plans to go crazy at Christmas and cook an Italian feast for Christmas Eve dinner with “seven fishes” For the average reader of Red magazine they would be lucky to be able to go and buy one expensive fish, never mind seven.
No one should dictate to working mothers, says Gwyneth, but the trouble is, it starts to feel that she is the one doing the dictating. This in turn generates disdain for her, which she then has to bat off by saying she doesn’t give a s**t. Do we? She is an attractive, pleasant and well-meaning person, who is trying her best to bring up her kids. If she would only pipe down about it, then, perhaps, we would.
By Kate Henderson