Father’s Day Is Not for Single Mothers

Father's Day

Contrary to the cultural campaign identifying single mothers as candidates for Father’s Day, this day is designed to honor the men who acknowledge their children and hold their roles as dads in high esteem. According to the dictionary a father is a male who has child, a male parent or father-in-law, an adopted father or step-father. Any person that does not fall under those guidelines Father’s Day is not for them.

Although there are many painful and legitimate reasons women find themselves raising their children alone, that does not qualify them to be considered fathers. Often women are thrust into the role of a single parent due to circumstances outside of their control; things like abusive relationships where the woman had to leave her abuser, her partner dies or she was raped and decided against an abortion. There are also times when a woman finds herself rearing her children alone as a result of her own decisions and the consequences thereof .

With divorce rates being at an all time high sometimes the father splits and abandons his responsibilities where the children are concerned; his responsibilities are not just financial. Far too often when couples separate the mother forces the father to stay away and even uses “child support” against him. Whatever the reason a mother finds herself a single mom, being celebrated on Father’s Day is ludicrous and makes as little sense as a single father being recognized on Mother’s Day.

Do not misunderstand the point being made, the mothers who have the difficult task of managing the lives of their children alone should be honored and respected but according to the definition a woman simply cannot be a father. A child needs both parents but the roles these parents occupy are unique and equally invaluable. Even within the current culture that appreciates and encourages same-sex parents there will either be two dads or two moms.

The concept of Father’s Day was inspired by a single dad who embraced the challenge of raising his six children alone after his wife died. By including mothers who are single on a day designed for fathers helps the male role in the child’s life become further devalued. Men who are involved in the upbringing of their children should be honored, celebrated and appreciated; not undervalued. Mother’s Day is always in May and, for those that do not know, Single Parents’ Day is in March.

To spread the “love” to single moms on Father’s Day is not as empowering as it might seem. Contrariwise it capitalizes on a self-inflicted wound and stunts the process of healing. The truth is parents should be honored and appreciated every day in their respective roles.

This is not a personal issue it is a community crisis that leads a woman to believe she can do the job of a man. No matter how courageous a woman is, just as many men who are left to raise their children alone are not mothers; the role of the father is not one that can be filled by a woman. This does not take any credit away from the “Wonder Woman” that she is and the hard work she invests in taking care of her family. These things just make her an amazingly strong woman but biologically not a father.

By all means as a society we should continue to find ways to strengthen, empower and honor single women who continue to hold it down for their families. They deserve honor for their extreme commitment and dedication – just not as an equal to a male on Father’s Day, this day is for men.

There are many who will disagree with this thought process primarily because their emotions are tied to their reasoning. The definitions are clear; a male parent is a father and a female parent is a mother. When a mother is the sole party responsible for her children she is being a parent; a great one but not a father.

There is a cultural campaign which seeks to honor motherhood on Father’s Day. This day is designed to celebrate the men who embrace their roles as dads. Although a well-intentioned gesture, telling single moms that they are fathers too does not help the crisis many women are now left in or does it encourage men to step in and step up. As much as it pains some hardworking mothers to accept, Father’s Day is not for single mothers. In conclusion, from the newest father to the most seasoned grandfather “Happy Father’s Day!”

Opinion By: Cherese Jackson (Virginia)

Source:

Alabama.com

Top Image Courtesy of Kelly Sikkema – Flickr License

459 Responses to "Father’s Day Is Not for Single Mothers"

  1. Cindy   June 27, 2016 at 7:35 am

    I have been a single parent of five for 12years, I do everything for my children, and their father only acknowledges them when he needs to look good. My children have wished me happy Father’s Day every year since my divorce, not because I want them to but because they want to. For what ever reason mothers are single, it does not make them less worthy of being mom and dad. And yes some women can do a mans job, sometimes better than a man, but not always because we want to, but because we have to. This is an absolutely ridiculous post, to try and be politically correct on the meaning of Father’s Day, and your damn right it’s personal, and I do believe single fathers should be recognized on Mother’s Day, especially when there the sole parent in there children’s lives and stepping it up and doing the mom part. And this has nothing to do with same sex parenting or a women trying to fit in a mans world, or a man wanting to fit in a woman’s role, it has to do with good parenting, being there for your children and doing the right thing, for ones kids, and if the kids are wanting to honor there single parents on these special days, who the hell are you to say anything. The children know and love there parents enough to honor there parent the way they see fit, for whatever occasion married or single.
    Signed a hard working single mom…

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  2. JW Kireru   June 21, 2016 at 9:51 pm

    A story well thought of.

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  3. Leigh   June 21, 2016 at 7:54 am

    My good friend lost her husband to cancer when their daughter was 10. Every year since that time her daughter makes her a gift on Mothers AND Father’s Day.
    Why write needless articles like this? Why not write something celebrating great dads or encouraging dads to BE great?
    Sadly, this was a well-written waste of words. It did nothing but diminish the joy it gives that child to celebrate someone who has taken over both roles in the face of unbelievable tragedy.

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  4. Beth   June 21, 2016 at 6:18 am

    Sort of a silly article. Who are you to tell anyone what folks should or should not do on Father’s Day? If a child wants to acknowledge their parent on Mother’s Day and Father ‘s Day, so be it. You can pooh pooh all you want, but people will do whatever makes them happy, and you shouldn’t judge.

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  5. ceasar   June 21, 2016 at 12:42 am

    As I expected, feminists would play the victims card as usual.

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  6. Shreya   June 20, 2016 at 1:02 pm

    I have not liked the tone of the article.the author is sounding g cynical and rude……

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  7. Joe Kub   June 20, 2016 at 10:59 am

    Wishing single mothers a happy fathers’ day is like having an Independence Day in a country that was never colonised or dependant on another country. Let women be women and men be men. If there was a war and all fathers were to be paraded and shot, I doubt these same single mothers would stand out and demand to be part of the parade. They would simply say, we don’t have a dad in this home, please spare our lives.

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  8. Samantha Williams   June 20, 2016 at 10:35 am

    It typically is the child who is the one to acknowledge their mother on Father’s day or Father on Mother’s Day! A child tends to feel left out, hurt, and in pain on these days when a parent is absent. But by acknowledging their single parent as playing both mother and father roles, they have a little break from the pain. So yes, Single parents have every right to be honored on both Mother’s and Father’s day.

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  9. Sarai   June 20, 2016 at 5:26 am

    If I am filling the role of a mother AND a father because my children’s father refuses to do so, you better bet your but I will be recognized! Your article says a mother chooses to parent alone. So ignorant! Not all single mothers choose to be a mom and a dad! In fact most of us didn’t choose that at all! You are just jealous and sexist! Anyone I repeat anyone who fills the role of a father should be rewarded and acknowledged for it! Simply having a penis and creating spawn is not worth being celebrated!

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    • thejewelrylady   June 20, 2016 at 12:28 pm

      I think you may have misread what was said. The writer gave a long list of reasons women parent alone, most of those reasons being things beyond their control. She acknowledged that many women don’t choose this, but are forced into it. Choosing to parent alone was only one of the many reasons. I don’t think in any way this article minimized the role of a single parent, directly or indirectly. In fact, the writer seemed to go out of the way to commend women who go it alone. The point is simply Mother’s are celebrated on Mother’s Day and Fathers, if they are around, on Father’s Day. If you don’t have one or the other, then you don’t celebrate that holiday, or you honor those who have filled those roles for you on the respective holiday. Personally, I say do what you want, it just saddens me to see great Father’s overshadowed on their day because of the deadbeat dads out there, especially when you don’t see that happening to Woman on Mother’s Day. Much love and respect.

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    • Kl   June 21, 2016 at 1:13 am

      Maybe you need to read the article again. He did not say it was always a choice and you are still not a man. You had mother’s day already. It is pretty selfish to expect something for father’s day too.

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  10. Mary   June 20, 2016 at 1:51 am

    My daughter tells me Happy Father’s day every year. I don’t ask for that sentiment. I love her and happily accept those words and i am honored she would even have those thoughts. I’m sure if her ‘father’ ever attempted to be a part if her life (something I never discouraged ) I would be thrilled for her. Alas….this is not the case. So, let me obtain a ladder for you as I’m sure that horse is way too high. There are plenty of dads out there who happily accept when their children wish them a ‘Happy Mothers Day’.

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  11. Cyril   June 19, 2016 at 9:38 pm

    Well written but very lame.. My mum will always get her fathers day gifts on this day.. she is who i have and she played all wat my father cud do and more.. don’t try to shove yo own perspective down our throats.. use yo own principles.. these r our lives we know better.. we know how we feel.. don’t be a sick1 who wana change pple by telling them otherwise.. u the one who lacks sense of humour and thats yo baby not ours.

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  12. Liz   June 19, 2016 at 8:18 pm

    Amen!! Very well said, let them enjoy their day without taking away their right to celebrate fatherhood and not making it about mother’s too.

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  13. Robi   June 19, 2016 at 1:01 pm

    Well, it is apparent that many fathers find the easiest route to abdicate from their parental responsibilities…so it’s more visible that mother’s play both parental roles…albeit not perfectly so!

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  14. Niki   June 19, 2016 at 9:32 am

    I am the only parent in my daughter’s life. I never chose to be recognized on Father’s Day, it was my daughters choice because that’s what I am to her – a mother and a father. I take care of her when she is sick, teach her how to cook and dress like a girl. I also taught her how to play soccer and bought her first fishing pole.

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  15. Laura   June 16, 2016 at 4:04 pm

    Is this actually an issue? How people celebrate Mother’s Day and Father’s Day is only reletive to the people who celebrate them. There is nothing wrong with children celebrating the opposite parent on each of those days if one is missing from the equation. You don’t have to bash the other parent either. It’s about showing gratitude for the ones who have raised us. Are we going to tell those who have been orphaned from a young age and live with the other relatives that they are unable to celebrate their care givers? It’s not about taking respect away from those with the intended parent. It’s about celebrating those who raise children.

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  16. Nene   June 16, 2016 at 3:45 pm

    It’s so sad to see women miss the entire point! She’s clearly speaking on the epidemic of women who think it’s okay to male bash deadbeat fathers whom they chose to mate with on Father’s Day! Salute!!! Finally someone spoke on it and yes it’s emotional and varies but she is addressing the ignorance. Ladies let’s walk in truth instead of making ongoing excuses as to why we do it….

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  17. Leonie   June 15, 2016 at 9:11 am

    Coming from the child’s perspective though, I made Father’s Day cards for my mom so I wouldn’t feel left out when everyone else was making them for their dads…nothing is black and white

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  18. Gigi Mueller   June 15, 2016 at 8:50 am

    I see nothing wrong with it when a single Mother fills both roles. I wasn’t fortunate enough to have my Dad when I was growing up. I looked to my Mother for everything. I also have no problem with wishing a single father Happy Mother’s day. Do what you want. I think there are way bigger worries today about raising kids than this.

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    • David Kearney   June 16, 2016 at 8:17 am

      Nothing wrong with being a single mom but it has NOTHING to do with Father’s Day. In this socially and politically liberal environment, go create your own Single Mother’s Day.

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  19. Dp   June 11, 2016 at 3:14 pm

    Wishing a mother happy Father’s Day is silly. She’s not a father regardless of raising a child alone. We don’t wish single fathers happy Mother’s Day do we? Of course not because that would silly too.

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  20. Magaly   June 7, 2016 at 4:14 am

    What… my father has been dead for almost 13 years now and my mother has most definitely filled the role of a dad as well as still being my mom, and a great one at that. Writing an article about how “a woman can never do the job of a man” is not going to change society and the way children of deceased or absent father’s see their moms.

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  21. Shawna Middlebrooks   June 5, 2016 at 7:53 pm

    I will definitely wish all the single mothers a happy Father’s day, just like I do every year and just like I wish all the single father’s a happy mother’s day every year. No double standards. They deserve it.

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    • Kendrick   June 12, 2016 at 8:23 am

      You are part of the problem…..

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    • Frogger88   June 16, 2016 at 11:30 am

      Same message as above: Nothing wrong with being a single mom but it has NOTHING to do with Father’s Day. In this socially and politically liberal environment, go create your own Single Mother’s Day.

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  22. Sean   June 5, 2016 at 7:17 pm

    If someone was to suggest that single father’s should also be celebrated on Mother’s Day the internet SJW’s minds would exploded. So, why is ok one way and not the other?

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  23. Mr. Harry   June 5, 2016 at 4:21 pm

    Sadly a lot of father’s are dead, incarcerated, uninterested in teaching their boys to be men. Since a woman knows what she needs for from a man more than a man knows, I impose wishing Happy Father’s Day to single mothers training their sons to be men.

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  24. Denise   June 5, 2016 at 3:57 pm

    I don’t need an article to define Father’s Day, the title is self explanatory. I am a single mom of 2 boys. I have never expected to be celebrated on Father’s Day. I honestly could care less who celebrates father’s day. For me, being a single mom, everyday is a celebration because I can close my eyes and rest knowing that I have done everything possible to do what’s best for my boys. I am very proud of the men who are being father’s and to them I say, keep up the good work and continue doing what you are doing. Its not just your own children watching your example. Fact is, that the opinions written here are just that and it will not change the reality for any one. The opinion that does matter to me is that of God, I pray every day that He is proud of me.

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  25. Jenny   June 5, 2016 at 1:44 pm

    What a complete load of rubbish. Every single argument you made highlighted exactly what single women do in the roles of fathers, with your only counter being ‘they’re not biological fathers’. Certainly women can’t replace men as fathers but and those fathers who carry out their role as father’s should most definitely be celebrated. But to say children who have only mothers in those caring roles shouldn’t be recognising that these women step in for their fathers on any day, no matter when it is, is ludicrous. It’s stereotyping gender roles that’s got us in such a sad situation in the first place.

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  26. suzie   June 5, 2016 at 5:32 am

    I agree. However, we should only honour the males who are fathers to their children and not the mere sperm donors.

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  27. mysinglelife143   June 4, 2016 at 9:50 pm

    I am a single Mom and played only the role of mother with my guys. They have a father and even when dad wasn’t in the picture, I had the sense that God gave me to surround my sons with strong male role models.
    So, on Fathers’ Day we will celebrate their dad and not me. I had my day and that was good enough. I can’t stand to see bitter women that are mad with the fathers make this so difficult for others that want to celebrate the day for what it was meant for.

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  28. Lavern   June 4, 2016 at 10:18 am

    Maybe some women are single mothers because they are STUPID and keep picking losers! I am so sick of women especially poor black women who try to absolve themselves of the part they play in being a single mom. If you picked a man who is worthless it could be because you are worthless we need to stop rewarding dumb women and their dumb choices with this “empowerment” crap!

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    • charles   June 5, 2016 at 9:21 am

      I wholeheartedly agree. I am a teacher in an urban community, and I see this far too often. I have seen mothers that have tattoos on their necks saying “$ make me wet.” Who is this woman going to attract? I have had mothers talking about their “baby daddy” being a drug dealer. While not all single mothers made bad decisions with regards to the father of their kid, it would seem to me that the majority of women that are single mothers clearly got involved with a man far too quickly before they knew what he was, had little to no skill at being perceptive, or simply chose to live for the moment rather than looking to the future. Sadly, it is the kids that pay the price. Much like I could not teach my daughter how to be a woman, a woman cannot teach a son how to be a man.

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  29. Nedrea   June 4, 2016 at 8:46 am

    Maybe if deadbeat fathers would do their jobs, then women wouldn’t have to be both. There’s no written rules on women being celebrated on this day.

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    • Jerome   June 4, 2016 at 3:41 pm

      One of my male cousins raised 3 daughters as a single father because his wife took off with his best friend. What day should he celebrate?

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      • Danita   June 19, 2016 at 12:06 pm

        He should celebrate both Mother’s Day and Father’s Day.

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  30. Shani   June 4, 2016 at 7:23 am

    As a single mother I think it’s wrong! I am a woman not a man! There is NO reason I should be celebrated on a day not intended for me especially when there is already a day at aside for me! It’s selfish and unnecessary. Honestly for me I loooooove father’s day. I shower my boyfriend with so much and I use to do the same for my ex husband. Ladies let men have their moment. They have it hard enough already in this field. #MyOpinion

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  31. Waine Braidee   June 4, 2016 at 5:48 am

    @Tiff/Lateefah – your comments are the very reason why this article was written. Why be so bitter about allowing men to celebrate their roles as parents?

    The failure to recognize and appreciate what we do is sad and disrespectful. I was a single father for three years – washing, cooking, cleaning, meeting teachers, doctor appointments and everything in between – but what kind of parent would I have been if I made Mother’s Day about me and other single fathers raising their children without their mothers?

    I would have been ashamed of taking away credit from women by claiming Mother’s Day for myself and other single fathers because of how it can devalue the importance of women in parenting to my own child.

    So what makes you think it’s okay to do that to men? Are those the types of lessons you are willing to teach your children? Do you want them to think that responsible manhood is no big deal and that any woman with children can do it? Is that how you want your fellow women to raise their sons? Do you want young men to believe that they don’t have to be responsible parents because they can just leave it to women?

    If that’s what you believe, we are living in sad times, sad times indeed.

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  32. Tiff   June 4, 2016 at 3:35 am

    My thoughts are…if a mom playing the role of both parents then she shall celebrate both days…there’s more mother’s out there playing both roles then fathers…that’s a fact and I am one of them so shove ur technicalities up somewhere!

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  33. Lateefah A. Brown   June 4, 2016 at 2:14 am

    If you want to be technical, it wasn’t intended for living fathers, either. It was established as a day of rememberence for people whose fathers had died. If you’re out shopping for new ties and greeting cards, you are “doing it wrong,” also. MORAL: People are going to observe it however they want to. Get over it.

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  34. Toni wiggins   June 3, 2016 at 10:50 pm

    I agree that honoring single mothers send the wrong message to children about the male role in a child’s life. We are eliminating males as “Fathers” and supporting and almost encouraging being a single mother. We should be celebrating good men, who are good fathers and doing our best especially in black communities to build fatherhood up. I truly believe that children need a female and male figure in their lives equally. Also I will say that parenthood as a whole should be viewed at differently and seen as one of the most important jobs in the world. We should be worrying less about a single women being celebrated on Father’s Day and more about rebuilding the family Unit. There should be a lot more education and support around parenting in general.

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  35. William H Lanteigne   June 3, 2016 at 8:14 pm

    Single moms have Mother’s Day, and they certainly deserve it.
    Father’s Day is for fathers.
    My daughter sent me a Mother’s Day card, because her mother is deceased, but I am not a “substitute Mom.” I can’t fill that role, as much as I might like to. I’m Dad, and I have a special day this month, for me, and that’s enough.

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  36. Joanne   June 3, 2016 at 5:26 pm

    I dont think Fathers day should include women in the sense of starting a nationwide movement BUT, is ut just me or are people just choosing to argue and pick fights. We’ve had mothers and fathers day for decades and I’m sure plenty of kids decided to honor their mother on fathers day or honor their dad on mothers because that is the parent that was around in their life. I think it should be what the kids want to do. Not for fathers and mothers to claim rights to a particular day, Ugh, I cant believe this is an issue. Let it be people. Parents should be honored and loved everyday, why argue over a single day. This is ridiculous. Just another person trying to look and sound wise according to the worlds standards. Love one another, can you all do that….

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  37. Aly   June 3, 2016 at 12:09 pm

    Personally, I feel it would be ludicrous to celebrate somebody who does not qualify for the category in which is being honored. For example, you wouldn’t celebrate a person of high regard that is not a veteran on Veterans Day. Just because they are in great standing does not mean that they are the category which is being honored. A father is a male role model. If he is not worthy of honoring, then don’t honor him. But that doesn’t mean that a woman should step in and take the place in that catagory. For example if you had one amazing kid(A) and one terrible kid(B), you wouldn’t honor (A) on (B)’s birthday. Same principle applies to Father’s Day.

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  38. Gale   June 3, 2016 at 9:53 am

    As a divorced mother of four, I have been the primary caretaker of our children since the divorce. My ex has always been welcomed to see the kids whenever. We have had our disagreements, but I have never prevented them from having a relationship or allowed our relationship to impede upon theirs. I believe, like the author, we both make important contributions to the psychological makeup of children. However, one year my oldest, who is now 24 gave me a card on Father’s Day, to say I was shocked would be an understatement. She was probably 16/17, I didn’t mention it to her father, but I was touched . The fact of the matter is sometimes people see things for what they are. My daughter wasn’t trying to hurt her father, she gave him a card also, but she has learned over the years who he is. It doesn’t mean she loves him less nor does it mean I was looking for Father’s day accolades, but I understand both sides. I prefer to celebrate Mother’s day and wish the men I know Happy Father’s day.

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  39. Maria Wocknitz   June 3, 2016 at 9:19 am

    I don’t agree with this… Just saying, I’ve been raising my 4 children for over 10 years! I agree with you Celia Darnell. If your child feels good about giving a gift for their single mom on any day is special! Not just father’s day or mothers day. If the roles were reversed I wouldn’t complain about a dad getting recognized on mothers day.

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  40. Rdirty   June 3, 2016 at 6:23 am

    DEEEZZZZ NUTZZZZZ

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  41. LIFE   June 3, 2016 at 5:36 am

    I beg to differ…I have been doing the single mom thing for almost 13 years! If I knew a man that was raising children alone and wanted to celebrate mother’s day also…I wouldn’t complain!!! JUST SAYING

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  42. Nightfiregirl   June 2, 2016 at 10:08 pm

    Seriously?!? Fathers Day.. Mothers Day.. “Single Parents” Day isn’t about people congratulating them selves, it’s a day to remember your parental figures past and present. There are no rules, so for anyone to dictate who you can honor or remember on these days is lame. I will honor my mother on Father’s Day or any other day for that matter as she has pulled double duty … And for parents who believe they should be celebrated on these days .. Get over yourself .. They are to honor others not yourself. If you are acknowledged that’s a blessing but stop acting as if your entitled.

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  43. Michael K. Bigos   June 2, 2016 at 12:31 pm

    I appreciate the blog post. In many ways, I admire and hold in high-esteem, a woman/mother who has to balance the woes of life as a single parent. I also despise the idea of devaluing true fathers out there by making it appear as though it is OK to monopolize both days (Mother’s & Father’s Day) in an attempt to pay tribute to the single mothers out there.

    In all, it also steals the very torch away from the single Fathers out there too; to which where is their day of appreciation in this ‘system’ of recognition? I believe (as the author states and I paraphrase) this recognition/appreciation should not be narrowed down to one day a year however, seeing America has designated a day to do so, don’t allow society to rob such a day from us fathers who are there for our wives, children and communities just because many are left having to pick up the slack of a plethora of “non-fathers”.

    Promote the real fathers out here who are holding up our end of the bargain and then some… Honor us as much as you honor a mother for both are undeniably contributing factors in the complete well-being of our children.

    Lastly, (and I will step down from this soap-box), let’s not plunge into anything of the homosexual lifestyle because, (if I may frankly state this) there would be NO life brought forth without a male “seed” and a female “egg” to which life is formed. Regardless of a same-sex household, those two individuals did not /can not conceive and birth a child on their own accord. A father/mother did. Call them “donors” if you choose, but we all still know and can confirm, it’s simple, beautiful and necessary biology. #100

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    • Jennifer   June 3, 2016 at 8:41 am

      So what about the heterosexual couples out there that have to adopt because they can’t have kids? Does that mean they can’t celebrate father and mothers day? As someone who is adopted, because my MOTHER was unable to have kids, I find this highly offensive. Father and mother are not just biological designation. If a man gets a woman pregnant then have nothing to do with her and the child, that man is no father.

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  44. Angel   June 2, 2016 at 9:38 am

    By including mothers who are single on a day designed for fathers helps the male role in the child’s life become further devalued. Men who are involved in the upbringing of their children should be honored, celebrated and appreciated; not undervalued.—-this sentence is everything; the long and short of it. cultural relativism and liberal ideologies regarding the family have systemically and IN PARTICULAR in communities of color have perniciously eroded and marginalized the brown and black man in an attempt to place them in the periphery of our society in order to destabilize us. and many women buy into the white capitalist lie hook/line/sinker.

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  45. Maria   June 2, 2016 at 8:02 am

    I believe whomever is acting as a father to their children, whether it be a woman or a man, should be celebrated on Mothers and Father’s day. It is a day to honor the parent who is there for you each and every day. What does it matter what sex you are. Yes there are many single mothers whether it be by their own mistakes in life or other reasons, a man labeled father did not stand by his children and raise them as a father should. The single mother did and has been there since day one so yes she should be recognized on the day of Father’s day as well as all the men who are true father’s. And for those men raising their children alone, Happy belated Mothers day as well. It isn’t about the sex, it’s about the parent who is both mother and father to their children. These day symbolize a parent who is their every day, through the good and the bad, raising their kids and being there. I’m sure those kids don’t mind giving their moms father’s day cards and their dad’s mother day card. Foster kids or orphans who are raised by two women or two men should be allowed to celebrate both days as mother and father. Why, because they gave a child a home, raising them and being there for them, and no matter what their sex is, they are parents, both mother and father.

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  46. John Kevin Adair   June 2, 2016 at 7:59 am

    totally agree. Mother’s day is for mothers, Father’s day is for fathers. i find it funny how some folks will relate an absent father story as somehow being justification to, once again, celebrate mothers on a day that was not intended for their recognition. i grew up in a single parent household with my younger sister. we were provided for, nutured nourished, raised and our college educations paid for . i celebrated both Mothers and Fathers day regardless of the abscent parent. oh, i forgot to say, my Dad was the single parent (but he Never got a Mother’s day card) and to his credit, he was never
    petty enough to make an issue of it.

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  47. Kyran Pollard   June 2, 2016 at 2:18 am

    This makes sense. Put emotions aside and realize that the days are meant for specific roles. A single mother is strong already for having to take on raising her kid(s) alone. That is why mothers day was set. When asking to also have fathers day, is asking to much. The role of the father is the place of the father. I will even say the same thing in reverse. Father’s day just can’t be celebrated with yhe moyher thinking she took the place of the father. If you think yourself as the male figure then i raise my eyebrow. You have mother’s day. Why ask for another.

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  48. Real Journalist   June 1, 2016 at 10:17 pm

    The person who wrote this must not have been raised by a single mother because if you were you wouldn’t have wrote something so ignorant. Celebrating your single mother, who does everything for you and your siblings on a daily basis without any help, I think, deserves Father’s Day and every other day for that matter! The single fathers deserve Mother’s Day as well. It’s not about the fan fare or the commercial ads, it’s about celebrating your parent who feels unappreciated, exhausted, and alone every single day with a special gift from your heart. I pray that the writer of this article and all of the insensitive people commenting up above, never become single parents because you’ll do a terrible job at it with your ignorant and judgemental attitude, but maybe if you are you’ll understand what these brave men and women go through every day because it takes a very strong and loving person to be a single parent and none of you have those qualities. I usually don’t comment on irrelevant work like this as a REAL journalist, but this was so disgusting I had to say something. Dear writer, you should be ashamed of yourself!

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  49. Mr. Wright 212   June 1, 2016 at 11:30 am

    A lot of these chicks are angry and single for a reason. The man isn’t always at fault. Selfishness breeds this warped mentality of wanting to be celebrated on FATHER’S Day.

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  50. Dennis   June 1, 2016 at 9:41 am

    Flip the perspective and imagine if a white citizen who helped in the fight for civil rights insisted on being honored during black history month. Sure what that white citizen did was honorable and worthy of respect but it does not deserve to be hosted above those black figures who have earned their right to recognition.

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  51. brinkley   June 1, 2016 at 9:34 am

    lol maybe it’s a way for children without fathers to feel like they still have something to celebrate on father’s day so it’s not just this glaring absence of everyone celebrating something you don’t have or know. I might be crazy but I don’t see how celebrating mom on father’s day, or dad on mother’s day, diminishes the value of either parent. This is like saying “we can’t have International Women’s Day, what about international men’s day?” uh… hello!

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  52. soulguides   June 1, 2016 at 9:10 am

    I think this mothers being used as father on father’s day is being pushed by those single mothers that are also Parental Alienators. they live to take everything from thier ex-husbands, especially anything positive to do with thier children.

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  53. Jay   June 1, 2016 at 7:11 am

    I call BS. I was born in 1967 and grew up in the 70s and 80s with a single mother and an almost completely absent father (2 visits and 3 phonecalls between ages 1 and 18, and virtually no child support). I gave my mother Father’s Day cards regularly, on my own, with no organized movement telling me to. I did it from my heart out of love and respect for my mother. I think a lot of other kids of single moms did the same. This writer doesn’t know what she is talking about.

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  54. Mike   May 31, 2016 at 9:49 pm

    I think the argument or topic at hand is that fathers day which is intended to crlebrate the fathers that are involved and carrying their roll to be celebrated is being taken over by single mothers claiming the day for themselves. Its not saying to celebrate the dead beat dads and give them props cause they dont deserve it. And yes single mothers do deserve credit but maybe not on the day that is intended for the fathers that are holding up their end.

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  55. Yeah   May 31, 2016 at 8:32 pm

    Some single mothers are raising these boys that have kids and end up making the mother of their children a replica of their mothers. What’s my point? You can’t raise a boy to be a father if you constantly let him know you are both. He will internalize that to mean he can knock a girl up and leave because she (thanks to you) can be both parents and doesn’t need him.

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  56. Brandi   May 31, 2016 at 7:36 am

    If your doing the job, you deserve the credit. Over 70% of households in america particularly the black family is headed by single mothers…its no wonder this “crisis” is an issue. To the woman who wrote this article, you speak some truth but sorry hunny…the crisis would not have come about if it didnt hold some truth. If more men step up in thier role, it would be an issue or a discussion.

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  57. Rex   May 30, 2016 at 5:44 pm

    Notice is mainly black women that does this.. Women that claim to be fathers, you are Brainwashed and you will be single forever.

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  58. Patrice Nicole   May 30, 2016 at 10:29 am

    I have single moms mad at me every year because of this authors sentiments. I 100% agree with this article! I was a songle mother for two years. Thank God that my husband and I came to our senses and got married. I never even entertained the thought of celebrating myself on Father’s Day! He was a good father before our marriage and continues to be after. I AM NOT NOW NOR WILL I EVER BE MY CHILDREN’S FATHER! And I’m completely ok with that!

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  59. Alice   April 2, 2016 at 5:34 pm

    A lot of mothers are single because even though they might of shared a love or even a marriage with the father of their child/ children, they may even still love the child’s father, the child’s father is mentally ill and abusive, he either hit her or did other horrible things to her and she loved her children too much to have them witness their father abusing her, or even worse them. Men are more likely to deny the fact that they have a mental illness because it makes them feel weak. It takes a brave and mature man to admit he’s hurt the woman that carried his children, and try to seek help so he can be the good father he’s capable of being. No one deserves to ever be abused, same goes vice versa if the wife is abusive to the husband. NO ONE EVER deserves to be abused or put up with abuse. And it equally takes a brave woman to acknowledge that she’s in an abusive relationship and leave their boyfriends/ husbands for the sake of her children.

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  60. RFP   September 29, 2015 at 5:04 am

    Point well taken, but as a single mom I am a mother and a father and I will keep celebrating myself on both days 🙂

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  61. Joe   June 26, 2015 at 5:09 am

    Great article! Kudos to the author Cherese Jackson. It had to take a black woman to write the truth in my father role who has been slowly driven away by the single working mom. Nobody in this world has it made more than a white female single mother (Remember, im a white male). Now they’re trying to take a double role by replacing me as a father.

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  62. Rob   June 26, 2015 at 3:56 am

    Amen!

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  63. Keith   June 25, 2015 at 7:56 am

    So, when there’s a single father he should also then be recognized on mothers day

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  64. NATALIE JACKSON   June 24, 2015 at 3:51 pm

    When a single mother has to pull “double-duty” because the child’s daddy won’t show his face, she deserves to be recognized twice. He doesn’t get credit for her efforts. He should show up 364 days a year so he can be recognized on father’s day. Otherwise, he’s just and sperm donor. Last I checked, there is no day on the calendar designated for no-shows. My child deserves to celebrate the holiday too. So I will take the credit with pride.

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    • Kim   June 25, 2015 at 5:58 am

      I hear you!!!

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  65. Kefilwe   June 24, 2015 at 8:41 am

    What a rubbish article on a subject that is not particularly earth shattering. In any case, you have applied poor reasoning to an entirely subjective topic. As the son of a single mom and a father myself, I see absolutely nothing wrong with honouring my mother for her parenting efforts… especially on fathers day. I can’t fathom why you think you can dictate to people regarding how and when they can revere their parents. It’s none of your business! None!

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  66. LadyT   June 24, 2015 at 6:57 am

    Well said SINGLEMOM,Big_Ups xo!

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  67. Bob Forsberg   June 23, 2015 at 5:20 pm

    Both my adult sons spent Mother’s Day with me because of their mother ignoring them after our divorce. I had full legal and physical custody from their pre-school years where she ignored their childhood needs of her presence, even on a part time basis. Obviously, while a female cannot fill the physical role as a father no more than I was able to fill the physical role as their mother, both my sons consider my duel roles in their childhood years as the guiding light most remembered on both Mothers & Fathers day. Yes, both male and female influences are required for a well rounded upbringing, but some once married partners need not be honored for being negative influences in a child’s life just because everyone is now older.

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  68. SINGLEMOM   June 23, 2015 at 12:28 pm

    I am a single mom. Yes, I am my son’s mother, but what you don’t seem to understand is no matter what we think as adults, it’s the child that this is affecting the most. My son has never had a father in his life. Can you guess who goes outside and plays football with him? How about who shows him how to hold a bat and when to swing at the baseball? Do you know who helped him build a birdhouse? Do you know who taught him how to be a “big boy” and pee standing up? I’m also the person that shows him how to treat women, and to hold doors. If you ask my son who is father is, he will tell you “My mommy is both for me!” It doesn’t matter what other people think about whether or not a mother wants to celebrate Father’s Day or not. How do you think your little boy would feel if his father wasn’t able to be around, and you had to be the father figure in his life? Would you allow your child to say Happy Father’s Day to you as a single mother? Or would you tell him that it’s not politically correct? Don’t get me wrong, I understand the point of view this “blog” is trying to make, but whoever it is, has never had to struggle with celebrating a parental holiday that one of your children can’t participate in. It’s heartbreaking to say the least. Please keep that in mind before you go bashing us single moms, and the fact that we celebrate holidays that aren’t made for us, so our other children will not be left out.

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  69. Msixty   June 23, 2015 at 7:12 am

    Fathers day is not meant for any kind of women. Period.

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  70. Trini C   June 23, 2015 at 4:15 am

    Y’all, it’s not that serious. Hallmark rakes it in on both those days and they don’t care who you buy the card for. It’s just not that serious people. Honor thy mother and father EVERYDAY! God bless.

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  71. Becca   June 22, 2015 at 7:30 pm

    Awe! Did someone get their puss in a snitch? For someone who “speaks” for a living, your opinion isn’t worth a pile of dirt! When a Mother has to DO the job of a MAN then YES she too can be given thanks for being the “father” in that family as she has more balls than the man that laid with her did to raise her children right! What do you care really? Why does it REALLY bother you to begin with? You apparently have some therapy issues to work out before you bring them to the stage. Let people be. Never discredit a congratulatory “good pat” on the back no matter what when it is due especially in times like we are in now. Bless your heart you are troubled. Get therapy fast and get a new job!

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    • The Truth   June 22, 2015 at 8:01 pm

      Awe! Did some penis-envy c*nt get her stinky puss in a snitch? Yeah, you react like that because you little, bitter feminazis hate to hear the truth. Is your pea brain too small to imagine that most single mothers have legally kept the dad out of the picture? Do you know what family court usually does to good men and great fathers? Yeah, it totally screws them. Of course you don’t think of these things; you’re a typical misandristic cow.

      Father’s Day is for FATHER’S. No matter how hard you pinheads try, you’ll never own a pair of “balls” and you’ll never be dads or understand what a great dad does. If they started a “tell single fathers happy Mother’s Day” campaign, gits like yourself would be the first to start bleeding out of your crotches.

      Seriously, it sounds like YOU need the therapy, and a course on how to be a REAL woman. Yeah, good luck with that huge chore.

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    • marina   June 22, 2015 at 8:31 pm

      Becca, you nailed it! I was thinking the same, some people need therapy seriously! Hahaha Happy Father’s Day to me! That I have been raising my child on my own for over ten years now, yes! I am a mommy and a daddy! The soft and the hard, my child is no confused at all and he is a wonderful human being, everyone says it and ofcourse I know it because I am raising him on my own. The only one confused is the person who wrote this whole nonesense of not celebrating single mothers for fathers day lol –

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  72. Nathalie A   June 22, 2015 at 6:09 pm

    Dear Single Dads,

    Please feel free to hijack Mother’s Day next year in honour of you doing the job that whore won’t do!

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  73. Eva   June 22, 2015 at 3:47 pm

    My mom is a single parent and I highly disagree with this article she taught me how to play baseball other sports ect and taught me every thing about beauty and clothes all by herself she is a dad and a mom if you don’t like it go crawl in a corner and deal with it and welcome to 2015. And America weren’t meant to have freedom here just because she has bobs and a vagina means she can’t celebrate FATHER’S DAY ARE YOU KIDDING ME IT’S MOTHERS DAY TWICE…. YOU ALL NEED TO GET OVER YOURSELF AND JUST STOP PICKING AT EVERY LITTLE THING.

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  74. [email protected]   June 22, 2015 at 3:08 pm

    What if your father is transgender and dresses like a women, is it Happy Father’s Day or Mother’s Day?

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  75. Michelle   June 22, 2015 at 1:47 pm

    Oh get over it ladies. Father’s Day is NOT for you, while you may be a single mother raising your kids, it doesn’t make it your day

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    • A   June 22, 2015 at 3:49 pm

      Michelle what are you a single mother no then who gives you the right to troll and throw a fit about father’s day being mothers day guess what you can’t do anything about it so get off your computer and go live your life and get over yourself your being ridiculous

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  76. christine Maiden   June 22, 2015 at 1:16 pm

    Who ever wrote this damn article must not have kids or been in this type of situation I celebrate Mother’s Day Father’s Day and single moms day and also grandparents raising grandchildren day so this article is a bunch of BS and another thing if in this article it said a man then why is Caitlyn Jenner celebrating Father’s Day she / he is a woman now so just to show you how bs this article really is

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  77. Shannon Weber   June 22, 2015 at 1:16 pm

    Who ever wrote this article does noy know what they are talking about!!! I have been a Single Mother for 20 years this August and I did it by myself with no one’s help unless I asked!!! I bet this author is,not a single parent and is very biased about men and woman that are single parents!!!

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  78. Tracy Hard   June 22, 2015 at 12:26 pm

    Technically you’re accurate about your definitions. However the roles we play can be seen in both lights. Regardless of this post I will celebrate how I choose. As should everyone. And thank you, I shall celebrate 3 holidays now. Fathers day, Mothers day and Single parents day. 🙂

    Shout out to all single parents pulling double duty. On whatever day makes you happy!

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  79. Sophie   June 22, 2015 at 11:07 am

    This is ridiculous. This whole article is full of offensive and inflammatory comments and statements. Single dads perform mothering tasks, and single moms perform fathering tasks, it’s part of the job that comes along as a single parent. There is no harm in mentioning single parents on either day. This statement “Contrariwise it capitalizes on a self-inflicted wound and stunts the process of healing,” is especially cringe-worthy…to suggest that being a single mom is a self inflicted wound is just so, so offensive to the kids (suggesting they are an injury to the parent…??) and so offensive to the mom who you may not have any idea why they ended up as a single parent. Like you even mentioned, some people who become single parents are the result of abusive relationships, or because they were raped, and to suggest being a single parent is a self-inflicted wound is victim blaming and absolutely gross.

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  80. juan   June 22, 2015 at 10:22 am

    Today’s society are so lost and confused!!! Father = male. Mother = female….its that simple. Single parents day is March 21 so if you chose to celebrate your mom an additional day for her hard work and double role then do it on this day, NOT Father’s Day!

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  81. David   June 22, 2015 at 10:17 am

    Single moms need to stop being selfish I know it could be hard but they have there day on mothers day it don’t matter if u play both roles that just mean your a better person then most and can still be even more respected on nothers dsy

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    • Mr. Wright 212   June 1, 2016 at 11:33 am

      Yep, it’s selfishness and the same pride that landed a good number of them single in the first place, that breeds these inane comments we read here.

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  82. Mel   June 22, 2015 at 9:45 am

    Well if you hold 2 jobs you get paid from both so if you play both roles the you deserve 2 days. Just like I always acknowledge single fathers on Mother’s Day. So I pay the bills in my house and I only accountable to one person and that’s my son. If I want to take two days to reward myself and my mother so be it. It doesn’t take it way from anyone at all. My bother still gets the tie from his kids and they believe he’s the greatest and the universe doesn’t come to an end.

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  83. Jane   June 22, 2015 at 9:43 am

    If I wanna recognize my mother on Father’s Day for being the only mother and father figure in my life then I will. Articles like thesenor just pointless because you are not going to persuade people like me who recognize there mom on the day. Just get over it and deal with it. Damn.

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  84. eric   June 22, 2015 at 9:19 am

    Single moms who do play both roles do get recognized it’s called MOTHERS DAY! Author is absolutely correct!! You are not and never will be a father!!! Stop taking away from those that are in their child’s lives and live and care for them like me and many others I know!

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  85. Debra   June 22, 2015 at 8:20 am

    What a boatload of crap. However, it’s just one persons lousy opinion. I don’t pick up that this blogger has had this experience, therefore she gets to pull the ol ignorance is bliss card.
    I take very personally your catoragorizing what brings a Mother into the role of a Father. Plz. You may take several seats. You have missed the mark at every turn.
    There is no way you spoke directly to Fatherless children, both young and older, being or having been raised by their Single Mothers. Who better to get this clarification from.
    Again, it’s just one persons baseless opinion who likely has had a present Father in her life, deeming her the last person we need to hear on this subject matter.
    Simply put, If this writing were toilet paper, I would wipe my derriere with it.
    (Then she repost in the 3rd person with her so called resume??) Good Gawd!

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  86. Donna   June 22, 2015 at 8:06 am

    If fathers fulfilled their role as they should, moms wouldn’t have to fill both shoes! Many moms play both roles , And should be recognized,, they are heroes in their child’s eyes,,

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  87. Stephanie   June 22, 2015 at 7:59 am

    So all the fatherless kids, just shut up on Father’s Day because you get to honor no one… =

    Bah. That’s ugly. I’ll let my kid say “Happy Father’s Day, Mom” if it’s what makes his heart happy. =]

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  88. Maryann   June 22, 2015 at 7:42 am

    I was single mom due to death of my husband, left with 3 girls from 1965 to 1984. I concur that I am for Mothers Day and not for Fathers Day for I am a women. My girls needed a male figure which I received from church.

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  89. Jodi   June 22, 2015 at 7:40 am

    It’s like you read my mind! Thank you!

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  90. Jenn   June 22, 2015 at 6:12 am

    I dont see whats wrong for single moms to be praised on fathers day nor it being wrong for a single father to be praised on mothers day if the other parent is fulfilling the other role then good for them no one elses business but the child who wants to praise them 🙂 Happy fathers day and mothers day to all the parents out there in any form they come in <3

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    • Daddy/mommy and proud   June 22, 2015 at 7:44 am

      Well said Jenn!!!!

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  91. Cathy Sampson   June 22, 2015 at 3:21 am

    I guess all these thoughts will have to be changed to politically correct if the LGBT movement have their way.

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  92. Jay   June 22, 2015 at 3:19 am

    Very good article and I agree that people devalue father’s day by wishing single mothers happy father’s day. I tried to explain this to a few people but they just couldn’t get it so I am going to share this article with them and see if they still disagree.

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  93. Nikki   June 21, 2015 at 11:40 pm

    My father chose to spend the majority of our childhood in and out of prison. When he was out he was in our lives but did nothing to help my mother raise us and then would do something to end up back in prison. His choice. She filled both roles. If the situation were reversed and he was the single parent filling both roles I would also wish him happy mother’s day

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    • Jessica   June 22, 2015 at 4:03 am

      To say that a woman or a man cannot fill the roll of the opposite parent when put in that situation is ignorant. My grandmother filled both roles for my mom and her siblings, I had to fill both roles in my son’s life because my ex husband is not a great role model for my son since he was abusive towards me. Men and women fill opposite gender roles everyday and should be encouraged and respected for the hard work they put in everyday. For that reason I will continue to wish single dad’s happy mothers day and single moms happy father’s day.

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      • sonia   June 22, 2015 at 4:40 am

        People argue I’m wrong I agree with you 100%

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  94. Michelle L   June 21, 2015 at 10:32 pm

    So what about single moms raising children who used to be orphans? Because that is what I am doing. My children don’t have a father, and unless I marry they won’t. I see nothing wrong with acknowledging single moms through no fault of their own who parenting alone being both mom and dad.

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  95. Nina   June 21, 2015 at 9:43 pm

    I highly doubt acknowledging a woman who plays both roles, on Fathers Day, devalues men and their role as fathers. The men that are good and active fathers, wonderful, the wouldn’t let the men that aren’t devalue them (because that’s really where the judgment comes from). Good fathers acknowledge my strength and routinely pat me on the back for being a fabulous single mother… it does nothing to their worth as fabulous fathers!

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  96. Erica   June 21, 2015 at 8:53 pm

    I will not give praise to my kids Father’s for this day. They have nothing to do with them. I think it is judgemental. I don’t take away from the single dads or married dads. I’m a single mom raising my kids n I play the role of father n mother to my kids. Just because deadbeat dads have kids doesn’t make them a father n I’m sure not gonna praise them or wish them a Happy Fathers day. They deserve nothing. JS.

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    • tim   June 21, 2015 at 9:37 pm

      Do you even understand the article, or even read it? Obviously not because you said EXACTLY what he said single mothers do

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      • Andrew   June 21, 2015 at 10:30 pm

        To make that point ^^^ stand out even more…the article was written by a female…

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      • Gary   June 21, 2015 at 11:01 pm

        Watch out Tim broke out the caplock which proves…that his computer caplock key is working and he uses a form of argument teens use to prove a point.

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  97. Anggelos   June 21, 2015 at 8:27 pm

    Well said and well put. I do not understand however how “cswilson66” sees the article as “judgmental”. The article give much and due respect to both genders while also giving sound reasoning.

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  98. cswilson66   June 21, 2015 at 7:39 pm

    So judgemental!

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  99. Micah   June 21, 2015 at 7:28 pm

    Singe mothers have mothers day. Stop encroaching on fathers. This is their day. My mom had to be both, but she would never take today away from all the great married and single fathers. This is truly a selfish, egotistical movement on the part of single mothers. Btw, I am a female calling out my fellow women. Let men be honored for a day. You have mothers day.

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  100. CWR   June 21, 2015 at 7:19 pm

    A single mother friend of mine celebrates Father’s Day with her son by celebrating the ways he will be a good father. He lists the things he wants to do with and for his future kids and she gets him a “manly” gift to help him grow up to be that kind of father. I think that it’s great!

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  101. Erin   June 21, 2015 at 5:51 pm

    I am a single mother and I don’t feel empowered by being recognized on father’s day. I feel sad that my children don’t get to celebrate their dad’s on father’s day. I don’t like all of this attention on single mothers on father’s day. It detracts from the men out there who do take care of their children and overcome their own obstacles and challenges.
    I think that maybe the article is a little harsh against single mothers. I also think that it is our responsibility to raise or children so that they don’t abandon their children in the future and that this culture, that is more focused on the single patenting, changes to focusing on the children. It’s a touchy subject because there are so many emotions and hurt involved. Each situation is different and to lump everyone into categories makes it more so. I always thought that mothers day and dad’s day was for the children to have an opportunity to celebrate their parent.

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  102. E   June 21, 2015 at 5:45 pm

    This article offends me as the child of a single mom and the future mother of a child with two moms. After I started reading I had to go back to check the gender of the author. Having a woman write this crap makes me want to spit. When “single parent day” is actually advertised (this is the first I’m hearing of it), maybe then I’ll stop recognizing my mother on a day that I could’ve recognized my father had he wanted to be a father to me. Furthermore, there is not a single thing a father does that a mother cannot do and blatantly saying so just continues the accepted gender roles society has created. It’s 2015, women can be doctors, lawyers, and fill the void so many men create when they abandon their children for whatever reason. Please join us in the present and leave that 40s style thinking where it belongs.

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    • lisa   June 21, 2015 at 6:47 pm

      E wow! You should really go back and reread this article. You are so upset, and this article praises you on a different level. You need to see that! My “father” sucks and my son’s “father” is worse, and I found this article to be helpful. There are men out there that are true meanings of the word “father”, and on this this day, the deserve recognization! We have our day, let them have theirs, and not be so angry. Love and peace

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    • T   June 21, 2015 at 7:23 pm

      E, you are part of the problem…
      Always wanting to support something being something it is not…. Roles of the father and mother are both very important but they are not one in the same. It is a shame that some children grow up without a father, but pretending a woman can do all of the roles is crippling to the proper development of a child. There needs to be a genuine, authentic masculine presence in the child’s life (grandfather, uncle, etc) even if the sperm donor is in fact worthless. To rob any child of that is completely selfish and inexcusable

      PS I wasn’t around for the 40s or the 70s for that matter, but I have to think they were better off in many ways back then…

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  103. Pao Castro   June 21, 2015 at 5:26 pm

    so does it means single fathers who raised their kids can also celebrate mothers day?

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  104. Kirstie   June 21, 2015 at 4:49 pm

    What about all the single mothers out there who took on the role of the father, just without a penis?
    What about all the single mothers who taught their sons to catch a baseball?
    What about all the single mothers who taught their daughters how to throw a punch?
    What about all the single mothers who protected their children from harm?
    What about all the single mothers who solely provided for their children?
    What about all the single mothers who taught and played and served their children?

    Biologically, you’re correct, my single mother could never be my “father”, but she sure as hell played both roles!

    This was a very well written article, and I’m glad you ended up not being quite as ignorant as I originally thought you would be after I read the title of this filth. For you to come out and say that mothers cannot play both roles is completely absurd though.

    There is absolutely nothing wrong with celebrating women today. Celebrating women on Father’s Day does not keep men from stepping up to their responsibilities. If a man is not following through with his responsibilities, the woman who steps up and takes over his lack of maturity SHOULD be celebrated.

    Though you’re right in the sense that a female cannot biologically be a father, it does not mean that she cannot take on the same role as a man.

    Your small-mindedness is whats really ludicrous here. Anyone who takes on the role of a father should be celebrated today, regardless of their sex, and anyone who takes on the role of a mother should be celebrated on mother’s day, along with every other day of the year.

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    • Flakes   June 21, 2015 at 5:18 pm

      I’m sure your mother is a great woman but paternal parenting is ingrained in the male psyche. Men offer a perspective that women simply can’t and vice versa. You call the author of this small minded but you fail to see the bigger picture here, its about principal. Would a white individual who fulfills a black role be allowed to take stage during African American history month? That would be considered narrow minded by most. If your not Irish but drink alot would you be able to say St. Patty’s day is your holiday? Acting a certain way doesnt give the right to join some “club” you have no reason being in. Heck you got pets? Go ahead your a parent right? It just doesn’t make sense ma’am. Since your mother fills both female and male roles she can enter any gender bathroom right? Shower in the boys locker room? Acting like someone doesn’t make you that person, that’s why it’s called acting. I act like a child but I’m not allowed near the ball pit because I’m an adult and can’t change that so I embrace it. So you go embrace your mother. Not because she’s your father but because she stepped up in the absence of one.

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    • Frank Lee   June 21, 2015 at 5:43 pm

      What if a mother this? What if a mother that? That’s simply a mother that really cared and made an effort… that’s all. A cat will never be a dog and a dog will never be a cat no matter how much they act like one another.

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  105. Johnny Gay Shepherd   June 21, 2015 at 4:17 pm

    I raised my two sons alone without their deadbeat father and I really think it is none of your business !

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  106. Athia   June 21, 2015 at 3:52 pm

    I’m sorry but if a child wants to reconize their mom or dad on both fathers day and mother’s day that is their choice. Appreciation for a strong parent for raising their child should be acknowledged however the child feels the need to do so.

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  107. Miriam   June 21, 2015 at 3:48 pm

    I think the Dad’s who love their kids regardless of circumstance would be the first to celebrate and understand how any single parent deserves to be recognised when they step up. As a single Mum I have no problem with a single dad being celebrated on Mother’s day. I am just grateful that those kids have someone to celebrate…

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  108. Angela   June 21, 2015 at 3:09 pm

    I agree with the writer…..i clearly understand her.

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  109. kayla   June 21, 2015 at 2:57 pm

    Well as a child with only a dad, my father never tried to recognize himself as our mom as well. But I decided he deserved recognition on both days for how great he was and I’ve been giving him mothers day presents as well as fathers day presents for 16 years. Everyone giggles at me but he’s special and deserves it

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  110. Saraivy   June 21, 2015 at 2:48 pm

    As a “single parent squared”; as i like to call it, where I have to fill both roles, celebrating Mother’s day and/or Father’s day have been symbolic. Because i fill both roles neither me or my son get to celebrate much, we run errands and do chores like any other day. Mothers day just means getting some texts, and Fb love. Fathers day means dealing with my son crying and wondering why his father doesn’t want to be around. So it seems petty to me, to care if a few moms gets a symbolic “happy fathers day.” I’m much more concerned with how fatherless children are fairing today. (maybe we should have Parents Day, for the children’s sake)

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  111. MandaEll   June 21, 2015 at 2:47 pm

    Nobody’s ever heard of Single Parents day so don’t even try to equate that. Until you are put in the role of the parent who HAS to play both parts, don’t claim to know what its like. The pressure to even attempt to do what a male can do is beyond explainable. I try to play rough with him like a man would, I had to teach him to pee standing up, etc etc that I would MUCH rather have a man do. Yes I am not biologically his Father, but his biological is evsn less of a Father than I am.

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  112. Rodnry   June 21, 2015 at 2:46 pm

    It’s not always the dad. I’m a single dad who’s wife after 18 yrs of marriage decided she wanted to o drink and do drugs with mu oldest sons best freind. She was 45 and he was 19 it’s been 3 yrs and my 17 yr old and I are just fine. She is still living with her little boy toy and doing drugs. She has seen MY son three times so please don’t lump all dad’s in to one grop

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  113. brandy   June 21, 2015 at 1:57 pm

    Lauding single moms on Father’s Day (or single fathers on Mother’s Day) is symbolic; not literal. I know I have never been able to fill the role of father the way a man could have; but my son’s father chose to be a deadbeat. I never sought (and darn sure never received) child support; nonetheless, my door was always open, if he wanted to come see his son. He didn’t…so father’s day was spent celebrating my brother for being a terrific father to my nephew; and my father for being both a wonderful dad, and even better grandpa. But my mom would get me a card. It wasn’t a big deal…just a little recognition that I was working hard to be the best mother, AND father, I could be…because I didn’t have the option to enjoy being JUST mom. My son still needed the things a father should provide. Would it have been better for me to ignore those “male” duties, just because I don’t fit the definition written in a dictionary? How many decades ago (or centuries) was that definition crafted? Back when single mothers were ridiculed and spit upon? Yeah…maybe it’s time for an update, because I had to do my best to play both roles. Fortunately for us, a wonderful man came into our lives just after my son’s 10th birthday…it was the first time my son was aware that my relationship with a man was more than just a friendship. My love, immediately & without hesitation, stepped up to role of father…even though he was 8 years my junior…just 26 years old…and didn’t have any kids of his own. The day we got married, my son chose to call my husband “dad.” He’s 15, now…and my husband gets the props on Father’s Day (as he deserves). But he never fails to remind my son that I had to play both roles until he found us. So, yes…we mothers…the ones TRULY FORCED into the roles of both parents…absolutely deserve to be celebrated on Father’s Day. (And the same goes for you dual-parenting dads on Mother’s Day!) We’ve earned it!!!

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    • Simphiwe   June 21, 2015 at 2:13 pm

      Why is Single Parents. Day and Mothers day not enough?

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      • Smhart   June 21, 2015 at 2:42 pm

        Because it takes 365 a year to be a parent not just on Hallmark holidays. A secure father would not find it threatening for single mother’s to be told, ‘Happy Father’s Day’. A single parent is ALL things to their child and acknowledging that doesn’t take anything away from anyone.

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  114. Joc B.   June 21, 2015 at 1:35 pm

    One of the most idiotic pieces I’ve ever read in my 32 years. A single mother is, in fact, mom, dad, friend, etc. You’re an idiot.

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  115. Surya   June 21, 2015 at 1:08 pm

    Your an ignorant, arrogant, uneducated, inconsiderate writer. obviously not a single mother so do not ever speak on our behalf again. Disgusting… You could have taken the time to appreciate the women who step up and do everything possible to fill that void of their father stepping out instead of stepping up. Instead you write this garbage. PS…We know we are not men!! Thank you for being so disrespectful to women on a day where ts shoved in our faces how the father of our kids is not a father at all!

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  116. Kalani   June 21, 2015 at 12:59 pm

    Hate to tell you this (actually I don’t) – but there are biological women who are in fact fathers…… Transmen. Are you saying that these people should be denied their role simply because of what genetalia they were born with, or the fact they may have carried their children in their womb prior to transition?

    On the flip-side, you must have no problem at all with a transwoman like myself celebrating fathers day, despite the fact I do not identify with such a role. I am my children’s mother, and despite the fact I am also their biological father – I simply do not refer to myself as such. My children are no worse off for having two mothers than anyone in any other non-abusive dynamic.

    And what of the intersex and genderfluid fathers out there? Are you denying them as well?….. Get off your high horse. People can celebrate however, and whenever they wish. They don’t require your permission to do so.

    Believe it or not, but a large number of people see both Fathers/Mothers day as destructive – if only for the fact that it further reinforces the fact that some people have one, or the other (and not both) for a variety of reasons. Days celebrating the absent parent only upset such children.

    I personally prefer to call them both “Parents Day” – so as not to exclude and unintentionally harm children who lack one or the other gender in their lives – as the more important part, is to celebrate those who play a parental role.

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  117. bob   June 21, 2015 at 12:18 pm

    So let’s get rid of mother’s day and father’s day and just call them Parents Day.

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  118. Nanazie   June 21, 2015 at 11:55 am

    Single mothers we will see you in August on women’s day! Our dadz have one day in a year!!! Allow please!!

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  119. Joan   June 21, 2015 at 11:09 am

    How about we allow people to celebrate however and whomever they wish to celebrate. It’s really not taking anything away from anyone else should anyone choose to honor whomever they like on whatever human-made holiday they choose. This sounds pretty bitter, as bitter as the Anne Lamott whine about Mother’s Day.

    For the record, a good parent is a good parent, regardless of their anatomy. If you keep telling kids they’re missing something without a specific-genetalia-bearer as a parent in their lives, they will grow up defensive about that. Surround your children with diverse humans – this is the most important aspect a parent can do, regardless of your personal family makeup.

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    • Amy   June 21, 2015 at 11:40 am

      Yes, yes, yes! Well said Joan! Much more tasteful than I would have put it 🙂

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  120. Andrea Navarro Trejo   June 21, 2015 at 11:08 am

    If caitlyn can be both so can we ….oops and we are

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  121. Lashonda   June 21, 2015 at 10:35 am

    Mothers are not trying to take away from anything on Father’s day. May God continue to bless all parents. Who cares what day it is that we celebrate someone we appreciate. It was my son’s idea to celebrate me on Father’s day. He asked what l wanted to do on Father ‘s Day. I was a single parent. He saw me struggle, work two jobs, pay rent, daycare, food, clothes, haircuts, and all the extra stuff. Today he is not a statistic. He is studying at California state University. ..I thank you father from above for giving me the strength. ..Happy Father’s Day..everyone…

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  122. John Pridemore   June 21, 2015 at 10:32 am

    Being a single father of a daughter. We only celebrated mothers day with my mother, her grandmother. Its a moms day. And so fathers day is a dads day. If you want to get PC end both Mother’s and Father’s day find a new Sunday and call it parents day.

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  123. warriorprophet   June 21, 2015 at 10:22 am

    Thank you so much for writing this. I’ve felt this for years. One day at work, on Father’s Day, a man said, “To all the single mothers in here, happy father’s day.” It really stung, because I am a faithful husband of 13 years and a father of 7 children, from the same woman. Later, a dear female coworker sent me an email and said how proud of me she was, and how the world needed more fathers like me. I was touched to tears by her recognition. I appreciate you Cherese.

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  124. Lorra   June 21, 2015 at 10:07 am

    It’s tongue in cheek, get over it. As a single mom I have been wished a Happy Father’s Day and have wished single dad’s who do it without mom’s help, a happy mothers day. It’s not saying I’m a dad or they’re a mom. It’s just a way for us to recognize each other. Now, all single parents might not feel this way, but I see it more of a kindred spirit thing. As single parents we like to recognize in each other how hard what we do every single day is. No one knows what it’s like until they are a single parent, not a parent whose spouse is in the military (I’ve been a military wife too, so I speak from experience), not a parent whose spouse travels for work a lot or works a lot of hours or doesn’t contribute around the house. It is an experience that only those who have walked in those shoes can understand. And for a lot of single parents, they are doing it 100% on their own, and their kids choose to recognize what their parent does. It’s a day, a Hallmark card holiday, yes, you can Webster the definition of a Father or Mother, but you cannot tell us how to celebrate it. So Happy father’s day, dads, step-dads, grandpas, foster dads, uncles and single mamas and Happy Mother’s Day to all the single dads out there too. 😉

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  125. Darrell   June 21, 2015 at 8:46 am

    Wow You all are really trying to justify the devaluing of Father’s Day to just another day of recognition for the parent YOU favor. Recognizing anyone other than the fathers on this day is so disrespectful to the men who rightfully deserve this day. I was raised by a single mom, but she would consider it a slap in the face to my father if I ever wished her a happy Father’s Day. Why? Because she wasn’t and never could be my father. She was an awesome mother. Period. Father’s Day is for the men. Mother’s Day is for the women. What’s so hard about leaving it that way?

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  126. Lucy   June 21, 2015 at 8:22 am

    In practical terms, who is and is not honored on Father’s Day is pretty much up to each individual family. If kids want to do something nice for their single mother on Father’s Day, then more power to them. It doesn’t affect anyone else, so why does it matter? It’s their business, not yours.

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  127. Bobbie Jo   June 21, 2015 at 8:10 am

    I will argue this, due to the fact that it’s okay for single fathers to proclaim Mother’s Day as well! Being a single mother isn’t the easiest job, but it’s the most rewarding!!!! Do not sit and judge someone for doing the awesome job of two ppl! I believe the saying goes, “anyone can be a daddy, but it takes someone special to be a daddy!” There’s men that walk away from their responsibilities and either they (women) pick them up and carry them out, or another man steps up to the plate. Never underestimate a single parent!!!!

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  128. Reg   June 21, 2015 at 7:59 am

    I think this is from someone who does not understand the role of the single mother to stand in as a father. I am not a single mother by choice. I have to teach my child on my own all the life skills. It isnt forming additional resentment but if a child has no father the child needs to be allowed to honor the parent that is there, whether that person is male or not. If a woman is filling both roles in a childs life then she has earned the honor. I wish all single parents a happy single parent day on the opposite holiday. It honors the unique role.

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  129. colleen   June 21, 2015 at 7:28 am

    Single motherhood is “a self inflicted wound”??? Wow. No one is undervaluing the dads who step up. We shouldn’t applaud those that step up either… They should just be there its their family and responsibility. No kudos for doing your job

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  130. Nina   June 21, 2015 at 6:59 am

    This is a brilliant post that was simply lost in translation. The fact of the matter is… a woman will NEVER… I repeat… NEVER be a father to her children! Unless a woman entered her own body with a penis that’s HERS and created life there is no way a woman should be honored on Father’s Day! I bet for all of the women who want to be honored on Father’s Day if you referred to her as a man or said she looks like a man she would take offense to that. Personally, I would take offense to someone trying to honor me on Father’s Day. I am a woman who has never had the desire to portray a man or take over a man’s role. Like the author said, why would we teach our children to devalue men? If the child’s father is not in their lives the answer is obvious simply do not celebrate the day!!

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  131. Adriana Burga   June 21, 2015 at 6:56 am

    Of course we are mothers!! No real fathers! Come on!! This article is sooo stupid! When we say we also fall in this category is because we, single mothers, do both roles!! The caring and the providing the nurturing and the inspiring the worrying and the disciple…so we feel that we cover everything and it isnt easy! But yeah we dont have penis, duh!

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  132. Jodie   June 21, 2015 at 6:27 am

    Ms. Jackson – shut up and let families celebrate these days in any manner they choose. You have no idea what and who holds the family together – single dad’s are honored on mother’s day and I for one live the idea that children and society are inclusive. So, families celebrate to the fullest the love of those loving on you. My children, on their own wanted to celebrate me on Father’s day and I damned sure wasn’t going to crush their desire.

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  133. katie   June 21, 2015 at 6:25 am

    I totally disagree my dad walked out on us when I was 12. Not only did he walk out but he did something that was a disgrace. After he left it took my mom a while to cope she felt as if everything had droped on her. It took her a while to reliaze that she didn’t need him. My mom by herself did not even finish high school because she got pregnant at 15. She had me when she was 18 and my lil sis when my mom was around her 20. All of us with the same man. This woman has done more for us than any man has ever done. Who ever says fathers day is not for mother is just rude. Single mother should be proud that they take control in the spot that the father couldn’t be in. Yes it says fathers are man but man forget that. My mom raised 3 girls all by herself. Right now my older sister is actually 17 and my lil sis is 7 and I am 15. She works 10 hours straight everyday just for us to have food and other supplies. I have never seen a women so determined. My mom has played both roles and she has done a heck of a job. So all you single mom when someone tells you happy father’s day please just please don’t get offended. Be happy that people notice that you took on two roles and you’ve done a great job.

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  134. Tal   June 21, 2015 at 6:21 am

    What a simple view…no depth of thought here at all

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  135. Jess   June 21, 2015 at 4:49 am

    If you really want to get technical, you could say there’s no suitable solution for parents with neutral gender identity to celebrate one or the other. Every family is different. Fathers day to some kids (like it was to me) is difficult if you don’t have a male figure to look up to. Let them do what they want. If they feel like their mother influenced them so much and they have no male figure, let them deal with that by giving Mom an extra “thank you”.

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  136. Teri Sanders   June 20, 2015 at 11:05 pm

    In a corporate way, I agree with this position. However, if an individual child wants to tell their mother, “thanks for serving in both roles” that child should not be told, “no, this celebration is not for your mom that tried to play both roles” — that child should be allowed to honor the parenting they received from the mom, even if the role should have fallen to the father.

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  137. William   June 20, 2015 at 11:05 pm

    Really??? women are now attacking father’s day??? come on!! the man cant have anything without the woman screwing it up for them!! Mother’s Day and Father’s Day are strictly oriented to gender you nitwits!!! A single mother should not be celebrated on Father’s Day because she has no penis!!! and vice versa for Mother’s Day!! There is a Day in March for single parents to celebrate, leave it to that Damn!!

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    • Suzie   June 21, 2015 at 4:53 am

      Wow!! Someone has Mommy issues!! Let me guess, your not a parent!

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  138. Kimberley Spinney   June 20, 2015 at 10:39 pm

    Personally I find it interesting how much of a debate has been raised by this topic. Especially with how many women are having an issue with the topic, but as some have even said, you don’t really see fathers doing this when it comes to mother’s day. We complain about double standards, but yet we help perpetrate them when it suits us. I would never take away from single parents raising their kids, plus if a child chooses to honor their parent on both days that is entirely up to them, but this argument over who deserves to be celebrated is ridiculous. Do away with both holidays and just celebrate being a parent, then everyone can either be miserable since they no longer have a day of honor or they are happy because now every day is an equal opportunity to be appreciated.

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  139. Hank Fox   June 20, 2015 at 10:32 pm

    Total agreement. I put it this way:

    Sunday, June 21, is Father’s Day.

    Note that Sunday is not Mother’s Day. It’s not Single Mother’s Day. It’s not Divorced Mother of Four Day Because Nobody Ever Notices Poor Divorced Mothers of Four Who Never Get a Fair Shake and OMG Why Are Men Getting All This Attention?

    It’s Father’s Day.

    Mother’s Day happened already, on May 10. On that day, there was a totally appropriate national outpouring of love for mothers. If you recall, there were exactly zero people crying “‘Why aren’t we honoring fathers too??” Because it was a day for MOTHERS, not fathers, and everybody was decent enough to let that be the case. Not all of us had mothers that were all that great, but we sat back, shut our mouths, and let mothers nationwide have their exclusive day — because it was the right thing to do.

    This day, June 21 here in the U.S., is FATHER’S DAY.

    Father’s Day, okay? Father’s Day.

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  140. Kim   June 20, 2015 at 9:09 pm

    Ms. Jackson.
    First of all….a dictionary definition does little more to qualify you opinion than emotion does anyone else’s.
    Definitions change, otherwise there could just be a shorter edition of definitions, adding new words each year. And you contradict yourself on that point when you say biological then turn around and include non-biological male relatives as one eligible to be a father.

    Your dance around just saying you think single moms are some how responsible for their circumstance, isn’t very convincing even with a list of clear examples of when it can’t possibly be their fault.

    There are plenty of single moms & single dads who do much to go out of their way to role reverse. Dad’s learn how to listen and support daughters differently then they could with 2 parents involved. Mom’s learn how to teach boys that erections are a normal part of physiology. A parent parents, they do their best to be the best of what their child needs.

    There are lots of parents who choose not to parent….NEVER is one of them able to say the other parent was too ‘fill in the blank’ for them to stick around. Parents who choose to be absent are too weak and cowardly to stay (with little exception). To them parenting is about them, not their obligation to their children.

    So for every Dad who attempts to mother and every Mom that attempts to father….Happy Mother and Father’s Day because you are doing the work of two parents.

    For all you weak, cowardly, walk away parents….you get no day! You shouldn’t even get your birthday. If you want to be recognized as a parent, do the hard stuff that’s what parents do. If you want to be recognized on Father’s Day be a father. If you want to be recognized on Mother’s Day be a mother. There are plenty who don’t get the opportunity, because they died. Other than that the only thing that stands between you and your kid is YOU!

    Written by a child raised by a single mom. I recognize the man who impregnated my mother because he is biologically my father….but he doesn’t get treated with special gifts or mushy cards…he gets “Happy Father’s Day” my mother gets recognized and thanked for all she did to father me, including 4 years after my father became no longer reachable, giving me the best Daddy a girl could ask for! Also written by a woman who stuck around in a marriage that didn’t always please me, didn’t always serve me and at times even kept me down….because I wanted my kids to have their dad in a two parent family. I’d be with that man today, but he died after we did all our child raising and became grandparents 5 times. He was my best friend and one hell of a husband. People my age and younger don’t know what it means to be a parent nor a spouse these days. You can’t ever be happy unless you know how to get through bad times together. Even if you do a poor job, you stick to your responsibilities until the job is done. There are exceptions, but they are few or they wouldn’t be exceptions they’d be part of the rules.

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    • anonymous   June 20, 2015 at 9:23 pm

      here here!

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  141. NAN   June 20, 2015 at 7:52 pm

    Couldn’t disagree more. When you have walked in a single mother’s shoes, write a new article and eat this one.

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    • Kim   June 20, 2015 at 8:36 pm

      Hi Five Nan!

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  142. Brodie Pisack   June 20, 2015 at 5:28 pm

    A father is a lot more than a man that bears a child. He is a dad he brought you into this world and that is important. A father can be anyone that raises you how a kid should be rasied with good morals and was there for you to bring you up and teach you about the important things in life a FATHER is more than simply the man that made you. It is the man that MADE you.

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  143. Patricia   June 20, 2015 at 5:19 pm

    S

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    • Patricia   June 20, 2015 at 5:22 pm

      Probably one of the most ignorant things I’ve ever read

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  144. Nancy Shoemaker   June 20, 2015 at 3:27 pm

    You say that by appreciating a single mother on father’s day, it devalues the role of the father in the child’s life. Um…. WHAT FATHER is being devalued? If there WAS a father, then obviously the (again, single) mom wouldn’t be the one appreciated on father’s day. I’m a single mom and my children and I celebrate the day with my father, their grandfather. Their grandfather is also not only your list of acceptable fathers I see. I sure hope my children don’t worry about overly rigid ideas about a sentimental holiday, because we are all doing the best we can and I think we are doing great.

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  145. Katie   June 20, 2015 at 3:00 pm

    This is disgusting.

    As someone with an abusive father, I don’t think he deserves a day of celebration for “all that he’s done” for me or the family. Celebrating Father’s Day with a single mother or Mother’s Day with a single father is paying tribute to the fact that these single parents should be celebrated both days for their roles as both father and mother.

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  146. doug   June 20, 2015 at 11:10 am

    This was taken September 29, 2013 the night before I moved to Kelowna. I’m sure Danny will agree that you have been a great dad to us and have supported us even when you think we are being ridiculous. For me, even though today is Mother’s Day. I think the day belongs to you. After all when I was a kid, I told you that you were both my mom and my dad. I love you very much, and I can’t wait to see you on June! smile emoticon

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  147. Ceb   June 20, 2015 at 5:08 am

    How about the day can be whatever it means to the person celebrating it in ther unique situation and you quit with the generalizations.

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  148. Sandy   June 19, 2015 at 7:01 pm

    It isn’t the single moms wanting to be recognized on Father’s day, but the children raised in a household where dad is non-existent and mom had to teach the child what a dad should have been there for. (Sometimes having to learn it herself at the same time.) I can understand the dads who try to be dads being upset, but you are defending the fathers who choose to be absent. I would feel the same about celebrating single dads on mother’s day, when they fill the mom role. For all of you who are upset about “your day” being usurped, give me the answer to tell my child. Why don’t I have a daddy? If I got a present for my dad do you think he’d want to see me? Why does my daddy not want me? Not every single parent plays both roles, but those cards are for the child who wants to honor his/her father on the holiday that all their friends celebrate when mom had been the only dad they’ve ever had. I would gladly give that card back to not have to come back tears while explaining how a father can see their child and then choose to sign away parental rights. As for single parents day….unless the whole world celebrates it, it just becomes a pathetic cry for attention from a single parent instead of a day for the child to honor their parent.

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  149. Crystal   June 19, 2015 at 12:59 pm

    I agree that this day is for Fathers, and if you had any positive male role models, this is a good day to recognize him. But I grew up without any positive male role models, including my older brother. My mother did her best to make me well rounded in both stereoypical male and female activities. She went to baseball games with me, I was in soccer and basketball, and I played with Barbies and Tonka trucks. She was my mother and my father in my eyes. My biological father was literally never there, skipping out the moment he heard my mom was pregnant. She never asks for a Father’s day gift, but it’s my choice. We do a big celebration on Mother’s day, but I will make her a little picknic and give her a small gift to show her my appreciation on Father’s day weekend too. Because she is the closest to a father that I ever had. She actually grew up with a widdowed father, so I am thankful that he stepped up to that role and gave me a mother who was strong enought to try and raise her kids right. I learned from her struggles and am childless in my 30s, deciding not to have children until I am in a loving marriage. My children will have both parents, and it’s due to her teachings and attempts to fulfill both parential roles that I am who I am today.

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    • DASHA   June 20, 2015 at 12:33 am

      I totally agree with you…but woman has the word man…and my mother was sometimes more of a man than my own father…I still pray that he would be in my life …but things would have been different if he stepped up to be the man…and a father…my brother was more of a father…and for that I praise my brother…who turned out to be a wonderful father…and husband…and and knew that God had a plan…..God is the ultimate Father…and can only be the most important at times when there is need of a father….Thank you for your post

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  150. Kelly   June 19, 2015 at 10:46 am

    I am a single mother and I COULD NOT AGREE MORE. I hate it when people tell me Happy Father’s Day because I “play both roles”. No, I don’t. It isn’t possible for me to be a father. And it actually feels hurtful and condescending when people say it to me. I did not choose to be a single mom, it is something that happened. It is lonely and hard and exhausting. But I am not a father. And on another note, for women to need recognition on this day is RIDICULOUS and self involved. You have mothers day. Let fathers have their day.

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    • Nancy Shoemaker   June 20, 2015 at 4:09 pm

      I don’t think you understand- we single moms don’t want or ask to be recognized on this holiday. We aren’t telling our kids to plan to celebrate US on Father’s Day. In fact, as single moms we are used to putting our own needs aside, don’t you think? No, this is if our kids choose to appreciate us on a day when they have no father to celebrate. Would you really tell your well- intentioned child, “No, I’m no father to you. You have no father. Put that gift away.” Now THAT sounds ridiculous and self-involved.

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  151. Amber   June 19, 2015 at 7:37 am

    I call b.s. No harm in recognizing the sacrifices us single mothers have to make. If a child’s father chooses not to be in their life for whatever reason, it is up to the mom to be twice the parent. Now if a single mom keeps her kids from their dad to be spiteful or for any reason other than that said dad is truly unfit (kids aren’t safe), that’s a whole different story. I hate all the women out there that made their baby daddies jump through hoops or just refuse to be mature enough to coparent. I would give anything for my kids’ dad to want to be involved.

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  152. ZMSCH   June 19, 2015 at 6:33 am

    Who the heck are you (or anyone else) to tell anyone how to celebrate anything? How people choose to celebrate a certain day, based on their personal history, is their own decision (and business!). Surely a life coach would understand the merits of such an empowering concept. I guess not.

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  153. Emily   June 19, 2015 at 3:55 am

    Wow, what a waste of time reading this garbage. Besides the grammatical errors and made up words, the whole article just repeats the same paragraph over and over. If this is a big problem in your eyes, then your priorities are skewed. 2 minutes of my life I’ll never get back.

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    • Marcus   June 19, 2015 at 4:45 am

      You must be one of those bitter do it all yourself Mom’s who wants Father’s Day to be about you too. You have Single Parents day in March and Mothers Day in May.

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  154. KARIZMA74   June 19, 2015 at 3:28 am

    Absolute truth. Moms are not dads. Why this is insulting is baffling to me.

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  155. Danielle   June 19, 2015 at 1:33 am

    What a load of crap and these men that make children and run off have even less right to celebrate fathers day if 1 parent is doing all the work they have EARNED the right to celebrate whatever the hell they like. Most boring 2 mins of my life reading that

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  156. Christine   June 18, 2015 at 11:59 pm

    As a single mother this makes me feel like I am not an adequate parent and I am lacking in certain skills 🙁

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  157. Tamara   June 18, 2015 at 11:19 pm

    By recognizing a single father who is playing both mother and father or a mother who is playing both roles is not taking anything away from those who are not single parents. It’s more encouraging for them who have the job of being a parent twice as hard. I am a single mother with a 16 year old son who tells me both happy Mother’s Day and happy Father’s Day! I’m have no ill feelings towards his father. Nor am I trying to replace his father I am showing my son how to be strong and respectable and I am most definitely not trying to be a man for him. He knows and appreciates the sacrifices I make for him. So I feel people should not be bashing single parents for getting acknowledgement and extra love from their kids and peers on both holidays! They deserve it just like those men who choose to step up and be fathers and not just sperm donors and same for the women. Any parent who does their job of raising their kids and doing a good job deserve to be recognized. Just my thoughts

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  158. stephanie   June 18, 2015 at 10:30 pm

    I wish my mom a happy father’s day every year. She is the one who was there for me growing up, she was always more of a father than my own, so to me she’s my mom and dad. She is the one that I feel deserves the gratitude and recognition. I won’t stop recognizing my mom on father’s day just because others have a different opinion.

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  159. respect father's day   June 18, 2015 at 10:02 pm

    We are not sending the right message if we take father’s day and make it a single mothers/father’s day. We are telling the world father’s are not important. Father’s are important. Father’s need a day to also feel special, loved, appreciated. Women need to respect that day. It’s unfortunate that today single women raising children alone is more common than before. I have great respect for women that do. Its hard to raise children, work and do everything else to be the best parent our children can have. But I have also seen men raise children alone because women chose other men over their children. That is also common in our times. Should we also get rid of mothers day and make it single father/mothers day? Of course not because we also need a day to be told how important our role as parents is. Women stop making everything about women and respect men. We all know a man we love, respect, admire, and that is what this day is for. It’s to tell men/biological fathers/ father figures, whoever it may be that we thank them, love them and appreciate all they have done for us, our kids, or our mothers.

    Society will prosper if we respect one another.

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  160. sylviaal   June 18, 2015 at 9:26 pm

    I respectfully disagree with this article. Sincerely, Single Mother.

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    • Cherese Jackson   June 18, 2015 at 9:51 pm

      You did it so gracefully and respectfully. Thank you!

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  161. alli   June 18, 2015 at 8:23 pm

    I’d already had the feeling I was reading a C- quality high school journalism submission but at the closing sentence (which began “in conclusion”) I hung my head, sorry I’d just wasted time on something so poorly written.

    The author first says that women are often single parents not by their own choosing, but then turns around later in the article and refers to single parenting as a “self inflicted wound.” So which is it? You’re painting them as victims of circumstance or laying blame on them? And I understand the reasoning behind arguing that celebrating a single mother on Father’s Day could potentially devalue the role of a present, involved father… But that’s not always the situation. What about fathers who choose to not step up and take part in their children’s lives? In that instance a father doesn’t deserve to be given any value and there is no mention made of this incredibly common situation. Throughout the piece the author occasionally makes it seem as though a single mother is deserving of praise but each and every time doubles back and finds a way to say that a woman cannot be a man’s equal concerning parenting.

    I wish I had the time to pick this ridiculous article apart paragraph by paragraph, but I don’t sat the moment unfortunately.

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  162. Alex   June 18, 2015 at 6:58 pm

    Well honestly Mother’s Day is for… Mothers or of the female gender and Father’s Day is for the male gender. Both genders are givin their moment to shine.. However, it’s not about be a father or a mother it’s about being a parent! Being a parent means being someone who comes second place.. Sometimes third and fourth.. I feel people get caught up in all the drama surrounding these issues. I am now a single father caring for my little girls! However I do t race or compete with my ex as tempting as it may be. It’s a matter of balance

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  163. Angel   June 18, 2015 at 4:41 pm

    But this is giving gender roles. Like telling a woman she should only do motherly things because she’s a woman, and telling a man to do only fatherly things because he’s a man. Mother’s day and Father’s day are not biological celebrations, like a birthday. They are social celebrations, genders are a social thing. And your saying: “this day is designed to honor the men who acknowledge their children and hold their roles as dads in high esteem.”, is actually saying that men are known to not hold their roles as dads in high esteem, and that’s not important, so let’s celebrate the dad’s who actually remember what their roles are. But when a mom forgets her role as mom, the other moms who did not forget their roles do not get as honored as the dads who “acknowledge” their roles.
    One important thing you forgot to make clear: what are the exact descriptions of the role of a father and the role of a mother, in your opinion?

    I believe a mother and a father should not be seen as different from one another or inferior/superior to each other.

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  164. Ia   June 18, 2015 at 4:37 pm

    I completely disagree. There is nothing wrong in acknowledging your single parent, whether single father or single mother, on both Mother and Father’s Day. If you have a single dad, greet and thank him both on mother’s day and father’s day. If you have a single mom, greet and thank her both on mother’s and father’s day.

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    • Ebrown1   June 18, 2015 at 5:53 pm

      Confused much? I can’t stand when seemingly intelligent people take other people’s word and twist them into foolishness. Her point is extremely clear and unambiguous. Males are fathers females are mothers…Mother’s Day for mothers and Father’s Day for fathers. Nothing in this article diminishes the role of either….in fact, I think she makes it perfectly clear that she values both roles. And yes each parent has different roles in their children’s lives otherwise it wouldn’t be such a big deal when one parent is missing for whatever reason. As a woman, why would you want to celebrate that day anyway? We have our own day and we should be woman enough to accept that

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  165. Alic   June 18, 2015 at 2:16 pm

    If your being the dad figure then you deserve to be celebrated on Fathers day!

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  166. Mike Bossley Campbell   June 18, 2015 at 1:01 pm

    I agree with this article, i am a single father, every week i drive over one hour to pick my daughter, and when her mother have car problems and/or can not find a baby sitter, i get up super early to drive over an hour and get my daughter, take are to the day care, get to work then later picker her up and taking her back home,i also pay for baby sitter. Now i know for a fact i am not the only good dad around, i have friends and family who are great dads too. I think i speak for all the dad around the world who didn’t ran from their responsibility, that we take great pride RAISING AND SUPPORTING OUR KIDS. Mother’s day was in may and people around the world honor and praise all the mothers both single and married. Now lets make Sunday June 21,2015 a day, that we honor the dads around the world, especially the single dads, we face trouble and obstacle too, but through it all we did not ran we stood up and take care of our babies

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  167. liz   June 18, 2015 at 12:43 pm

    This is a pretty sad commentary when men are publicly and proudly becoming women. Face it the world has changed. Your statements are true only in your corner of the world. Women should who have been mom and dad should be celebrated as both. Besides the holiday was created to boost sales during a seasonal lull. Who really cares who gets what. Hope your Dad likes your article.

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  168. AOB   June 18, 2015 at 10:04 am

    Very biased article. Won’t even waste my time addressing it. Besides…if a child wants to acknowledge the man in the moon on Father’s Day for consistently being there for them… then that child’s view and wishes trump everything! The “concept of Father’s Day” or the “definition of a father” is irrelevant to a child!

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    • loverofblue   June 18, 2015 at 11:06 am

      You just addressed this “very biased article” with your biased opinion. If the definition of a father is irrelevant to a child, why don’t children call their dads, “mom”?

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  169. emmashadow19rita   June 18, 2015 at 9:05 am

    youre an idiot

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    • Phylicia Sadler   June 18, 2015 at 10:13 am

      Why? Because the author is telling the truth? If a woman wants to celebrates two days then she can celebrate single parents day which is in March. Like the author says when a woman holds down her family it makes her a great parent not a father.

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    • Phylicia Sadler   June 18, 2015 at 10:23 am

      For those who disagree with this article why take the time to read and /or comment? This author wrote this article beautifully and I agree with her one hundred percent. Just because a woman is raising a family by herself for whatever reason makes her a wonderful woman a strong mother and an awesome parent. However that doesn’t qualify her to be a father. She doesn’t magically grow a penis and testicles overnight just because she works forty hours or more a week. If she wants to celebrates a second day then she can celebrate single parents day which that’s what she is a single parent not a man and woman at the same time. We need to uplift our single mothers and let them be comfortable in their womanhood instead of speaking to their emotions and pains of what happened to her by giving her fake manly powers.

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      • Angel   June 18, 2015 at 4:47 pm

        A testicle and a penis don’t define your responsibility as a parent. What difference should it make between a person with female sexual organs and one with male sexual organs in their responsibility of raising a child?

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  170. Elaina   June 18, 2015 at 8:46 am

    I do acknowledge mother’s on Father’s Day and fathers on Mother’s Day if they are single doing it on their own more respect to them. For whatever reason.

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    • Elaina   June 18, 2015 at 8:49 am

      If you are playing both roles guess what you get two days.

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      • none   June 18, 2015 at 9:35 am

        no, single parents day is in march. mothers day is in may, if you are a woman, you get those. deal with it or grow a dick.

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    • Cg   June 18, 2015 at 9:03 am

      Your entitled to your opinion just as much as the author has the right to state that you’re wrong.

      My mother raised me by herself. Not one time did she teach me to take away the honor of all the real fathers out. She had me call my grandfather, who was a real father.

      If you enjoy your current path, that’s your right, but please spread the hate or spew away the fact that many real fathers exists and they should be celebrated. It sucks being a single parent, but fathers day isn’t about you. You don’t even need recognition days to prove you’re doing your best alone. I’m sure your child tells you everyday.

      Please realize that by taking away the honor of real fathers by demanding single moms should be honored on fathers day, you are contributing to hate philosophy.

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  171. Timothy   June 18, 2015 at 6:16 am

    Not to be vulgar, but when a female can demonstrate how to pee standing then she can celebrate fathers day. Lol. Just one of the many life lessons only a Man can truly teach.

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    • Elaina   June 18, 2015 at 8:40 am

      They have a product for that, google it.

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  172. tiaa mastracci   June 18, 2015 at 5:53 am

    Just because this is your opinion doesn’t make it true. You are not God, you don’t get to decide the rules to life. I hate people like you. Know it alls – If you knew anything at all, you’d realize you know nothing. I will say happy fathers day to my Mom, regardless of this crap article. And your clearly superier attitude. Lol f u.

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  173. Crystal   June 18, 2015 at 4:30 am

    The article is accurate, respectful and correct. Providing doesn’t make you a dad…smh.

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  174. Dianegirl   June 18, 2015 at 4:30 am

    I saw just as much “campaign” to wish single fathers a happy mothers day. By campaign I mean maybe three posts on facebook. Same for this. I agree that it seems silly to get your own special day, dedicated to you as a parent, then insist on taking your ex’s too. But again, saw the reverse on Mothers Day, so it’s clearly not just about devaluing the role of the father.

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  175. Letty   June 18, 2015 at 1:21 am

    All you got to say to make this article more simple is $ingle Parents’ Day takes place each year on March 21 Nuff Said.

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  176. Letty   June 18, 2015 at 1:17 am

    You sound like the government . it’s more like mothers being fathers so they get both days they always do want attention .. Give them single struggling proud mommas this one . I do

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  177. Alex1   June 18, 2015 at 12:33 am

    Im a single father who is raisng my 3 year old daughter as my left us. I cant replace her mother but please respect father’s day. As to honor the sacrifices of fathers.

    Also Happy father’s day Dad!

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  178. Single   June 17, 2015 at 10:09 pm

    In my opinion, Father’s Day is a day to celebrate the person fulfilling the role of a Father, not a day to celebrate the person who donated the sperm. Recognizing single women on Father’s Day is a way for children to appreciate the double effort and duty one parent provides. Single women who step up and take full responsibility for parenting while the biological father is nowhere to be found, should be honored and celebrated as not just the Mother, but the Father as well. Your views are out-of-date and it’s apparent you think what we really should be celebrating is “Sperm Donator” day!

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    • Brandon   June 18, 2015 at 7:56 am

      You’re missing the entire point of this argument and the article if you still insist on trying to include mothers in this conversation… I was raised by a single mom and in no way was she able to fill the void or provide the guidance and knowledge provided by male mentors. She tried her best and I’ll always love and honor her for that, but it wasn’t enough. I’m sorry if you don’t understand the article out refuse to be open to the idea because of anything in your past, but the fact that a Mother can’t play the role Father can’t logically be challenged.

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  179. M. Bright   June 17, 2015 at 9:43 pm

    She’s right. You just don’t understand.

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  180. Angi   June 17, 2015 at 9:38 pm

    Why be a dick? Its a day to celebrate someone who inspires you. Mom dad grandpa grandma friend uncle aunt…whoever. Don’t devalue them by taking away a day to show them love just because they don’t have the “right” body parts.

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  181. Emoney   June 17, 2015 at 9:32 pm

    Well what about them donors who just don’t want to take the responsibilities. I commend the father’s the real ones that are there for the children no matter what. Yes it is father’s day for men but when a mother has 2 play both roles and had no intentions and it’s not because of ill will just dead beat men. Then happy father’s day to you single mothers that are truly doing it all by yourself. I thank myself everday. But it’s the kids that are suffering…

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  182. Carrie   June 17, 2015 at 8:53 pm

    I am a single mother who has been told “Happy Father’s Day” many times in years past and it doesn’t make me feel more proud of the mother that I am. It makes me sad for my daughter who does not have… a father. I absolutely agree with Ms. Jackson! Let’s praise all of the fathers who play an active, supportive role in their children’s lives!

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  183. sain mota   June 17, 2015 at 8:34 pm

    Father’s Day is for men who stand up and be a role model for their children. A man who is there to clean the cuts and be the hero when society villains are there to attack. A father is not only just a man is yet the symbolism and the reminder that every person who is a father or a father figure should be celebrated. A father is a dad not just semen who wiggled inside an egg.This article is stupid.

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    • B Queen   June 17, 2015 at 9:25 pm

      I agree with you !00% sain mota. The article is useless.

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  184. Firefly   June 17, 2015 at 8:33 pm

    Here is an idea! If the father is doing his job he will be celebrated on Father’s day, and if the mom is doing her job she will be celebrated on Mother’s day. If someone has to fill the shoes of either roll, and the children want to honor them, so be it. The bigger problem is how both days are so COMMERCIALIZED, and that it has become a big money grubbing retail frenzy. Gone are the days of homemade cards and a neck tie or a box of chocolates, now it is as ridiculous as Christmas season is, ads starting a month prior. Funny though I have NEVER seen a thing about single parent’s day advertised, nor did I know about it until I read this article….interesting!

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  185. Firefly   June 17, 2015 at 8:23 pm

    If a dad who is the only parent in a child’s life celebrates Mother’s day, I would not mind one little bit, he earned it. Vise verse, it does not dilute Mother’s day or Father’s day. What about a grandparent who has reared a child, but is not legally the mother or father?? There are a lot of circumstances out there that are not all cut and dry. If my child wants to honor me on Father’s day ( his doing) do I say no???

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  186. Leah   June 17, 2015 at 7:15 pm

    I think this is completely ignorant. A grandfather, an uncle, a stepfather… None of them are a parent to a woman’s child. A woman who raises a child on her own deserves at least recognition for the two (if thousands) roles she fills alone. I wish my mother a happy Father’s Day every year, and I can’t see anyone in my life who rivals her for that position.

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    • Cook   June 17, 2015 at 7:43 pm

      You just proved everything the author said in the article. Not once did the author denounce strong single mothers. The article just asked for fathers to have their day, just like mothers have their day. And just like you, the author is entitled to their opinion. Your response is full of emotion if nothing else.

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  187. Nikki Carbonell   June 17, 2015 at 6:54 pm

    This is a matter of opinion, and certainly not an issue that one person can spell out so cut and dry. I honestly take offense to this, as I am a single mom, and I do have to play both parts in our home. As CDV stated, my children bring home Father’s Day gifts to me, because they know that no one else fills those shoes, besides myself.

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  188. CDV   June 17, 2015 at 6:39 pm

    You tell that to my son who every father’s day comes home with gifts that he made surrounded by all his friends who have dad’s, but he has no body to give it to so he loving gives his beautiful gift to his mother. The woman who taught him to ride a bike, play soccer, play basketball, play baseball, how to fish, how to do a proper push up, and all the other things a father’s role usually entails. To say “a woman simply cannot be a father. A child needs both parents but the roles these parents occupy are unique and equally invaluable.” Not only is insulting but very discouraging. I know how difficult the task is to provide my son with the support he needs from a man, but I’ll be dammed if someone is going to take away his privilege to be able to recognize me for doing my absolute best to fill that role for him. Don’t forget that celebrating mother’s day, father’s day, or single parent’s day, which by the way I have never heard of, isn’t just about the adults it’s about the children. Allowing them to express their unconditional love and appreciation. Don’t let your soap box crush a child’s expression because grown adults feel slighted.

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  189. James D. Douglas   June 17, 2015 at 6:18 pm

    Well written and I agree wholeheartedly!

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  190. Sharon Pratt   June 17, 2015 at 4:51 pm

    As a woman, who ended up raising 2 boys on my own without their father’s support or financial support….and who ran a non-profit ministry for years for working single parents…I recognize the difficulties faced by MANY single parents of both genders (there are many dads out their raising their children alone, whether through widowhood, divorce or abandonment by their mother) I must say, I completely AGREE with this commentary!
    Mother’s Day is for MOMS, and Father’s Day is for DADS!! PLEASE do not take away from the dads out there who ARE there for their children….or who may be an absent parent but who is actively involved in their children’s lives, by stripping away a piece of their day to give to your mom who may have raised you alone. The gesture is meaningful…but there IS a day for that in March (Single Parents Day) and you have Mother’s Day to honor your mom whether she raised you single or with the help and loving support of your father. But don’t devalue the day set aside for DADS anymore than dads are already being devalued by today’s culture! IF your dad isn’t around….celebrate your granddad….or a great uncle or other men who played a strong leadership role in your life….but please let dad’s have THEIR special day all to themselves….THEY deserve it….and we all need to appreciate them and show it in a special way.

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  191. Erica   June 17, 2015 at 3:42 pm

    Yes because any woman that celebrated herself or was celebrated on Father’s Day literally thought they were a dad. If this is your best work please stop writing you are insulting intelligent women everywhere

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  192. ERS   June 17, 2015 at 3:17 pm

    @Jack Day – Hard to believe you misspelled “write” in critiquing another’s writing. Good job, buddy.

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  193. Jack Day   June 17, 2015 at 2:51 pm

    Hard to believe anyone would have to even wright an article like this…

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  194. Zay   June 17, 2015 at 1:10 pm

    Th

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  195. DTM   June 17, 2015 at 11:42 am

    Thanks for taking away from my day. I don’t celebrate on Mothers day for having to be a mother to my children also so I don’t expect mothers to to do the same. I suppose we no longer need to acknowledge men for anything.

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  196. Lisa   June 17, 2015 at 11:19 am

    People often use fathers day to celebrate their mothers because they never had a father. The article is a bit much, people want to celebrate this holiday without uplifting someone who never even cared enough to be a father…….So if you are a good dad who visits, and takes an interest in your child, it shouldn’t bother you. People say you never hear of this on mothers day, but realisticly there are many dads who receive mothers day priases as well, I believe it’s more so for men though……………anyway, just give it a break

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  197. Jasmine   June 17, 2015 at 11:00 am

    Father’s Day was made by men and women just like Mother’s Day. So I’m going to celebrate it how I see fit. The first comment I saw on celebrating mothers on Father’s Day I ignored, but this article just feels like someone scraping the bottom of the barrel. Who cares what people do or celebrate, for one? Talk about it all you want but it’s not going to stop them. Now if you are just wanting controversy and argument, join a debate club! I have a mother who was there when my deadbeat father was not. She taught me things I’d now expect a father to teach his daughter, not the mother. The fact that she was a single parent was not the reason I started, jokingly, telling my mother Happy Father’s Day. It was because she was a great father figure as well. Of course she couldnt teach everything, but she did her best for her three girls. As I got older, come Father’s Day, my sisters and I would slip her a good morning with a happy Father’s Day hug along with a thank you. Thank you for being there when our father couldn’t. Don’t get me wrong. We aren’t going out of our way to make dinner reservations or give her presents. We save all of that for Mother’s Day. On Father’s Day we only acknowledge the truth and show our appreciation. My mother never tried to take the holiday herself, it was us, her daughters who were grateful on this holiday to the father figure she has been to us. Some may call it celebrating, some may not. But who cares.

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    • Madelene Walker   June 17, 2015 at 11:21 am

      AMEN THANK YOU JESUS! My kids did me the same way. I wasn’t trying to be their father, but I had no choice but to take the role when the situation or moment called for it. Just doing our job as a loving parent PERIOD POINT BLANK! If this is how are children feel about us then who is going to regulate their feelings. You girls LOVE YOUR MOTHER HOWEVER YOU FEEL LIKE! GODS CONTINUOUS BLESSINGS TO YOU AND YOURS!

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    • Lydia hribar   June 17, 2015 at 11:24 am

      I have a daughter that her kids celebrate fathers dad for their mom now for 10 years or so because their dad does nothing for them their mom feeds cloths does homework takes them on outing what ever the kids what to do she does that article is rude and selfish when theirs no dad who else does the child celebrate fathers day with I agree with Jasmine keep appreciating mom for the mom and dad she us some stuck up woman prob wrote that article thanks god for moms that are both mom and dad

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  198. JWR   June 17, 2015 at 10:50 am

    AS long as it goes both ways? I don’t mind. But can we maybe help this by advertising Single Parents Day a bit more? I never heard of it.

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    • Madelene Walker   June 17, 2015 at 11:27 am

      You are so right. Even though the company says this was done by request why couldn’t the heads of the company initiate the production of a single parents card. Great mind! GODS CONTINUOUS BLESSINGS TO YOU!

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  199. Jordan   June 17, 2015 at 9:07 am

    I’m a single dad, and I know for a fact that if I tried to expropriate mothers day I’d be vilified, but I’m as much a mom as I am a dad, in the same way that single moms also fill the role of dads. Where’s the campaign to recognize that I work just as hard at being a mother as I do at being a father?

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    • Jake   June 17, 2015 at 10:14 am

      Your not a mother dude did you just say that I’m a single dad and I’m my daughters father not her mother and father her father perriod

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  200. Jen Aquino   June 17, 2015 at 6:30 am

    Yup, Father’s give birth so easily.

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  201. Hewitt G Malone   June 17, 2015 at 4:25 am

    Totally agree – father’s are uniquely male.

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  202. Emelio Lizardo   June 17, 2015 at 1:34 am

    Feminism just can’t leave men their own place. Mom is not dad. The fact that we’ve removed many fathers from the lives of our children should be a national disgrace. This seems more an attempt to distract from that.

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  203. Ana   June 16, 2015 at 11:08 pm

    Not that it has anything to do with the article, but using a photo without giving photo credit is also pretty lame. That model posing in the style of Rosie the Riveter is a friend of mine. I’m a photographer and if someone were using my photos I’d be pissed

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    • picture hacker101   June 17, 2015 at 4:17 am

      Welcome to the age of the Internet. If you don’t want your photo used around the world, DON’T post it online! If you want credit for it, watermark it with your website so you can get the credit deserved…. There is no such thing as copyright online if you don’t brand it before posting it… You being a “photographer” would know that :-b

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  204. Pradel   June 16, 2015 at 10:53 pm

    I can’t fill in a women role. For I’m not a woman therefore I can’t be a mom. But as a man I can be the greatest dad and take care of my daughter. When it’s mother’s day my wife can have all the praise even if I’m single . she can have the praise even if she not in her life it’s mother’s day. But when father’s day comes I can feel good and be happy on how I made it as a father figure and did things in my power as a dad and loving father

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  205. Sabrina   June 16, 2015 at 9:23 pm

    I disagree, before I got with my boyfriend, my friends all wished me happy daddy day (i don’t say fathers day because any idiot can make a child) and it made me feel great. I wish my boyfriend’s mom happy fathers day every year because she raised all 4 of her boys by herself. It makes her feel good to know that someone recognizes that she had to be the mom and the dad for them. However, on the flip side, I wish my brother in law a happy mommys day every year, because he is a single parent and has to play the mom role. Do I think single moms should get recognition for daddy day? If they are actually in the place where they are playing mom AND dad, yes. The same goes with single dads on mommy day. I don’t accept any daddy day wishes anymore, however. Because I don’t consider myself a single mother, I just happen to be with someone other than my daughter’s father.

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  206. Kimberly   June 16, 2015 at 7:07 pm

    So you had nothing else to write about? If I had to interact with you on a daily basis I’d never solicit or find value in your input. Your thought process is flawed and biased. I’m sure you’ve accepted a thank you for doing what somebody else was supposed to do but you did it instead. If you have you’re a total hypocrite. You over simplify relationships and parenting.

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    • Ronny Watson   June 16, 2015 at 8:58 pm

      You sound bitter and angry. Perhaps if you were more agreeable you would have to raise them alone. Perhaps you should have better qualified the man or men you chose to father your children. I’ve rarely met a truly innocent woman who was raising children alone.

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  207. kathleen   June 16, 2015 at 6:41 pm

    as a widow when someone says happy Father’s Day to me, it’s just an acknowledgment of my having to do both rolls now in my sons life. It doesn’t take anything away from all the great dads out there, nor does it imply I’m a father in my sons life. Having someone say I’m doing a good job with my son alone by saying happy Father’s Day is just a nice gesture, it’s light. Not to be taken so literally as this article suggests. Kind of makes me laugh to be honest,

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    • Mariela   June 16, 2015 at 7:48 pm

      So when single fathers expect support and get a campaign on mothers day, I expect you to be sitting tight with your mouth shut or offering support. The last time they tried they received nothing but backlash.

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      • Sabrina   June 16, 2015 at 9:24 pm

        I wish my brother in law a happy mommy day every year because he is pulling double duty

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    • Sarah   June 16, 2015 at 8:14 pm

      Ka

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  208. Christopher D.Webb (@Bigwebber1975)   June 16, 2015 at 3:40 pm

    I never thought of myself as father doing a mother’s role. I am a FATHER, no exceptions! I have been in my daughter’s life since I cut her umbilical cord and took sole custody of her 5 years ago. Her mother is no where in the picture. I sacrifice for her because it’s my job as her dad to do so, not because I’m looking for an award or a spotlight shined on me. My daughter is an A and B student in high school with plans to go to the military and be a police officer. Just knowing she is doing well in school and has her head on straight is my Father’s Day gift to me. For men who have never been there for they’re kids, miss hearing they first words, not seeing they first steps, it is something they will always regret missing out on. I’m glad I didn’t

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  209. Sue   June 16, 2015 at 2:38 pm

    Father’s Day and Mothers Day should be for anyone who helps to rear and raise a child whether or not they are single parents or not does not matte. it should be for who the child feels comfortable with it showing their appreciation for and all of that they do for the child. father’s day in mother’s day should be for anyone who helps to raise the child point blank.

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  210. A Father!   June 16, 2015 at 12:48 pm

    Trista, a Father is a Father and a Mother is a Mother. Let’s not get it confused. Maybe your Father bailed, but there are plenty of other Fathers that continue to do their duty. It is disrespectful to me and other REAL Fathers out here.

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  211. A Father!   June 16, 2015 at 12:43 pm

    Someone above, that is stupid. Mothers are Mothers and Fathers are Fathers. A Mother can’t be a Father, just as a Father can’t be a Mother. I think you are probably a disgruntled woman who got played and now you are against men receiving any type of accolade. Get out of your emotion and get real.

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  212. Anon   June 16, 2015 at 12:28 pm

    As the single mother of three, expecting my fourth(all boys) I can honestly say that if someone were to say happy father’s day to me, I would be upset. I have done things that are typically “fatherly things” suck as teaching my older two boys how to potty standing up or throw a football. I don’t tell people I am both mother and father for my kids and I don’t allow anyone to say that around my boys. I am their mother, period! I do everything and anything needed of me to care for and raise my boys and I do it as their mother. I get that when people say happy father’s day to single mother’s it is meant in a kind way but I don’t want to recognize on father’s day as playing the “fatherly” role. I feel the same way when I hear people saying happy mother’s day to single father’s who are raising their children alone for whatever reason.

    My point, when my day is done and I am laying in bed after a full day of being a part-time working mother and my kids are clocked out for the night, I don’t think to myself ” I did a great job being momma and daddy today!”. I lay down, think about everything that needs to be done for the next week, plan fun time and try to find time for me to be me. And before I finally fall asleep, I check on my boys on last time and I’m greatful to be their mother!

    I don’t need, nor do I want, to feel like or be told that I am an awesome mom because I play “both roles”. That honestly makes me feel awful! For one, I don’t play house, I have made a home for me and my children. And secondly, I feel like when people say that, they mean I’m only awesome because I do it alone (without the help of their father but plenty of family support!)

    Well, my little vent is over and I’m glad to see I am not the only one who feels mother’s day is meant for mother’s(women) and father’s day is meant for father’s (men). I don’t see it as being sexists because it is fact. I am not my children’s father and mother. I am just their mother and damn proud of that! 🙂

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    • Anon   June 16, 2015 at 12:35 pm

      I just wrote this post. I wanted to apologize, even though I haven’t read through it, for any possible mistakes I made lol this was a long post and as I was typing I would take breaks to tend to my boys. Normally, I do not post comments because it can be time consuming but I needed to get that off my chest! Well, it’s nap time so I’m gonna get a snack and watch a Disney movie without interruption 🙂 and yes, it will be an old Disney movie because those are the best ones!

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      • Cherese Jackson   June 16, 2015 at 12:44 pm

        Anon, no apology necessary. Your commentary was very much appreciated.

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    • mary   June 16, 2015 at 9:05 pm

      You seem to think everyone here wants some kind of acknowledgment of being the “mother and father” together. That is so far from the truth. The simple fact is we are all PARENTS. It’s just we have no choice but to play the role as mother and father. Let me explain what that means. I have 3 girls. My X-husband sees my 2 oldest daughters (twins) every other weekend and 1 day sometimes a few hours a day. He does not however help raise them. He does not take them to the doctor, teach them to drive, chase the boys that need to be chased away (in fact he called me to chase one away), he takes them bowling. He does not get involved in punishments. I have no choice but to play both roles. He is there father and I encourage there relationship though. My youngest, her father died. I have no choice but to play both roles and again I’ll gladly do it because when God loaned me those kids I made a promise that I would do it, with without the other parent. I don’t expect praise from anyone, it is just something that people do and so whatever. I’m not sure but if you are expecting another one then you may have a boyfriend or not. But there is going to come an age if your children do not have a father in there life that you will have to play both roles or you are in for a heap of trouble. You can’t expect your family members to play father to your kids. They are your kids not theirs. It’s nice to have the help and support but you brought those kids into this world, you need to raise them and be both parents to them, and be proud of that.

      This person that wrote this article, she can look up anything she wants in a dictionary. It means very little to me when she is not walking in the shoes of my children and the shoes of single parents everywhere. She seems to have nothing better to write about or has very submissive stance on family. Her words are just words.

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  213. Trista   June 16, 2015 at 12:08 pm

    I’m sorry. I understand your logic. I know how to define words. I understand the fundamental difference between differently sexed parents. However, i have to disagree. I have a single mom and i do celebrate her on father’s day. If the roles were reversed, i would acknowledge my dad on mothers day. Sadly for me, that won’t happen. You see, my parents divorced when i was 11, it was messy and hard and bad for everyone, but the truth is, my dad bailed on me and my family years before he ever had the courage to actually leave. I don’t think he deserves any sort of fatherly celebration and i don’t understand why i, as a person who did have someone fill the role he should have stayed in, shouldn’t celebrate her just because she is a her. My mom is amazing, i don’t get confused and call her dad sometimes, but i need you to understand that she deserves some recognition, despite her lack of a penis. And yes, this is emotionally fueled, but so was the advent of the holiday. I’m glad there are dads in this world (with penis attached) that are actually dads and love being dads. I don’t have one of those. You celebrate yours. I’m celebrating the one i got. It’s not your place to decide how someone celebrates their parents.

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    • Jaya   June 16, 2015 at 1:50 pm

      Im sure she isnt trying to tell you how to celebrate your parents BUT if your father wasnt there nobodies asking you to celebrate him and its not a requirement. A mother isnt a father is what her overall point is. Single fathers dont go around trying to celebrate mothers day, why? because they HAVE a day already. Single mothers SHOULD be celebrated but not on a day that is dedicated to the incomparable role that a MAN plays in a childs life.

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    • Get Over It   June 16, 2015 at 4:15 pm

      Precisely! Why should it bother someone else that you personally celebrate your Mother on Fathers day when she filled both roles. That is your business and your reasons are valid. I hate that we live in a society that feels its ok to police someone else’s practices even if it has nothing to do with them and doesn’t effect them.

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  214. Valerie Nichols-Priest   June 16, 2015 at 11:57 am

    Let’s think about the child and put the child first. Instead of feeling…oh, I don’t have a father in my life. They know their mother isn’t a father, but what’s wrong with them having a special time with their mother that day. I know some children that don’t have a father in their life. It can be painful but they celebrate their mother instead. <3 Let them do this if they want, to decrease the pain they already feel. 🙁

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  215. Anon   June 16, 2015 at 9:13 am

    The problem is people are confusing roles (such as mother/father) as a defining factor for identity. If a single mother goes outside to play catch with her son, does that make her a father, as it is typically a fatherly role to play catch with the son? No. If a single mother walks her daughter down the aisle to give away the bride, typically a fatherly role, does that then make her a father? No.

    Actions and crossing over of roles does not change the identity or defining factor of an individual. For example, if a dog were to suddenly begin acting like a cat, the dog’s actions would not change the defining factor that the dog is a dog. It is bound by its very nature and definition to be identified as a dog.

    Roles and actions within those roles cannot and do not define which is considered a father or mother, and thus the individual is locked into whichever one defines their being based on the definition of father or mother. If “a male who has child, a male parent or father-in-law, an adopted father or step-father”, then a father. If otherwise, mother. It really can’t be argued nor debated. It’s systemic and definitional.

    Now, could we also have a single mother’s day (I’d be surprised if we don’t already), and celebrate them on both Mothers and Single Mothers Day at that point? By all means, yes. But horning in on a day that is by all rights and definitions meant for the male counterpart (as Mother’s Day is for the female) simply is not a valid way to act.

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  216. Greg   June 16, 2015 at 9:09 am

    Ok,sorry what about a single dad, should he be recognized in mothers day as well…

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    • JAMIE   June 16, 2015 at 10:05 am

      Yes he should

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  217. Nu von Furstenburg   June 16, 2015 at 8:42 am

    My Mom is my Mother and Father because she did it all for me…everything that the father was supposed to do, she did. Therefore she is and always will be both in my eyes.

    You can’t tell a child/teenager/adult what their parents are to them.

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    • Anon   June 16, 2015 at 9:01 am

      Actually, you can. At least insomuch as a definitional sense. Mothers are, by definition, not fathers. It’s a logical impossibility. Should those single mothers be celebrated the hell out of on Mothers day? Sure. But Father’s Day is not, in any way whatsoever, for them as they are not, definitionally, fathers.

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  218. mandi   June 16, 2015 at 8:38 am

    THis is ridiculous.A lot of women are also fathers to their children and should be honored just as single fathers or any other great father.Coming from someone who was raised only by my mom and on one of the most important days of my life she walked me down the aisle and gave me away just as any father would have.So every year I honor her on both mothers and Father’s Day because to me she was always both.

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    • Anon   June 16, 2015 at 9:04 am

      You didn’t read the article, did you? By the very definition of father AND mother, one cannot be both. Celebrate them on their specific day. The specific days are simply recognizing them as parental figures, but each are a specific partition. Simply because the fatherly role was played out by the mother does not in some way change the defining factor that she is indeed a mother and has her day in the light.

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  219. Someone   June 16, 2015 at 7:33 am

    Truthfully I believe a mother who plays the role of a father also should be able to be honored. It’s fair to tell her that she can’t because she’s a woman….that’s not okay. Some women are both and honestly they deserve to recognized as both. Just as single fathers who also play the role of a mother deserve to be recognized as both and he can celebrate both “holidays”.

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  220. JT   June 16, 2015 at 5:42 am

    The big question here then is this…

    Are we going to honor single fathers on Mothers Day?

    If so do we do away with Single Parents Day?

    What about “Hey my kid still has both his/her parents day?”

    But if we have that day then we better celebrate both parents on Single Parents Day because each of the two parents is an individual parent.

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  221. Mike Whitney   June 16, 2015 at 5:28 am

    That’s why they are two separate things on two separate days. Mothers day and Fathers day are separate for a reason. – Get it?

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  222. Latonya   June 16, 2015 at 3:20 am

    Everyone is entitled to their own opinion. And yes Father’s Day is to honor those great fathers. And yes there are exceedingly great fathers out there. And sadly there are also a lot of baby daddies and donors too. And there are some fathers whom may or may not be aware. And some fathers whom may have been cut off, out of spite. But if a single parent is being recognized for their dual role, I don’t find it disrespectful. But yet a wake up call for our so call mothers and fathers whom seem to be lacking, to own up to theirs.

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    • Joe   June 16, 2015 at 3:40 am

      Women can’t be fathers and men can’t be mothers, there’s no such thing as a “dual role” when it comes to parenthood.

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  223. Adam   June 16, 2015 at 12:43 am

    Wow the comments here just reinforce stereotypes of roles of the Father. Teaching them how to gut fish etc. Is not what this article is about. Many studies show that men and women interact with children differently, not just in what they teach but also in how they talk to children, it is not possible to be both a mother and a father. The article goes to great lengths to explain that this should take nothing away from single mothers such as yourselves.

    This article is saying that father’s day should be celebrated for those father’s who do play an active role with their children and it should not be taken away from them because the minority of father’s do not. Mothers already have mothers day, would you be willing to share that day with single father’s? Because I can’t help think that you would be outraged at the idea.

    Basically you can tell yourself all you want but all the evidence suggests that no matter how great a mum you are, you cannot replace a male role figure in your children’s life in the same way that a father cannot replace the role of a mother. Not because what is taught but in how you talk to and interact with them.

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  224. c brown   June 16, 2015 at 12:06 am

    This is full of such unsound reasoning. First, if a mother is wished a happy father’s day, you can bet it’s because the well wisher believes she is doing the job of a father! And the same is said of a father being wished a happy mother’s day. Get over the stereotype. As a single mother 24/7/52 a year, I have done both roles in the raising of the sons. I’ve taught them how to gut a fish, throw a line, ride a horse, do woodworking projects with power tools, grow a garden, raise farm animals, get and keep a job, how to treat a lady, how to drive and how to change a tire. I’ve also taught them how to cook, do laundry, dishes, pay bills, work inside a budget, help others, help others, give back, give back…. And yes I repeated those twice intentionally. My point is, I have done it all, all the time, even when I wanted to hand the job off because I was exhausted, I never walked out, I never quit calling, I never hit the freeway. And as much as this author would like to discredit that…. Mr sons and nephew will tell you that at 5’2″ and nothing, I did a damn good job as both a mother and a father! And if someone wishes me a happy father’s day because they think I’ve been a good dad, then I will take that compliment and blush with pride!

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  225. ALEX   June 15, 2015 at 5:51 pm

    This is crap. My son is 4, when I attempted to talk to him about his father, his exact words were “no, no, no…..YOU’RE my dad, he’s nobody.” This is my son’s way of thinking, all on his own, I’ve never once said that I am mom & dad. So you’re telling me, my son’s own feelings are wrong?? You are no one to make that decision. I’ve given a single father a cake for mothers day & my single mother cardc & flowers for father’s day. BOTH should be celebrated on whatever day/days is felt to be celebrated on, not only designated days set on a calendar.

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    • Colette Hawkins-Williams   June 15, 2015 at 11:43 pm

      Alex- I so agree with you. The first paragraph of this ” story” let me know it was crap………

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  226. traci taylor   June 15, 2015 at 2:54 pm

    my mother is a single mother, i am 46, and have given her a fathers and mothers day card/flowers ect.. since my early teens.And will again. she deserves ir.

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  227. Aysha Gourdine   June 15, 2015 at 11:30 am

    There is “Single Parents” day every year in March to answer your question CT

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    • CT   June 16, 2015 at 7:26 am

      I know there is, but that isn’t the topic here. Women insist that single mothers should get to celebrate Father’s day. So on the flip side of the coin, single fathers should be able to celebrate Mother’s day. You can’t give Father’s day to single mothers and then say that single fathers are relegated to Single Parent’s Day. If women want equal rights then everything is equal, not “we get what we want and you get what we give you”.

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  228. CT   June 15, 2015 at 9:51 am

    Just a quick question then. I was a single father for 5 year due to my ex-wife walking out on her kids. I had to take on both the role of mother and father to my two young daughters. Where is the fight for single fathers to be celebrated on Mother’s Day? And if your answer is that they shouldn’t be celebrated, your reason better be well thought out and not just because they aren’t a mother/woman and already have a day set aside for them.

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  229. megan   June 15, 2015 at 7:12 am

    Whoever wrote this is an idiot.

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  230. Just Playing a Role   June 14, 2015 at 9:28 pm

    I will forever celebrate Mother’s Day, Father’s Day, Single Parent’s Day, an any other day that a parent(s) celebrate.

    Not trying to take anything from those that are actually father’s and do what they need and have to do to solidify that role, I give it to you and will never do anything to take it away.

    But, I was a single parent and because of that, I had no choice but to step up and be a father…for those of you that do not know what the role of a mother and father is, I can explain:

    As a mother, I made sure my children had clean clothes, made sure the house was clean, made sure they ate, made sure their homework was complete, made sure they went to school, made sure they celebrated birthday and other special occasions, made sure they learned to tie their shoes, made sure they could site their ABCs, made sure I hugged them and told them I loved them, made sure they were in church and said their prayers, taught them to be grateful and thankful, made sure their friends were really their friend, and other great things mother’s do…

    As a father (not a dad), I made sure I earned enough money to take care of my household, made sure there was food in the house, engaged with afterschool activities, played one-on-one with my son, disciplined my children, made sure my son learned to go to the rest room properly, made sure my daughter got those extra hugs she would have gotten if there was a father figure, able to go the my son’s rescue when the gang of kids want to jump him after school, made sure I was able to talk about thing with my son that a father would normally do, made sure my son learned to dress properly, and made sure my son grew up to hold and have respect for women….wait, I also had to stand in for my nephews that grew up without a father figure in their life.

    So again, by all means, I am not taking away from those dads that are fathers and were in their children’s life and supported their kids 100%, but those dads that are single parents, because they have to step up and play the role of mom also. But for me, I am only giving myself prompts for playing the role.

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    • KD   June 15, 2015 at 7:20 am

      I’m not sure where you are looking to find that the roles of making money, making sure there is food in the house, playing with the kids, discipline, making sure kids go to the bathroom properly, and getting extra hugs, etc. are things only a father can do. In your world do mothers not work and provide food and shelter? Do mothers not provide discipline? In my house my mother was the main disciplinarian. That didn’t make her my father. Your post doesn’t make much sense. It is antiquated and just plain wrong. Mothers aren’t only responsible for laundry. smh

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    • frankie   June 15, 2015 at 9:25 am

      I also had to do the same with my daughter and my son. Father’s day should be celebrated by single mom’s also!!!

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  231. LC   June 14, 2015 at 9:13 pm

    Hello! I’m going to chime in just for the hell of it. The point of this ridiculous article is that single mothers should not celebrate themselves on Father’s Day because they have a vagina. The point is invalid and a complete waste of time for anyone to argue. I actually feel sorry for the author that she wasted so much of her time writing this crap. Do we tell Jewish people they cannot celebrate Christmas? Do we tell adoptive children not to celebrate their “made up” birth date because they don’t actually know the real date? Would we, morally as a society, tell anyone not to celebrate anything because of race, gender, ethnicity, or religion? Then why the hell would we now? To each their own. It’s a basic freedom and if you don’t like it, look the other way.

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  232. JP   June 12, 2015 at 10:28 am

    My daughters always get me a card and a cake for Father’s Day. Their dad is still around but he’s not involved and hasn’t been for 15 years. I never asked them to celebrate that holiday along with Mother’s Day. They did it on their own and have been doing it for years. I also give a shout out to single dads on Mother’s Day! Contrary to what you think it’s the children that see their single parent taking on both roles and they want to show that they appreciate them on both holidays. Until you have watched a parent walk away from their child and picked up the pieces of your broken family I would suggest not making any politically correct statements. It’s always the people that have never gone through a particular situation that try to tell others what it correct and what is not. By definition I am not a man, you are correct. But I will tell you that I have financially and emotionally taken care of these girls and I am MORE of a MAN than he will ever be!

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  233. Neen Weston   June 11, 2015 at 8:26 pm

    Couldn’t care less for your political correctness to be honest!! My daughter no longer see’s her dad and hasn’t for the past 2 years (his choice)

    It was my daughter’s idea on Father’s Day buy me a present from the Father’s Day stall at her school… She says “because my dad is not around you are basically my mum and my dad in one, so I want to buy you a present for Father’s Day mum”.

    My daughter is the one that has to deal with it every time Father’s Day rolls around so if this makes her sleep well at night dealing with it this way, then I’m all for it!

    Not to mention I am one of those Mum’s on Mother’s Day sending a shout out to all the Single Dad’s that are in the same or similar situation.. it goes both ways in my mind 😀

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  234. frankie   June 9, 2015 at 4:49 pm

    I think if a mother successfully fulfills both roles and her children want to honor her on Fathers day nobody should put that down. The gender recognition issue is ridiculous, LGBT supporters would probably argue this and they’d be right in doing so, for my part my daughter has always honored me on Fathers day because in her eyes I’ve played both roles, she was failed by the men who were supposed to be father’s to her not once but twice so for many children of single parent families honoring their one parent when they missed out on two can be very emotionally healing for the child and empowering die the parent who too often feels overworked and underappreciated. Everyone wants to be controversial and have an opinion, I’m fine with that but understand your opinions are only relative to your own experience. Thank you.

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  235. Kristen Louise   June 6, 2015 at 12:59 pm

    “Far too often when couples separate the mother forces the father to stay away and even uses ‘child support’ against him.”
    “To spread the ‘love’ to single moms on Father’s Day is not as empowering as it might seem. Contrariwise it capitalizes on a self-inflicted wound and stunts the process of healing.”

    I have no idea why you feel the need to demonize women as being child support leeches and patronize them for their “self-inflicted wounds” to explain the importance of Father’s Day belonging to fathers.
    You admonish people for viewing this topic through an emotional lens, when using language that is clearly backed by emotion and judgment.
    This article as almost as degrading and judgmental as it is poorly-written and lacking in substance.

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  236. Brenda   June 4, 2015 at 12:37 pm

    A man who does not stick around, does not support his children emotionally or financially, is not a FATHER, and deserves no recognition as a father. However, any man in a child’s life who does step up and fill in with love, emotional support, financial support and guidance is a Father and deserves to be recognized. Fathers day belongs to the true FATHERS.

    The same principle applies to MOTHERS. Stick around. Support your children emotionally and financially. That is what Mother’s Day is all about.

    If you are raising your children alone, whether as a single Mother or a single Father, you are included in one of those two occasions. You are not included in the other. Trying to usurp the day set aside for those who earn that recognition by claiming that as a single parent you deserve it belittles those who do and makes you look greedy, needy and pathetic.

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  237. C.S.   June 3, 2015 at 1:39 pm

    When my daughters were younger, they always remembered me on Father’s Day. Their father cancelled their Wednesday get togethers and I would take them out so they would not to miss out because their father was too busy with his new family. They also honored their grandfather who was always there for every event in their lives. Yes, Father’s Day is dedicated for father’s, but something to think about. Why is a huge deal about Mother’s Day with cards, jewelry and brunches? Because it is usually the mother who does all the gift buying, grocery shopping, meal cooking etc., plus holding down a job. I didn’t miss my girls sporting events or leave early to visit a mutual friend because badminton was too boring for them to hang around. Or leave an awards event to be with the new family, while our daughter received MVP I had to miss because my dad who was blind had to be somewhere. So yes, I do believe single mother’s should be included in Father’s Day celebrations. If their kids appreciate them that way, why would anyone want to to ruin that? It’s all about respect. If the fathers want that type of respect then they should stick around!

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    • Tory Ellis   June 5, 2015 at 10:26 pm

      Yeah….you totally didn’t comprehend the article. You’re the emotional one she was talking about.

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  238. Mommy D   June 3, 2015 at 11:14 am

    We can separate man and woman, YES ! however, Please ,Please don’t tell me what a woman isn’t entitled to on a day that recognize FATHER’s as well as FATHER FIGURES! When I as a woman can no longer carry a purse, cross my legs, put on lip stick or curl my hair etc… Yet I, Mother (father) stand behind my son and tech him how to aim his penis in a toilet. I DON”T have one, but i have to do it. I no longer carry a purse but a bag so my son does’t think its OK to carry one as well. I like purses, but i have to do it…teach my son how to dance like a boy, walk like a boy, take pictures like a boy, play ball with him, teach him how to throw, catch, not cry every time he falls, even dress like a boy. When there’s NOTHING but powerful women around.you start to pick up their traits. No uncles, No brothers, No Grandfather, No Male cousins, No boys even at the sitter. and MOST of All NO FATHER, you are forced to change things up. WHY! BECAUSE A MAN (FATHER) DECIDES , he won’t grow what he’s planted. So when you write about the day isn’t for single moms, you might want to check that. Those Fathers , who are doing the great job of being in theirs kids lives, I applaud them. But they should look at their fellow brothers and know that this day is shared with women, because of them, forcing us women to be Fathers. I don’t think any woman should have to take on that role. The MOTHER role is more than enough ,plus. We don’t want it and would rather have our children salute the men. The article is cute to give men their props but the reality IS…. This day belongs to us a well. As a matter of fact the recognition to women on fathers day doesn’t come from other women or men, but from the children that says, the mother well deserve this DAY!!!!

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  239. Dee W.   June 3, 2015 at 5:06 am

    I couldn’t agree more. Everything was well said and considerate. I can stress enough how the notion of single mothers celebrating on father’s day really gets to me…. especially for something that was meant to be a partnered process.

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  240. Kamyl   June 2, 2015 at 7:01 pm

    This is BS … a mother, father whether raising a child alone or together should be celebrated as a PARENT period. The parents who are doing the RIGHT thing regardless of the day, whatever you may call it are the ones who deserve the focus, the recognition, the celebration.

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  241. Samuel Lopez-perez   June 2, 2015 at 12:29 pm

    Thank you, thank you, I’m 34yrs and I’m a father, to a 6yrs girl, I share custody week on, and week off and VERY involved in her life.. her mother and I get along great as co-parents!! I feel father’s don’t get recognized as much as mother’s no offense!! But to the fathers out there!! Yes I mean father’s, not dads, because anybody can be a dad, but it takes a real men to be a father!!!! So thank you again!!! Means a lot to me…. 🙂

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    • Cherese Jackson   June 2, 2015 at 12:50 pm

      My pleasure! Happy Father’s Day!

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  242. Terry   June 2, 2015 at 11:19 am

    Thank you for your words. As enlightened and intelligent as we want to consider ourselves as human beings, there seems to be confusion on what constitutes the male and female roles as parents. As much as it may upset folks, this is area where biology and gender separate the father and mother roles. I would like to elaborate further but these points have their own foundation.

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  243. Cherese Jackson   June 2, 2015 at 9:18 am

    First thank you all for reading and for the commentary. It is sad and unfortunate that so many are bitter and defensive about their choices in life. Today is simply a report card of choices made yesterday – whether positive or negative. No where does this article criticize or demean the single parent – male or female – it actually salutes you. While you may have a differing belief, this article simply speaks to the reason the day to honor fathers originated.

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    • Mama Grizzly   June 2, 2015 at 11:21 am

      You can pretend to be taking the high road but you are not helping the community by allowing men to shirk on their responsibilities, the evidence speaks for itself. You brought this up and I for one like many others responded because it is destructive for the community when we allow demagogues to pander their propaganda without notice or proper response.

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    • Mama Grizzly   June 2, 2015 at 11:26 am

      For the record, I could not have had a better father and I will always be grateful for the love and devotion that he gave my beloved mother. sisters and brothers and our children. A good man leaves an inheritance for his children’s children, Proverbs 13:22.

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      • Cherese Jackson   June 2, 2015 at 11:34 am

        No one is keeping the record of your life, but you – just as no one is giving men who fail to take care of their children a pass. You either did not read or did not understand the first sentence which states “…. this day is designed to honor the men WHO acknowledge their children and hold their roles as dads in high esteem.”

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        • Mama Grizzly   June 2, 2015 at 4:13 pm

          Why are we discussing this? Why is father’s day in play? Mothers day isn’t!

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  244. Mama Grizzly   June 2, 2015 at 9:08 am

    Women who are being both mother and father to their children do not have enough time to stroke the egos of childish men who want the benefits of being a husband and father without the responsibility. This commentary is a lame attempt to try to gloss over a fundamental structural defect in this society and an attempt to not look at the elephant in the middle of the room. As you can see from many of these comments, many people, especially single mothers are not “havin it”! For anyone who is upset about the so called appropriation of father’s day by single mothers, stop whining, complaining and start helping absentee father’s understand that they will not get a pat on the head for childish immaturity!!!!

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  245. latimer   June 2, 2015 at 2:07 am

    my child made the decision to celebrate Mother’s day and Father’s day with me (his mother) when he got older and realized his father (who left us when he was 7 months old and did not support him but the courts made him visit his father ever other weekend) never had any true interest in him or his goals or successes. This holiday is for the children to recognize who they believe their parent(s) to be in their eyes. My child received a financial award for medical malpractice and his father wanted his share of the money (of which none was awarded to either parent) to which my child said no and his father chose never to see him again and called his son selfish. Yes children are capable of making these decisions and for the record, my son’s money is still intact and none has been spent for any of my son’s medical needs, I pay for it all…as a parent should.

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    • Mama Grizzly   June 2, 2015 at 9:02 am

      HAPPY FATHER’S DAY!!!!!!

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  246. Jerry   June 2, 2015 at 1:32 am

    A great Article. I love it!

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  247. MDNonya   June 1, 2015 at 7:47 pm

    Get off your soapbox! Did you really find it so irritating that you had to write a novel on the clear differences between a make and a female parent. Yes single parents have to fill both roles and yes should be celebrated on any day that one cares to do so. So for all the 5 through 10 year olds in school who want to make a card for their female father/male mother should be excluded from such activities, let’s further stigmatize our children. I only read this article because the first portion was distasteful and i refuse to comment on something i don’t read entirely, but I found this offensive, tacky, rude, and in very poor taste. Sincerely, a female father who has had to learn baseball, lacrosse, a make perspective on the birds and bees, as well as show her sons what a positive female role model is.

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  248. Deb DeRosia   June 1, 2015 at 7:05 pm

    Who cares who honors who on mothers and fathers day. I care about who is involved with the children all the time. We should honor the children who made us moms and dads to begin with without them these days would just be days.

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  249. jaquieduck   June 1, 2015 at 6:45 pm

    I think it would be a great idea for single moms to encourage their kids to write a father’s day card for an important male role model or mentor in their life; it could be a family member like their uncle or grandfather, or just a family friend. I think it’s important to acknowledge that sometimes single moms and dads need support from others in their community, and it’s great to acknowledge those who mentor children but may not neccesarily be a biological parent.
    However, if a child wants to make a card for their mother or father on any day, I don’t have a problem with that.

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  250. Lillian   June 1, 2015 at 6:08 pm

    I was a single mother for 8 years. When my daughter was 5 years old she came from school with a father’s day car for me that said ” Happy Father’s day to the best mom in the world “.

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    • Mama Grizzly   June 1, 2015 at 8:29 pm

      Enough said!

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  251. Margie   June 1, 2015 at 8:37 am

    I think that this is for the family to decide what’s best for them. If the kids want to recognize their Single Mother as fulfilling the roles of both parents by observing Father’s Day as a way to honor the Mother that is DOING IT ALL, then that’s their decision. This is not a news worthy or even relevent article. I knew a kid who had a Single Dad once and this kid bought him a Mother’s Day card. Are you going to write an article about how Mother’s Day isn’t for Single Dads now? There’s nothing wrong with giving recognition where recognition is due.

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    • Mels   June 1, 2015 at 9:34 am

      I definitely agree!!

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  252. The Hood Computer Guru   May 31, 2015 at 11:42 pm

    There is no such thing as God. You made that up in your mind just like you made up being a mother and a father. You are obviously out of your mind and incapable of composing a rational thought in that little brain of yours.

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    • Elbert   June 1, 2015 at 2:54 am

      You can insult someone belief and say that they lack rational thoughts. Apparently, you lacking in the process of consciousness. Why would any woman wish to identify as a man? Stay on the subject.

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  253. C   May 31, 2015 at 7:51 pm

    Seems like a lot of butt hurt mothers in the comment section that can’t accept basic logic. You’re their mother and there’s nothing wrong with that. Maybe subconsciously you know it’s not enough so feel you need to “literally” claim both roles.

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    • Mama Grizzly   May 31, 2015 at 8:01 pm

      Let’s be very clear here, this is about the well being and survival of the family unit, not some superficial holiday created or advertised to make money and stroke egos.

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    • Mama Grizzly   May 31, 2015 at 8:05 pm

      The murder of black fathers at the hands of psychotic police officers is directly connected to issues of fatherhood. Meditate on Matthew 21:43

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  254. monique   May 31, 2015 at 1:19 pm

    I am the mother and father to both my children. I am 100% woman. I cant teach my son how to be a man but i sure can show him how to treat a lady wen he gets older, how to respect a woman, how to treat a woman he will definitely know that aspect of being a man. Furthermore, my daughter is goin to kno that her mama worked her butt off to show her how a lady is supposed to carry themselves, not a “THOT, HOE AND ANY BAD LABEL “. My will exhibit God given ability to be a Queen. Am I a man? Do I want to be ?NO, NO. I am training my children in the way that the Bible says.

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  255. crdaniels   May 31, 2015 at 11:34 am

    What I don’t understand is why anyone feels the need to tell another person what holidays they should celebrate. Mind your business and I promise to do the same. All of this arguing, correction… discussion over other peoples business. God bless the couples and single parents who are doing the best they know how.

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    • Mama Grizzly   May 31, 2015 at 12:56 pm

      Thanks for your common sense commentary.

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  256. Mama Grizzly   May 31, 2015 at 7:24 am

    Single mothers don’t want to be single mothers, they want husbands for themselves and fathers for their children. It’s time to stop using women as scapegoats and solving these psycho-cultural problems causing single motherhood. Considering the escalation of murderers against black men, I can truthfully say DOIT OR DIE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

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    • Tlynnsmith   May 31, 2015 at 8:05 am

      Not all single mothers. Some single mothers are single mothers because of the choices THEY made. If you want a husband first, then get a husband…first. Women make bad choices…sometimes. We don’t like to be called on the carpet for it, but it’s the truth. In many cases it’s about mismanagement of our reproductivity.

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  257. Elisa   May 31, 2015 at 4:33 am

    For many single mothers, celebrating father’s day is NOT done as a reason to pat themselves on the back, but as a way to ease the pain and sense of loss of the child with an absent father. When your child is hurting and sad because it’s father’s day and they have no one to celebrate, what do you do…let them know that they may not have a father but they DO have a mother who does her best to fill the void? Or tell them “sorry kid, I’m not biologically male so you’re just gonna have to deal with the fact you have an absent parent!” The author of this article totally overlooks the child’s perspective. There are single mothers who celebrate father’s day for their child, not themselves!

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    • Eve   May 31, 2015 at 8:19 am

      I’m not sure how or why a child would ever come to me, as a mom on Fathers day and express that they feel slighted in some way because they can’t celebrate. Most kids dont even know these days exist until you tell them. And IF it did come up, how does pretending to fill a void, that you absolutely cannot, help the child?? It doesn’t. It only helps the mothers bruised ego. Here’s a healthier idea, find a positive male role model for your kid to celebrate. Teach your child to honor the uncles, grandfathers, God fathers etc in their life.

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      • Elisa   May 31, 2015 at 2:14 pm

        Your child doesn’t know the existence of holidays until YOU personally tell them? Really? Well my child happens to live in the real world with other people besides me. And it has nothing to do with my ego. Only my child’s feelings. If it makes her feel better to give me a father’s day card, I’m sure not going to refuse just because some people may not approve. It’s really between me and my child, and I don’t see how my personal decision, or anyone else’s, is some kind of slap in the face to fathers. I would care less if single fathers celebrated mother’s day…in fact, more power to them. It is up to each individual family how they want to handle their situation, and what people think about it should be the least of their concern.

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    • April   May 31, 2015 at 9:47 am

      O.k., I guess that one makes sense. 😉

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  258. tina   May 30, 2015 at 9:26 pm

    Obviously the people who wrote this an the ones agreeing with it have no clue what it’s like for the father of their child to abandon them both an leave u struggling an fighting every day just to make sure their child is taken care of. Its extremely hard….I know this personally. Not only my childs father but my own father as well has been absent for years. So when you have to be mother as well as father you should be respected enough for stupid people not to write absolutely ignorant articles about things they know nothing about!!!! Thanks

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    • cierra   May 30, 2015 at 10:54 pm

      You missed the whole point of the article.

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      • Joey Williams   May 31, 2015 at 3:37 am

        Tina you didn’t miss a damn thing I was raised by a single mom of six children first husband kill himself second husband left for no reason mom did everything no one saw jail and all are well healthy and very appreciative of her sacrifice including myself who raised a college graduate single mom raised 5 sons and a daughter who will never abandon their children

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      • Shanna   May 31, 2015 at 9:40 am

        No she didn’t. It’s many perspectives this article can take. And I for one don’t have kids but I can surely understand why some mothers go out of their way for their fatherless children on father’s day. It doesn’t mean she’s trying to take on the role of a man but the happiness of her child supercedes all of this.

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    • Heidi   May 30, 2015 at 11:05 pm

      The author is right, Tina. Father’s Day is not a celebration of you (a mother).

      But you get two days to celebrate! You get Mothers day AND single parent day.

      Single parent day specifically celebrates those in your situation!

      Idk why it’s so hard to understand these “holidays”

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    • C.C   May 30, 2015 at 11:11 pm

      I’m sorry, but I am one who does understand. I am a single father and have been raising my kids since they were 8 and 9. Yes, it is a struggle. Their mother abandoned them and I had to give up a career and school to take on the responsibility. Their mother has come back into their lives, but Father’s Day is a day for men like myself who has done this job, despite the odds and the struggles. This article was on point. I don’t use Mother’s Day and have asked people not to wish me that because I am not a mother..I am a Father. I understand your frustration, but there are many women who have been through the same struggles as you and some of them might not agree with you….IJS.

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    • roswell green   May 30, 2015 at 11:17 pm

      Tina, you ARE clueless.Or you just can’t read. Just because you have no real men in your life does not give you the right to disrespect men who DO take care of their family. You seem to know so little of the rest of the world and want to impose your reality on everyone else. You have not learned that while you may have to be everything in a child’s life, one person can’t be father and mother. You can do a lot and raise children who don’t feel they missed much but you can NEVER replace a real father who is there for the job and love of a family.

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      • Joey Williams   May 31, 2015 at 3:50 am

        Any comment expressed in this article should be viewed as that an opinion not fact save the criticism Roswell especially if you would never call another something other than their name face to face act like the man you claim to be and express yourself accordingly. Instead of criticizing her for excepting praise on a holiday why not appreciate the fact that her children are not amongst the thousands of our children that never get adopted no she isn’t a man but if she gets the accolades then she should feel blessed to be thought of that way that day and any other

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        • Tlynnsmith   May 31, 2015 at 5:46 am

          Tina is clueless…or she, like many others, can’t read. NOWHERE does it say single mothers should not be appreciated for their labor of love in caring for their children. However, they aren’t fathers, and for them to claim to be the “missing” as well as the present is an insult to fathers who AREN’T missing and who ARE doing what they’ve been called to do. My mother was a single mom, for a long time. While I appreciate her love and care…and struggle, she was not my father. She’ll even tell you that. So, opinions are like noses, and should be taken for what they’re worth. But gettin’ all bent out of shape because somebody spoke truth is suspect.

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    • Devin   May 31, 2015 at 6:09 am

      You’re still not a father. I was raised by a fantastic single mother. We poor with many friends that went to prison. Each of three sons graduated college and raised families. She is a FANTASTIC MOTHER. She never asked or expected anything on Father’s Day.

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    • Baylen Jamal   May 31, 2015 at 7:38 am

      You still aren’t a father… you are doing what you are supposed to do as a mother.

      Yes im a single father raising a 4 year old daughter “with a disability ” no help from her mom .

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  259. James   May 30, 2015 at 8:45 pm

    This is stupid and offensive. I’m so proud of the fathers that deserve to be praised on this day. My father left my mom, brother and I on the side of a freeway. That’s not a father. My mother taught me how to throw a football, bat in baseball, shave, knot a tie correctly and be a well rounded guy. Likewise, if a single father is praised on Mother’s Day. Round of applause for you single parents! Cheers to all parents being praised on either day with their children deciding how they should observe that day. I happily celebrate Mother’s and Father’s Day in dedication to my mother’s hard work because she deserves it. It’s the least I can do to make her happy by showing that I’ve recognized her hard work.

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  260. single mommy   May 30, 2015 at 8:20 pm

    So then…why do men feel as if they are entitled to celebrate playing the role as a mommy on Mother’s Day??? So why in this article it isn’t VERY CLEARLY stated that single fathers should not celebrate “being the mom” on Mother’s Day? Kinda hypocritical and one sided…..don’t ya think?

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  261. erycka   May 30, 2015 at 6:38 pm

    Thank you for this, I’ve been perplexed by the shift in perceptions that Father’s Day is for women, if this were the truth, and mothers and fathers were interchangeable, then why have words with significant meanings? Simply put why call me a mother when you could just call me tiger.

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  262. monique   May 30, 2015 at 5:54 pm

    I agree with this

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  263. Renee Farry Corkran   May 30, 2015 at 5:43 pm

    I agree completely, though I believe the same can be said for father’s who are also mother/father to their kids who feel they should be recognized for both holidays as well. It is a daunting task to be a single mom or dad but enough already. Enjoy the holiday that is yours whether u are a mother or father. If u r kids wish to recognize u on the other day then that is their business but don’t demand it from society.

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  264. Evie   May 30, 2015 at 5:31 pm

    Whoever wrote that article, isn’t a parent or isn’t raising children on her own. Walk in my shoes first, then tell me I shouldn’t be honored. Until then, write about things you know about.

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    • Derrick C.   May 30, 2015 at 6:24 pm

      You are honored. On MOTHER’S DAY. I’m sorry, but if you’re a female, you ARE NOT A Father. Get over yourself.

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  265. Chad J   May 30, 2015 at 4:13 pm

    Although I agree with overall point this post is making, a mother being honored on father’s day is completely unwarranted, but when someone says something like “it is impossible for a a woman to teach a boy how to be a man” or “the role of the father is not one that can be filled by a woman”…why is that so? What does that actually mean? Does a man have some sort of secret access to knowledge about life that women are unaware of or can’t access? I mean raising a decent human being that knows right from wrong, knows when to step and accept responsibility, has good morals & good intentions isn’t impossible for a single parent to do (male or female). Those statements basically say no woman has ever raised a man, because she cant, she’s simply incapable of it. Of course it’s not done single-handedly, there are icons and role models, and other male figures throughout a child’s life that may inspire the boy, but at the end of the day, it’s that boy’s mother thats there every day, thats making sure he’s fed, making sure theres a roof over his head, making sure all his needs are met and fulfilled, year after year…even gave him “the talk” although it was pretty awkward lol…but I guess she is just simply being a mother huh? I know, right. Throughout all this, this boy is growing, this boy is seeing what his mother is doing and going through, this boy has had conversations about his future goals/life plans, this boy is being inspired, this boy now knows what he wants to do with his life. Who gets the credit? Kobe? Obama? Coach Jones from junior high days? Wanted to be the next Kobe, wasnt good enough, wanted to be next president, guess thats still in the air lol, Coach just liked me because I was kinda fast at the time lol, but why can’t my mom get this credit? After all, she raised me, she’s never asked me once to celebrate her on father’s day, and it’s never crossed my mind of doing so, but why can’t she raise a man? K.Michelle was wrong lol, My mom did it…or am i not man yet? Guess I will never be because woman are apparently incapable of it.

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  266. Tlynnsmith   May 30, 2015 at 4:10 pm

    I completely agree with the author. Common sense is not common. If God, in His infinite wisdom, decided a man and a woman were needed for conception (the fun, easy part), why would only one be needed for the hard part…raising children to adulthood. A woman can never be a father…she can be a darn good mother, and it ends at that. That’s why single moms are encouraged to have male mentors for their sons. Men and women bring different strengths/energy, and when they’re both operating in their strengths, balance is the result. Boys need fathers to teach them how to be men, and girls need fathers to teach them how they should be treated by men. The wife/husband relationship teaches children about commitment and the importance of family. For those mothers who held it down, without a father in the home, good for you. You get my vote. But the whole concept of “I can do it alone”, which seems to be prevalent in the African-American community needs to stop. We complain about men not being around, but communicate in some very clear ways that they aren’t really needed. We can be both moms and dads. This foolishness needs to stop.

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  267. Hunter   May 30, 2015 at 4:02 pm

    I agree with this. Though I have the advantage of being a male who has never truly had a mother or father in his life. I understand the reason why single mothers want this honor, but it’s simply not yours to take. In the great words of Maury: “You are NOT the father.”

    I made a vow to be a better father than the man who called himself my father. That worthless sack of flesh is somewhere in Ohio preaching the word of God…..but how can this pathetic man teach his ramblings and call himself a good man. I know I’m getting off subject but here’s why.

    My hatred for that man fueled a love for my unborn children! I’m already a great father and I’m not a father yet. My personal oath to my future offspring is as follows: I will not abandon you. I will never misguide you. But I am not a perfect man. I will continue to screw up and make mistakes. But I vow to keep you from making them. I vow to lead you towards perfection. I am your father. You are my responsibility. Not my job. I love you.

    So! As a future father. I am saying, it’s awesome that you are a strong woman. But you can never be someone like me. You can’t be a father. But you can be a lioness! Be the best mother and parent you can be.

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  268. Mchelle   May 30, 2015 at 3:13 pm

    I started celebrating Father’s Day many years ago. I was a single parent the whole way through and became whatever my child needed me to be, since his father was not a part of his life. I was the best father he had! You are entitled to your opinion, as am I. I will continue to be a mother who celebrates Father’s Day.

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  269. Corey J   May 30, 2015 at 2:44 pm

    yo

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  270. Phyllis Whitt   May 30, 2015 at 2:20 pm

    Although, I agree with many points. I know mothers and children that would disagree. For same gender parents. In most cases there is a feminine roll and a masculine roll. Either way 2 mothers or 2 fathers. Representation of one parent will not be honored. Just Parents Day should be good enough. Not fathers or mothers. Whom ever is fulfilling the parts of either group. Or the one person defining both roles. That’s the way I see it. So Happy Parent/Parents Day. It works for me.

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  271. Voy Cooks   May 30, 2015 at 1:43 pm

    Despite what some single mothers think, it is impossible for a woman to teach a boy how to be a man. It simply is not in her DNA any more than a man can teach a girl how to become a woman. In thaty vein a woman cannot be a father and a man cannot be a mother. I applaud those single parents who do the job of both parents but Mother’s Day is for women and Father’s Day is for men.

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  272. The kid   May 30, 2015 at 1:40 pm

    So many of the “single moms” often use men for their money and/or time to provide for their children so what’s the point of celebrating mothers for father’s day. Either way, directly or indirectly there is a man providing for someone’s child.

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  273. Mynya   May 30, 2015 at 1:08 pm

    Kyla grow up! This article is on point. Period.

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  274. Kyla   May 30, 2015 at 12:49 pm

    In my my life i play the role of mom and dad, w/o any type of real support so yes i consider myself a mother n a father even thou im not a man i am doing my best to raise my son to be a man since theres no real man out here that know how to support the children they make cuz child support is not being a father, calling n never visiting is not being a father, and being involved in a childs life hoping to save a relationship thats been lost…………..Makes u a dead bet father not a father

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  275. GUS-SMILEZ   May 30, 2015 at 12:30 pm

    I think if U are a mother. Be a mother and if U are a father be a father. The lines dont have to criss-cross. Its unfournate that some mothers as well as fathers have to be a single parent; but I could never see me telling a daughter that I’m your mama too because her mom isn’t around. Society is trying to devalue the roles of mother and father because they want us to accept an understanding that leaves GOD out of the picture.

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  276. Gwen Johnson-Brown   May 30, 2015 at 11:03 am

    But how many posts did I see on Mother’s Day with men trying to co-op? A hella lot! It goes both ways!

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  277. Casey Lamont Addison Sr.   May 30, 2015 at 6:31 am

    AMENNNNNNNN facebook is loaded with this mess just watch, yes you do it alone boo, so much respect to you, but it’s not your day!!

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  278. Larry   May 29, 2015 at 5:38 pm

    stop picking lame guys and then expecting the rest of the world to feel sorry for you when he does what all lame guys do. Then you wouldn’t have to go around tooting your own horn about being a mother and a father. No matter how hard you try you can and will NEVER replace what a father could. But, if giving yourself credit and espousing your bitterness aloud for the world to hear makes you sleep better at night. Proceed. You’ll probably be celebrating your Father’s Day pity party by yourself.

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    • MrsRRA1   June 1, 2015 at 9:09 am

      Thank you Larry!! I’m tired of women complaining about “deadbeat dads” as if you didn’t know he was full of sh*t before you laid down with him! Geez. We women need to own up to our stuff for real. I was a single mom for many years before I met and married my husband. But even in those single mom days I knew I could not and would never be a DAD. Men and women bring very different perspectives and contributions to raising a child. My son absolutely needed a man (thank God for my husband) to truly raise him as a man. As great as a mom as I am, that is something I could not do.

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  279. Heather   May 29, 2015 at 9:19 am

    Just another commercial holiday that doesn’t deserve debate, period. Parents working hard to raise responsible adults deserve to be celebrated daily! Whether single, married or in a committed relationship. I think letting your parents know that they’re loved and respected shouldn’t be based on buying dinner in an overpriced, overcrowded restaurant.

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  280. lynn   May 29, 2015 at 8:45 am

    And what about gay couples? One of my best friends is gay and having a baby and I’ll be damned if she cannot celebrate fathers day bc of some bulls*** like this. A parent is a parent. They should be celebrated no matter what. We work hard and just because your female doesn’t mean you cannot be a father. Sorry. In this day and age it doesn’t work that way

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  281. penofhonor   May 29, 2015 at 6:25 am

    This unbelievably and fundamentally true. Our twisted and warped modern society thinks that by making these bold statements that change everything they will somehow further the cause of women or whatever other cause they are championing at the moment. However, more often than not, the opposite is actually true. Logical thought processes are rarely a part of these “campaigns.” They simply prey upon the emotions of their audience, and the result are horrendous conclusions that have little or no basis in reality.

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  282. J   May 29, 2015 at 4:58 am

    I TOTALLY agree with this article!!!

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  283. Namine   May 29, 2015 at 2:56 am

    No one would ever allow a single father celebrate Mother’s Day, so why should a single mother celebrate Father’s Day?
    Are they going to celebrate Grandparents Day if there are none?

    This is just people getting stupid and wanting more and more time in the limelight.

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  284. Her   May 28, 2015 at 8:10 pm

    I think that article is another crazy piece.. women that have to be both parents get the right to celebrate Father’s day . For all those men that fathered children which they might have walked out or abandoned there family has no right to stand up and take the place of father’s that are there and take care of there kids..

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    • Larry   May 29, 2015 at 5:43 pm

      And for the lazy, whore-ish mothers who knowingly have kids out of wedlock with men they know are triffling and spiteful mothers who purposely use their kids as pawns to get back at the fathers? Any feedback on them? Probably not. This is why society ignores hypocrites like you. #makebetterchoicesinmen

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  285. TG   May 28, 2015 at 7:17 pm

    Just another idiotic article. …women can and will celebrate it….and there’s nothing people can do about it

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    • Larry   May 29, 2015 at 5:40 pm

      I’m gonna guess you’ll probably be celebrating it by yourself.

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  286. Roxy Hayes   May 28, 2015 at 11:07 am

    Redundant, boring and missing key edits.
    Regarding the subject: clearly devoid of the understanding related to figurative speaking.

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    • Larry   May 29, 2015 at 5:45 pm

      Still waiting on you to validate your argument with examples.

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  287. anonymous   May 28, 2015 at 10:30 am

    You don’t get a holiday for being a whore, no matter your gender. If you had children because you are a whore, you should have to work on Christmas! It will be a fine example to the kids. Screw you and your hurt feelings.

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  288. Jennifer   May 28, 2015 at 7:29 am

    To each his own but don’t tell me happy father’s day. Last time I checked I was 100% woman.

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  289. Andrew Herns Jr   May 21, 2015 at 5:12 am

    Thanks you so very much

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  290. Dude   June 21, 2014 at 10:27 pm

    Priyanka clearly a moron who didn’t read the article properly. Screw you, Father’s Day is reserved for good fathers and Mother’s Day for good mothers.

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  291. Ray Campos   June 17, 2014 at 5:01 pm

    Thank you

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  292. AJ   June 17, 2014 at 3:03 am

    I don’t think I’ve ever read such ridiculous drivel in my entire life. I think I could write a short novel on the fallacies located in this article. I’m almost stunned at how ridiculous this is.

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    • Larry   May 29, 2015 at 5:48 pm

      So far I just hear opinion. Enlighten us with your infinite wisdom by just addressing two major fallacies.

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  293. Isabel   June 16, 2014 at 8:26 pm

    Love. It’s hard I’m not talking that away from a single mother. I am a mother to two girl ( one is my “stepdaughter” ) I refuse to call her that. I love her and no difference in love. After a she taught me what it meant to be a mother. Now… I saw so Many post of women bashing fathers. Society’s doesn’t value fathers and it’s a problem. Men have an uphill battle in court. The courts are bias. Many children will grow up thinking “dAd ” didn’t love me. But only see one side. Court us a scary place for a man. Our society needs to address these issues and women should allow father the opportunity to be fathers. Women shouldn’t call themselves “single mothers” when they’re not. If a man pays child support had visitation and loves his child you are teaching your child that the father is not valued. For the sime fact he didn’t want to be with u. I am a parent. I will do whatever it takes to see a smile on my daughters face. Because I am a parent not because I a mother or father.

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  294. Stephen   June 16, 2014 at 7:46 pm

    We need to remember that God made man and woman different. Each act and think differently and therefore interact differently with their children. Lauren was telling me about information she had received from a child development expert. It was stated that research shows that dads will play with their children in such a different way that it actually stimulates different areas of the brain. It not about what a dad teaches it’s about the style that he teaches in. In addition moms are apt (no offense intended) to tell a hurt child that they can give up when they get hurt doing something like riding a bike, while a dad will say get up and do it again. I know my dad did… thankfully. All I am trying to say is that being a father is the most important thing that a man will ever set out to do. Our society would try to downplay their importance in the home and we as men have let them. Children NEED A REAL DAD. Not just some man in their life. A dad to play, a dad to teach and a dad to protect. The best mother in the world can never truly replace the skill set and characteristics of a man, so men man up and be dad. It won’t be easy it might even cost you a dance or toenail polish on YOUR TOES but the benefit you children will receive will be everlasting. DADS CANT BE REPLACED SO IF YOU’RE A FATHER, STEP UP AND BE ONE. Father’s day is not about celebrating the deadbeat dad it’s about celebrating the men who take on the challenge of being a dad.Happy Father’s Day to you men of courage.
    -A Father Of One and One On The Way

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    • Kc   June 16, 2014 at 7:56 pm

      I am in somewhat of agreeance…except I know for myself I have that side of me that you described only in that of a Father. Like my parents said…they knew I would have a boy. That theory still doesn’t apply to all. The fact that some women/men are worth being praised on both Mothers and Fathers Day.

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  295. jim in texas   June 16, 2014 at 3:32 pm

    I saw these posts yesterday too, and my reaction was “I’m a single father. Do I get to post a don’t-forget-about-single-fathers-on-mothers-day meme next year?” (Don’t worry. I won’t be.)
    And didn’t men just get through being slapped down for the #notallmen hashtag in response to #yesallwomen tag along the lines of “this is not about men!” Seems turnaround ought to be fair play here…

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    • kyla   June 23, 2014 at 10:22 am

      You are not a single father if you take your kods every other weekend. If u live alone with your children most of the time that males you a single father buddy

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  296. Elaine   June 16, 2014 at 8:19 am

    Enough about the parents. What about the kids who have no fathers to celebrate with or have no mothers on mothers day? At my son school they have an annual baseball game for fathers day…and sometimes we see mothers standing out in that field taking place of the father FOR their child–not for themselves. Telling a child they are missing someone is not a message they want to enforce. Celebrating single parents on days meant for the opposite sex is an idea as comfort for parent and child. Why stomp all over that? It hurts no one.

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  297. Saressa Hawkins   June 16, 2014 at 7:29 am

    OMG!! First off no a woman cant be a Father!! As a product of a single parent home I know first hand that a Father is needed in the lives of their children. I am Sooo tired of single women crying about being single!! First off some of you will lay up, move him in and support these guys, fuss and fight over these guys and expect wat from them? He drives your car while your at work, spends your money. And flips your taxes? Girl you have a dependent. A man doesnt want your stuff he should have his own or be helping you build. Yall knew he was a deadbeat, if he cant take care of himself why in the World would you lay down with him and reproduce then get pissed when the situation occurs? You have to stop being bitter and acknowledge your own actions first. Stop denying the dads the right tp see their kids cuss you mad, or dont like his new girl its not abou you. If hes trying then let him. Because your quick to have your new boo around the kids but not their dads, but the new boo is from the same mold as the one you complaining about, so when you find yourself with múltiple baby daddies its all the guys fault? There are plenty of good great fantastic fathers / Men out there and they deserve to be respected and honored on their day.

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    • K   June 16, 2014 at 6:36 pm

      No one is crying about being single. Also, you have no right to judge other single Mother’s because apparently you know your Mother did a pathetic job at raising you alone and attempting to be your Mother & Father figure…and it CLEARLY shows. So sad. Don’t go blaming the rest of the world for that. Have a chat with your Mom 🙂

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      • Saressa Hawkins   June 17, 2014 at 4:14 pm

        Actually no she taught me not to make poor choices in men, and to stop the cycle of children being raised by broken individuals. I am over women crying about situations that they put themselves in all the “he’s a deadbeat and I have to do it all by myself”. No you settled for less, devalued yourself and now lets play the victim role. Nope no go. If he’s not good father material than close your legs, or protect yourself. My two kids have a great dad and there is no way I could ever replace or try to be that position. You don’t like your childrens father than have a talk with yourself because you choose him.;-)

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        • Larry   May 29, 2015 at 5:54 pm

          You can’t tell ’em nothing, Saressa. They just want to play victim for their own bad choices in men. They can only take credit for everything, but no constructive criticism. Women are super intuitive and they know right away when they are dealing with a man who ain’t about nothing. But, they think he will change because their vagina is golden. Good luck with that mentality. Not every mother is single because of triffling men. Some are single because they themselves are pathetic human beings full of self pity and bad choices. Everyone else should feel sorry for them because they wanted a baby soooooooo bad and CHOSE to have unprotected sex with a bum who was not their husband. Cry me a river.

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    • MrsRRA1   June 1, 2015 at 9:13 am

      Amen Saressa!!! Get it together ladies. Marriage, then kids…

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  298. Priyanka   June 16, 2014 at 7:08 am

    Wow — acknowledging a mother who takes on the role of a mother and fills in the gaps of an unavailable father has nothing to do with taking something away from wonderful fathers. To make such a statement only shows the reader that the writer has issues in his/her personal life with acknowledging a community’s effort in raising children. Father figures can also be appreciated on father’s day, male or female, just like a single biological mother. From my experience, single mother’s are truly touched when they are acknowledged on fathers day just as single father’s are on mother’s day. God bless single mother’s and single fathers who are single for various reasons — as the end of the day they made the choice to be there for their children’s in all the ways the child needs. Happy father’s day.

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  299. Lionel Foster   June 16, 2014 at 12:38 am

    I’m just gonna leave this here.

    https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=pYnZXzaYdcE

    I don’t need to say or explain it any further than this. So I won’t respond after the fact.

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    • Saressa Hawkins   June 17, 2014 at 4:17 pm

      I agree with what the man said! Ughh it makes me sick when I hear women say they are fathers or cry about who they decided to lay down with.

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  300. Common sense   June 15, 2014 at 11:33 pm

    Yes! Facebook has been driving me crazy with these statues. Father’s Day has NOTHING to do with single moms. Anyone who thinks differently is a moron.

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  301. Anonymous   June 15, 2014 at 9:07 pm

    This is the most DISGUSTING article I’ve ever read! How dare you say a single Mother doesn’t deserve to celebrate Mothers Day and Fathers Day?! My Son is 21 months old, does he get me any gifts, obviously not…but do I appreciate the gratitude I get from those who know my situation as being his Mother and his Father? Absolutely! I support my Son alone, I get no help from the government, no help from his Father/Ex-husband (abusive), and I ask for no help from anyone. I work 50+ hours a week to support him all alone…and, I’m only 27 years old, but yes I am very educated. I do the work of both roles as I am so capable to. I am soft and sympathetic, yet sturn and tough. I alone as his parent am better than I and his actual Father as dual parents to him. Who are you to dare say a single Mother such as myself not rightful to be celebrated on Father’s Day? There are many who very well disagree. Shame on you and your horrible mentality.

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  302. jeremiah   June 15, 2014 at 8:16 pm

    Unless the father of her child (children) died unexpectedly I have NO sympathy for single moms.

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    • Anonymous   June 15, 2014 at 9:51 pm

      And you MUST be a single Father, right?! Yeah, didn’t think so. Your opinion is not needed.

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    • Saressa Hawkins   June 17, 2014 at 5:50 pm

      Exactly I’m soo tired of the complaining they do!!! For crying out loud admit how many times you told him that he can’t see his kids, or how many times you told him that they weren’t his. Or how many times have you interuppted what time they do get to spend because his new girlfriend was there. The list goes on. For some strange reason they think having children by someone makes them rulers. How would you feel if someone said the things you say about their dads about you to the kids. And if he’s such a deadbeat what does that make yourself you laid down with him.

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      • A   June 17, 2014 at 8:08 pm

        1 – My child isn’t even 2 years old so don’t even try pulling the “putting down Dad card” 2 – Did it ever cross your mind that maybe after being married and having a child he became abusive to us both? Didn’t think so…may you burn in hell.

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        • Saressa Hawkins   June 18, 2014 at 9:04 am

          Wow burn in hell. Lmao first off were the punches and slaps just love taps before the baby came? The writtings are on the wall you just didn’t want to believe it. I’m tired of women and society putting down dads, and not once mentioning what crap the mothers of these children do. I see it everyday with my brothers who not only pay child support, but half the daycare, they have the kids on there medical insurance, they are there talking to the teachers and all they ever hear from the mothers is blah blah whine whine cry cry. So before you try an direct anyone to hell how about you learn to duck the fist coming at your face or grab you an ice pack.

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  303. Kaizer0X   June 15, 2014 at 6:55 pm

    I bet the same people that argue for single moms on Father’s Day won’t say a God Damn word for single Father’s on Mother’s Day. It’s not all about you ladies. Everyone gives all the credit in the world to mothers and single mothers. Dad are baby sitters. Well, news flash. My dad raised 3 boys ALL BY HIMSELF. And I’m a single dad myself. Give us a day to be acknowledged will ya? Better yet.. we should just get rid of both and just have a “PARENT DAY”. Will that make you all happy???

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    • Anonymous   June 15, 2014 at 9:11 pm

      Actually, you’re wrong…as any single Father who does the same as I do alone, I would most certainly compliment with a Happy Mother’s Day. Someone’s a bit butt-hurt I see.

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    • anonymous   May 28, 2015 at 6:12 pm

      Yes, single parent fathers deserve extra credit on Mother’s Day. I was raised by a single father, and I’ve been a single mother. There’s plenty of love and recognition to go around. Unlike single parent women, who are all too common, so no one cares or thinks about them, I’ve heard several single parent men wished a happy Mother’s Day.

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  304. emily   June 15, 2014 at 6:34 pm

    Mothers day is not for single moms either. They don’t get a “day off”, breakfast in bed, or a nice dinner. There is no counterpart to buy flowers or teach her children to appreciate her for everything she does. There’s also no “man” to fill the dad role in the family. So yes. In that sense she is the “man” of the house. How dare you 1. Judge her by the cards she’s been dealt. You don’t know her story; and 2. Criticize her when someone is thoughtful enough to give her a little recognition for stepping up to the plate and filling the role a “man” doesn’t have the stones to fill. For the record, mother’s day is also for single dads. I applaud them.

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    • Anonymous   June 15, 2014 at 9:13 pm

      Well said!

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    • anonymous   May 28, 2015 at 6:19 pm

      Thank you for your description of thankless child-rearing that all us “horrible” single mothers have to endure. It puts the counter-whine in perspective. Truth is, single mothers are too busy making ends meet to worry about taking a day to themselves.

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  305. Mitch   June 15, 2014 at 2:34 pm

    Stop giving women excuses. Women have abortions due to rape and incest less than 1% of the time, combined. Women also initiate almost 75% of divorces. More women are choosing to have a child out of wedlock to fulfill a dream, and almost all single mothers are as equally irresponsible as the men that impregnated them. Nice try, but you went way too easy on women.

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    • MaileAnne   June 15, 2014 at 4:38 pm

      I don’t like the generalizations you are putting on people! Are some woman like that? Sure! Are all woman like that? NO! So think twice the next time you try to generalize and throw everyone into the same category Mitch!

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      • Mitch   June 15, 2014 at 4:43 pm

        We can’t have any intelligent discussion if we dismiss every statement with “all people aren’t like (such and such).” I didn’t say all women, I gave a couple of statistics. We have to discuss generalizations to identify trends in our culture and of course there are exceptions to every rule. That line of thinking is exactly why Americans can’t debate rationally. They just point the finger at the person instead of the statements.

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        • MaileAnne   June 15, 2014 at 5:13 pm

          If in order for you to have “intelligent” discussion you have to drop your ethics than that is quite sad! Please know that you are insulting respectful women and their children.

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          • Mitch   June 15, 2014 at 7:00 pm

            There’s no substitute for a good father. There’s also no substitute for a good mother. The point is, fathers in our society are marginalized because women have made it very clear they don’t need a MAN.

          • Jasmin   June 15, 2014 at 7:54 pm

            Mitch.

            Your a good father Yes?

            Do You Change your Little ones Tires / Fix The Chains On Their Bikes?

            Teach Your Boys How To Pee Standing?

            Play Football in the park with them in the rain?

            Make Go Karts etc.. with them?

            Protect Your Children with all of your Might and strength…

            Support Your Children emotionally, financially and Physically.

            Attend School Meetings? Get Homework Handed in on time? Know your kids fave foods?

            Have the ”What are you intentions with my daughter” Talks?

            There To Pick Your Kids Up When they fall? Be there Forever Love?

            My Mum Does All of this !!! On Her Own..

            I Quote You Said ” Women also initiate almost 75% of divorces. More women are choosing to have a child out of wedlock to fulfill a dream, and almost all single mothers are as equally irresponsible as the men that impregnated them.

            Are you Serious?
            Im Not Sure that 75% of the women in The world Would Give up their Other Half’s And Decide To Go through life alone in a world full of nappy changing, Tantrums, Filling out forms, School Meetings, Erands, Puberty , Financial Struggle etc… Without good Cause!!!

            The Term ”Impregnate” Sounds like women are needed for nothing more than Breeding!!

            Are you one of the men who was let down by this 75% Of women who filed for divorce, can no longer see their child and you feel you deserve a fathers day more than a mother does??

            If Not , then are you a good Dad? If You Are, then i don’t think that your Wife /Partner /Children would let you spend fathers day debating about women not deserving to be recognized on fathers day.. Im Sure they have so much more in mind for a well deserved fathers day than what you had?

            2.20 Today, Myself my brothers and my mum were On Southend Beach spending fathers day with each other,

            YOU my good Father Spokesperson Anti Recognition to Single Mothers Were on Here Debating about Sweet Nothing!!

            This message isnt coming from the mouth of a mother, But the mouth of a daughter who recognises her mother hard work and Care!!

            And from the heart of a sister, who is around to see the love that her siblings receive from Their Mother being more than what the love fro a father has ever been!!

            This is 2014!!! Not the stone age..

            😉 Oh And Can i just wish all of you beautiful Mums out there doing a FANTASTIC job a Very Happy And well Deserved Fathers Day!!!

          • Nelson   June 16, 2014 at 12:45 am

            Well said Jasmin!
            – Nelson

    • Anonymous   June 15, 2014 at 9:19 pm

      You’ve forgotten one major point in your petty dispute…there IS a substitute for a BAD/ABSENT Mother or Father and that is what constitutes that parent the ability to celebrate Mothers or Fathers Day.

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  306. Barb   June 15, 2014 at 1:47 pm

    I agree with Nelson that a Mom or Dad can play the role of both parents and it really special when your children do recognize for both a wish you a Happy Father’s Day or Mother’s Day:)

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  307. Melissa   June 15, 2014 at 1:24 pm

    This was quite possibly the stupidest thing I have ever read.

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    • Anonymous   June 15, 2014 at 9:21 pm

      Agreed!

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  308. appreciative son   June 15, 2014 at 1:22 pm

    Just because it is the definition, does not mean that we aren’t allowed to honor our single parent. Everyone has different ideas/beliefs…so don’t throw your dictionary at anyone. Today has great significance and your dictionary has nothing to do with it. It seems to me that your article is biased for whatever reason you are having trouble with.

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    • Cherese Jackson   June 15, 2014 at 2:41 pm

      Thank you for your comment but I’m actually good, not having any trouble at all.

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  309. John Smith   June 15, 2014 at 1:17 pm

    Looks like the feminists have swarmed in already!

    They can’t understand that mothers day are for mothers, single, coupled, married, divorced, widowed or whatever. I don’t see this kind of rabid response from single fathers on mothers day…how telling that is.

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    • Cherese Jackson   June 15, 2014 at 2:42 pm

      John, I agree

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  310. Angie   June 15, 2014 at 12:22 pm

    Father day is for single moms when dead beat dads up and left or just don’t care and the mother has to do everything alone! Why should they be told happy fathers day too

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    • Anonymous   June 15, 2014 at 9:28 pm

      Incorrect, the fact is that most Men aren’t as vocal about it.

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  311. Michael Smith   June 15, 2014 at 11:55 am

    Cherese, I loved your article. Not because I am a dad, but because I am a father who loves his kids, although they are all grown up now. Certainly there is a long list of dads who were not there for their children and it seems that the detractors to the point you’ve made have forgotten that this holiday is to honor those who stuck around and tried to make sure his kids knew that they were loved. Great article. 🙂

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    • Cherese Jackson   June 15, 2014 at 2:44 pm

      Thank you Mike!!! I hope you are having a marvelous Father’s Day

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  312. Nelson   June 15, 2014 at 11:15 am

    The person who wrote this obviously has no regard for the intentions of why people chose to recognize their mother as a father figure. If the author spends so much time harping on the true meaning of this day or the history at that… Then why doesn’t he/she spend time on criticizing all the other holidays as well. What’s the true meaning of Christmas? Why do we celebrate a fat white man who dresses in red? What are we really really celebrating when it comes to thanksgiving? 4th of July? Columbus Day? And so on. Feel free to share your opinion, but when it comes down to it… People who recognize their mother on Father’s Day, are people who’ve recognized their mom as an individual who had to make up for what a Father didn’t do regardless of why the father wasn’t in the child’s life. In my case, my pops died when I was four…. My mom not only supported my sister and I, but she made me MAN I am today. Under popular belief, people believe that’s a fathers role. I’m here to tell you that a mother can play the role of both parents and I just want to wish my MOTHER a HAPPY FATHER’s DAY! I’m sure my dad is looking down from heaven and would be happy to see that we are recognizing my MA on this day! – Nelson

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  313. jediwzrd   June 15, 2014 at 11:04 am

    One of the most ignorant blog posts I have ever read. Happy Fathers Day moms!

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  314. Lori   June 15, 2014 at 11:01 am

    I think your time might be better spent encouraging absentee fathers to step up rather than harping on people who want to celebrate Father’s Day as Single Mothers Day. I don’t think the term “father” means that you have a penis between your legs. Time spent with children loving, raising them and teaching them how to be responsible adults is what makes a father or a mother. Step fathers aren’t the biological fathers either yet we celebrate them as well. Did you take the time to post a 10 paragraph article all about irresponsible absentee dads? I’m speaking of the dads who choose not to see their children and who choose not to pay child support.

    There are women like me who have been the only provider and only parent from early on, not because I left my daughters dad but because he wanted to cheat on his family after 6 years. I have literally begged my ex to visit his daughter and I tried to seek an agreement without going to court. My low life ex just bought a condo and vacations in Mexico every year but can’t manage to pay child support. I will be the one who teaches my baby girl right from wrong, I’m the one up all night when shes sick and I’m the one who goes without so I can give my daughter what she needs. With that said…I will call Fathers Day any damn thing I want and you know why? Because some fathers don’t deserve the recognition and the ones that do don’t give a crap what others call fathers Day, those dads are too busy spending time with their kids.

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  315. Jazzcat   June 15, 2014 at 10:51 am

    No amount of back-patting or ridiculous justifications, such as “my child calls me father”, will change the fact that a mother can ONLY be a mother. She can be a good mother or a bad mother…but she cannot be any type of father.

    As for the people claiming their ‘mothers’ as ‘fathers’…no amount of rationalizing or anecdotal examples of how hard your mother worked will change the reality that your mother WAS NOT your father. It’s time to grow up.

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    • Cherese Jackson   June 15, 2014 at 11:02 am

      Bravo! It may not be popular but it is what it is.

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    • Anonymous   June 15, 2014 at 9:43 pm

      You are as unintelligent at the writer of this article lol. May God HELP you!

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      • Father   June 19, 2014 at 2:27 pm

        How are they unintelligent because they are saying the truth. Single mom’s are some of the strong people i have meet taking on such a tough job but you are not a father just a super mom. Mom’s will never know exactly how a boy is suppose to be, yeah okay you do guy things with him it’s not the same thing. And like she said in the article what about single parents day? Is mother’s day and single parent’s day not enough where you have to actually take a day from father’s who are in their kids lives because that’s what the day is for unless you grow a penis and start thinking like a guy you won’t be a father just a really great mom which should be enough.

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  316. J   June 15, 2014 at 10:24 am

    Clark, you are so right , I did not intend to celebrate today for myself I wish my childrens father would be a father so I wouldn’t have to try and mend their hurt feelings and broken hearts. And in conclusion my 12yr old came to me this morning gave me the biggest hug and said “Happy Father’s Day Mom!” Nothing in the world could make me tell him not to do this that today is not for me! So Happy Father’s Day to ALL Fathers male and female,

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  317. Future   June 15, 2014 at 10:11 am

    It’s obvious you were raised with your father in the household. This blog post is about as ignorant as it can get. The only reason a woman can’t be celebrate d on father’s day is because she doesn’t have a penis between her legs. My mom raised all 5 kids on her own. She was the person who taught my two brothers how to be a man, not my father. What is it that a man can teach, that a woman can’t. She taught us how to drive a car, change a tire, and fix many things around the house. She showed us how to be the bread winner of the household. When my heart was first broken I ran to Mommy. Moms who have husband to help raise their children have the help from a man, but my mom had to do double the work so she gets double the celebration!

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  318. Alex   June 15, 2014 at 9:54 am

    I find this very black and white. I get it tho, the logistics are clear, males are fathers and females are mothers. But what if on Father’s Day people wish to celebrate the role of father rather than their actual physical father? When it all comes down to it (father/mother) are roles that need to be filled and if a single mother takes on the challenge than she deserves the two days of praise. I don’t understand why that would be such a problem? Yes she’s not male, but she is the bread winner, the protector, and the whip. That is what I celebrate on Father’s Day.

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  319. MaileAnne   June 15, 2014 at 9:45 am

    Oh this angered! Just because somebody fathers a child does not make them some powerful Majestical being! My mom worked her butt off and was still the most nurturing woman at the end of the day! I was raised without my dad in the picture. And guess what? Looking back it was definitely better that he had no influence on my life. I am actually quite lucky that my mom was my only parental impact. My mom is the best dad I know!! Happy so Happy Father’s Day to all try strong single moms out there!!!!

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  320. Noemi   June 15, 2014 at 9:04 am

    BRAVO!

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  321. Noemi   June 15, 2014 at 9:02 am

    BRAVO to.M! I too never post comments but I am fuming about this one!
    If my five year old wants to call me her daddy as well as her mommy then so be it!
    This little girl is my EVERYTHING and I will PROUDLY be her MOMMY AND DADDY.
    SO HAPPY FATHER’S DAY TO ALL THE WONDERFUL MOTHERS THAT ARE FATHERS AS WELL!

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  322. Jennie   June 15, 2014 at 8:46 am

    I couldn’t agree more Clark!

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  323. M   June 15, 2014 at 8:42 am

    I never post on blogs but yours annoyed me so much I could not resist.

    My mother is my father. Some people have fathers that are also their mothers. I cannot stand stupid comments like “no one will love you like your father” and all that crap from people who have always had their daddy and have no idea what its like to have a single mom who have had to sacrifice everything because “dad” wants nothing to do with his child.

    MY MOTHER IS MY FATHER.
    Recognizing this does not devalue those fathers who are there for their child.

    Now why don’t you go write blogs about something useful that informs society of something that actually matters.

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    • Cherese Jackson   June 15, 2014 at 8:52 am

      Thanks for your comment and for sharing your opinion. Agreeing to disagree keeps the world colorful.

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  324. Clark   June 15, 2014 at 8:32 am

    Despite your dispute, it is not the mother’s who choose to celebrate father’s day, but the children themselves. It is THEIR way of showing appreciation for having to take on both roles. Single moms don’t take away anything from deserving fathers. So deal with it.

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